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Comments on all articles by Dane Tyner (388)     Dane Tyner  I'm no Hypocrite Comment by Teresa Ortiz (5,015)    Teresa Ortiz   (9 days 13 hours ago.) Dane, good to hear from you! This is a wonderful article. I do hope many who use this phrase to easily, will read and reconsider their thinking. I have taught this to my children and others in Bible study. And have used it as an example for myself. Constantly asking what is my motive? Thanks for the clarity on the meaning. Lord bless you and your family! Teresa
Comment by Dane Tyner (388) Dane Tyner (8 days 3 hours ago.)Thank you, Teresa. I do think this is a terribly abused word in our day. May the Lord overtake you with His blessings as you walk in His way!
When Your Past is Present Anonymous: (58 days ago.) If only we would slow down long enough to evaluate our pain before we launch into another relationship or situation that will ultimately lead us right back to the same spot -- if we don't learn a different response. Great advise - Comment by Dane Tyner (388) Dane Tyner (57 days 23 hours ago.)Thank you for reading and commenting. There is, indeed, too much of the "launcing into new relationships" as a remedy for pain from former ones. God bless you. Be The Dad You Wish You Had Teresa: (76 days 18 hours ago.) Your words mean a lot--thanks so much dear sister! Anonymous: (76 days 22 hours ago.) Avis, is anonymous above. Comment by Teresa Ortiz (5,015) Teresa Ortiz (77 days 14 hours ago.)Dane, I could so relate. I wrote a little about my relationship with my dad, though left out the muck. I appreciate a man;s perspective. My husband experienced what you did, though his dad still lives and not once has he ever called us or even been to our home. But God in His grace, gave Art the opportunity to be different. The process is long and hard, but worth it! Because my husband was willing to humble himself before the Lord, he has been able to be an amazing father. My kids adore their father and I am blessed by the relationship he has with them. With both us us having no example of what an earthly father should be like, we came out alright because of our Heavenly Father. (Though far-far from perfect). Thank you for sharing your heart and experience and I do pray that many men will take your advice and allow God to break the cycle. God bless you!! Teresa Comment by Dane Tyner (388) Dane Tyner (77 days 13 hours ago.)Thank you very much, Teresa. What an "amen"! There is a word in the prophet Malachi about God "turning the hearts of the fathers to the children and the hearts of the children to the fathers", which I believe is sorely needed in our day. I am believing that God will use this piece to speak encouragement to at least a few men who need it. I'm glad that you and Art have found God's provision and embraced it. Good fruit is produced whenever we do. Thanks for sharing your testimony with us. God bless you and your home! Anonymous: (76 days 22 hours ago.) Teresa, you and I know every family is blessed but when a Mom and Dad puts Christ at the head of that family, many more blessings are realized. "Though far-far from perfect" is so true but as a child, I think we do believe our parents are perfect. Well, I did. You and your husband will be rewarded for setting Christ-like examples for them. Happy Father's Day to their Dad! Comment by Avis Ward (8,717)  Avis Ward (77 days 18 hours ago.)You are very welcome, Dane. I just love who and how you gave credit to where it is due! Blessings will continue to overtake you because you pass them on. Comment by Avis Ward (8,717) Avis Ward (77 days 21 hours ago.)Dane, you wrote from personal experience to support the title of your article. Your relationship with God and love for your children is what helped you to be the Dad you wish you had. Moving, touching and of great benefit to other Dad's. Thank you for sharing. Blessings and enjoy a lovely weekend! Dane Tyner from Tulsa, OK: (77 days 20 hours ago.) Thank you very much, Avis. I have been blessed INCREDIBLY! To God be the glory, great things He has done! Thanks for reading and offering your encouraging words. Why Rsvp Me? Comment by Susan Thom (8,330)  Susan Thom (87 days 15 hours ago.) h dane, what a good subject to address. my problem is to not throw out an invitation i got 3-5 weeks in advance! i just did so recently, and had to call my brother and ask when and what time the picnic was to be. thanks for sharing etiquette and good taste, best regards, sue thom Comment by Dane Tyner (388) Dane Tyner (87 days 12 hours ago.)Hi Susan, Thanks for reading. It sure can be challenging to remember to follow through with our good intentions. Be blessed. Dane Decision Making 101 Comment by Sandra E. Graham (1,382)   Sandra E. Graham (127 days 23 hours ago.)Nice article, Dane. I often think about something I once heard about the person who thought to change his fate by taking a different road than he originally intended; only to find that that was fate's intent. Great article and some very good questions to consider, also. Sandra Comment by Dane Tyner (388) Dane Tyner (127 days 19 hours ago.)Hi Sandra, Your comment makes me think of Ecclesiastes 11:6. There the writer speaks of different options which are apparently both good and right. Then he says, ". . . for you do not know which [activity] will succeed, whether this or that, or whether both will do equally well." We CAN overthink the choices before us, just as we can choose without due consideration. May God grant us balance in this. Thanks for your kind comments. If You Really Want To Help Adam from California: (133 days 13 hours ago.) Good article. I think I know what you're referring to with the liver example. :) Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by April Lorier (4,522)  April Lorier (134 days 19 hours ago.)Dane, the reason "Let me know if I can do anything for you" is ineffective is (1) It puts the burden on the one needing help to do the reaching out + the "favor asking". (2) It feels too much like "We'll have to do lunch sometime" which we all know is insincere. I've noticed in the area where I live that the Jehovah's Witnesses movement is growing by leaps and bounds. And the reason is, they are mowing people's lawns, cutting their shrubs, taking them to doctor's appointments, knocking on the door with food in hand. They are putting "Christians" to shame! I just cringe. When I had breast cancer and was bed bound for 2 months, I had friends that came over several times a day, put me in the shower, changed my sheets, washed my dishes, mopped my floors, and fixed me 3 meals a day. Boy, you sure find out who your TRUE friends are when you are totally helpless! ' Thank you so much for reminding us what New Testament Christians did! You did a great job! Response from Dane Tyner (388) Beckie from IL: (134 days 23 hours ago.) When I almost delivered my daughter early, I had people jump in and take my children, bring meals, do my laundry, bathe my kids and put them to bed. Like you said, I would NEVER had asked for this, but took the people up on their offers. Good practical article. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Sandra E. Graham (1,382) Sandra E. Graham (135 days 16 hours ago.)Wonderful article. Great ideas, Dane. I guess we have all, at one time or another, used those same phrases. But, and I know I haven't, not many of us think to just offer to do something special. Some truly helpful notions you have listed. SEG Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Teresa Ortiz (5,015) Teresa Ortiz (135 days 18 hours ago.)Hi Dane, thank you for sharing your story and giving us this practical advice. It makes perfect sense. I have been guilty of the "Call me if you need anything" thing. It's so true, I don't remember anyone calling me. But the times when I asked if I could do this or that, they always responded with "that would be great". thanks for the reminder I will get back to offering specifics next time I see a need. God bless! Teresa Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Creative Blogger (5,220)   Creative Blogger (135 days 20 hours ago.)Very well written and yes I agree the offer should be followed up with a 'real offer' to ensure your friends etc know you are sincere. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by James P Krehbiel (1,391)  James P Krehbiel (136 days 19 hours ago.)Dane, This is an excellent and very practical article. Thanks for sharing your insights. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Keeping Love Alive Comment by Creative Blogger (5,220) Creative Blogger (146 days 2 hours ago.)Hi Dane, great article and very valid points, but a part of me also thinks that those couples not talking are perhaps the couples who never really talked much to begin with. We have relationships, not just romantic ones, but friendships too with many people for many reasons and the bond that ties us may not be about what we have in common or what we talk about. Certainly I have friends for whom there are awakward silences and others where we fight to get a word in. Yet I value both friendships equally as they have different merits. Perhaps loyalty, kindness, trust. In terms of romantic love, the man who stops helping a woman with her bags is one who never intended to do so in the beginning. He just lulled her into a false pretense, and act of chilvary where non existed. The attractive qualities that can help to sustain relationships are not lost, but they can be fabricated when courting. This is my feeling. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Why Sex Isn't Safe Comment by Hannah Quinn (21,053)   Hannah Quinn (152 days 6 hours ago.) Dane, With all the survival problems worldwide, I'm quite sure God is less than bothered by the sexual activities of American youth. Health problems are widespread, oftentimes self-inflicted, and are caused by many things, not just sex. I'd be interested to hear the religious side come out as strongly against smoking, drinking, obesity, lack of exercise and drugs as they do about sex. As your story portrays, even a young woman who remained celibate until marriage can contract an std. I'm very sorry for her, because her problems are more than the std alone, but what type of article would you write about, or sermon or lesson would you give if she had come to you with a self-inflicted disease, say Diabetes 2, which has nothing to do with sexual activity? I am genuinely interested. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Mr. Keith (1,975)  Mr. Keith (152 days 13 hours ago.)I am so tired of people telling me what God is thinking or has said. I am glad you wrote the article though, it was fairly enjoyable and very well written. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Susan Thom (8,330) Susan Thom (154 days 21 hours ago.)hi dane, with a 17, 20, and 22 year old, the idea of sexually transmitted diseases is only one, but a big one, of the reasons i fall off to sleep around 3 a.m. every morning! kids DO NOT listen. i have had the talk, i have shared my own experiences from the 70's and 80's, and still, they will do as they like when mom isn't around. i personally don't ever want my babies to have sex :), but i'd rather them take precautions if they are going to, than not. i also do not believe in any way, shape, or form, that sex is anything God is worrying about in this day and age of masacres happening to our boys and girls in their 20's. i don't like it, but God's love, to me, is much stronger than abolishing one because they had sex, at any age. i am merely afraid of the physical ramifications, as well as the psychological. i will find out when i pass how wrong or right i am, and am willing to wait to find out, as i don't agree with sex in young people, but i don't stop loving them and dealing with them in a loving way if they do. i don't believe God, as our Father, does either. thank you for a well written article, best regards, sue thom Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Lorrie Davids (5,276)  Lorrie Davids (157 days 18 hours ago.)Dane, this is good information presented well. I am afraid of what this world has become for our kids and grandkids. Sex has become an expected part of dating and the price that is being paid for a few minutes of pleasure is lifechanging. I hope many do print out your article and talk about it with their kids. Response from Dane Tyner (388) When Your Past is Present Comment by Stephany Springer (13,527)  Stephany Springer (158 days 13 hours ago.) Dane, great article! I hope people will take what you say to heart when dealing with painful situations. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Lorrie Davids (5,276) Lorrie Davids (160 days 13 hours ago.)Thanks, Dane for a good presentation. I have heard frequently the phrase 'hurt people hurt people' and agree. Someone who isn't hurting won't be so likely to hurt others. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Danny Davids (13,481)  Danny Davids (161 days 12 hours ago.)Unfortunately, Dane, because your solution isn't a quick fix, or can't be taken in a pill, then it's not going to be a popular option. But don't let that stop you from delivering your message of hope. Living life isn't a spectator sport. It takes WORK to make things happen. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Teresa Ortiz (5,015) Teresa Ortiz (161 days 13 hours ago.)Amen and Amen! It can be a tough process, but when we seek the unconditional love and counsel of God, we can be free from our past. And more importantly, we can be of help to others who are where we once were. I praise my Great God and Savior, Jesus Christ. Blessings to you, Teresa Response from Dane Tyner (388) What is Good About Good Friday? Anonymous: (161 days 15 hours ago.)  Great message. When Your Past is Present Comment by Creative Blogger (5,220) Creative Blogger (164 days 2 hours ago.)Excellent article Dane, this is my favourite quote ever: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference." I also enjoy very much the 'footsteps in the sand' prayer/saying. I agree with your article 100%. We can very much in time change how we feel and view the past. We can learn to see where we contributed to the problems or if that is not the case at least a lesson can be learned and useful advice passed to others experiencing similar things now. We can also learn the power of forgiveness. Great stuff. Response from Dane Tyner (388) What is Good About Good Friday? Comment by Susan Thom (8,330) Susan Thom (164 days 19 hours ago.)hi dane, very well written and interesting article. easter always bring up so many questions among people. i like watching jesus of nazareth and jesus christ superstar, and i cry and cry at the end. but i am reminded of so much i forget throughout the year, and through turmoil and grief. however, i am quite aware of God in my life, He is my best friend. thanks for a good article, best regards, sue thom When Your Past is Present Comment by Robert Melaccio, Sr. (4,457)  Robert Melaccio, Sr. (164 days 19 hours ago.)Excellent article we all should consider and implement in our daily lives. What is Good About Good Friday? Comment by Teresa Ortiz (5,015) Teresa Ortiz (165 days 4 hours ago.)Hi Dane, Amen. See you at the finish line, or in the air :-) Looking for the blessed hope of God our Savior... Can't wait. Little Boys Cry Comment by Robert Melaccio, Sr. (4,457) Robert Melaccio, Sr. (165 days 18 hours ago.)I found it a very good article but I am not as much in agreement concerning help or at laset as I understood you. Our personal experiences have just not seen that aspect and believe me we have looked or as you say, demanded. Yet, I enjoy your aricles. Response from Dane Tyner (388) What is Good About Good Friday? Comment by Lorrie Davids (5,276) Lorrie Davids (165 days 18 hours ago.)Well written article, Dane. Thanks for sharing your heart with all of us. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Teresa Ortiz (5,015) Teresa Ortiz (166 days 2 hours ago.)Hi Dane, excellent job! I love how you point out the Banabas is a picture of all sinners. Hadn't thought that one through. But it fits. I am reminded of Hebrews 12:1-2 God bless you and your ministry. Teresa Response from Dane Tyner (388) A Spiritual-life Inventory in Seven Questions Comment by Robert Melaccio, Sr. (4,457) Robert Melaccio, Sr. (166 days 16 hours ago.)I thought it was a thought provoking article. Perhaps a little more intro would have helped ease the reader into it? Response from Dane Tyner (388) Discovering Self-Worth Comment by Miriam Ber (72) (166 days 22 hours ago.) can you actually prove that there is a "God"? Response from Dane Tyner (388) From a Prince to a Frog Comment by Creative Blogger (5,220) Creative Blogger (167 days 5 hours ago.)That's a very clever use of the words prince and frog Dane. It inspired me to read more. I will be honest with you, I am not a religious person, but I do believe in God, so despite our differences I can relate to what you say here and know exactly where you are coming from. A very well written article that will no doubt inspire others to read more on this topic. I like the transformation angle. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Keeping Score in Relationships Comment by Creative Blogger (5,220) Creative Blogger (167 days 6 hours ago.)Hi Dane You are correct of course, people do keep score, especially with regards to gift giving! I'm not so sure we all keep score re being treated badly though. I myself just avoid people who treat me badly rather than stooping to their level. But hey it'd be a rotten world if we were all the same! Good article. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Suceeding in Money Management at Home Comment by Susan Thom (8,330) Susan Thom (168 days 22 hours ago.)hi dane, this past year i was confronted with a financial fall, and i learned i had been spending too much on the wrong things. this next year, will be different than any before. sometimes, we are made to be humble to learn humility. alright already, i got it. thank you for sharing, best regards, sue thom Little Boys Cry sue thom from nj: (169 days 1 hour ago.) hi dane, yes, they do, and they are also told not to cry. however, when we grow up and keep everything in, and get auto immune diseases, and depression, etc., we wonder why? my best, sue Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Susan Thom (8,330) Susan Thom (169 days 13 hours ago.)hi dane, a very well written, interesting article that i can relate to. i enjoyed reading . thank you for sharing, best regards, sue thom Response from Dane Tyner (388) Keeping Score in Relationships Comment by Leo Ponder (309)  Leo Ponder (170 days 9 hours ago.)Thanks Dane People like me need all the help we can get Thanks again Response from Dane Tyner (388) A Spiritual-life Inventory in Seven Questions Comment by Susan Thom (8,330) Susan Thom (170 days 20 hours ago.)hi dane, nicely written article. i would have liked to have read more. very interesting questions, and thought provoking. thank you for sharing, best regards, sue thom Response from Dane Tyner (388) From a Prince to a Frog Comment by Susan Thom (8,330) Susan Thom (170 days 21 hours ago.)hi dane, very well written, interesting article. faith can do wonders for our lives, especially when it goes terribly wrong, either by our own hands, or at the hands of others. nice, thought provoking article. best regards, sue thom Response from Dane Tyner (388) Keeping Score in Relationships Comment by Susan Thom (8,330) Susan Thom (170 days 21 hours ago.)hi dane, very nice, well written, interesting article, that is oh, so true. my kids are 17, 20, and 22, but all through grammar school they played basketball and softball, and oh, what a mess other parents would make. it got so bad, the school wrote up a paper on the do's and don'ts for parents, sent them home with the kids, and we had to sign them and send them back to school. too bad the kids couldn't have fun, and not be concerned with what their parents are yelling. thanks for a good article, best regards, sue thom Response from Dane Tyner (388) From a Prince to a Frog Comment by Jim Murdoch (89)  Jim Murdoch (171 days 2 hours ago.)Hi, I followed the Christian path for forty years. Now at fifty three I find myself following a path more in line with what Jesus taught and how he lived. Three years ago my wife and I started on a path of discovery and higher awareness of who we are and even yet we are discovering why we are here. Part of this was to discover that "God has put eternity in our hearts" (Eccl 3:11) and it is up to us to discover this source of Life. Our lives are now orientated toward helping others discover this inner eternity and assist them living lives of purpose. Thanks, Dane, for sharing. We may not see things the same, but our goals are certainly the same. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Leo Ponder (309) Leo Ponder (171 days 9 hours ago.)When I meditate on God's word I find a special peace that I don't see in other areas of my thinking. Thus from that I have devised a special personal way to meditate (which is almost like prayer) I take one word (for example Redemption) from the Bible daily and (meditate) think about it all day every chance I get. This may sound Shallow but I can't tell you all the rewards of it. Leo Ponder Response from Dane Tyner (388) A Spiritual-life Inventory in Seven Questions Comment by Teresa Ortiz (5,015) Teresa Ortiz (173 days 11 hours ago.)...and this is why we have grace. Can I print this out and pass it on? Well done...again. Teresa Response from Dane Tyner (388) Suceeding in Money Management at Home Comment by Teresa Ortiz (5,015) Teresa Ortiz (173 days 12 hours ago.)Hi Dane, thank you for this practical explaination of this passage. Many dare to touch it. I pray it encourages many. Thanks again for sharing your God-given wisdom with us. Blessings to you and yours, Teresa Religion and Family Strength Comment by Steve Radford (939)   Steve Radford (180 days 11 hours ago.)Dane, Great article! Ditto the previous comments. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Jean Horst (1,041)  Jean Horst (180 days 11 hours ago.)Hey Dane, Thanks for this article. My parents got to know God when I was a pre-teen, shortly after that, they began a nightly ritual of praying together before they went to sleep. Since they prayed out loud in their room, I often drifted off to sleep to the murmurs of their prayers from their room. I couldn't really make out the words, but I knew that they prayed for all their children by name and others with needs. Now they are elderly and they come to visit me in the winter. They still pray aloud each night and my children now have heard the same sounds before they go to sleep. I can tell you from experience, it is an incredibly powerful thing. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Teresa Ortiz (5,015) Teresa Ortiz (180 days 16 hours ago.)Hi Dane, Amen to this article-especially the third paragragh. Half-hearted, pre-written prayers are probably not going to cause the heart of God to move much. It's the sincere, get down to the nitty-gritty concerns of the heart that make a difference. Good job! You are certainly a hugh blessing and asset to the SW family. Choosing the Way of Truth Comment by Teresa Ortiz (5,015) Teresa Ortiz (180 days 16 hours ago.)Yes, you are. No worries. Congrats on being on the front page! It's always an encouragement. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Religion and Family Strength Comment by April Lorier (4,522) April Lorier (180 days 16 hours ago.)Dane, I love that you thought this one through. I was raised on "Now I lay me down to sleep" but I never saw my parents pray together. Perhaps if they had prayed earnestly with each other, at least, our lives would have been easier. You did an excellent job on this article. Congrats! Comment by Avis Ward (8,717) Avis Ward (181 days 10 hours ago.)Many truths included in this article. Well-written and engaging. I also happen to agree with your 'probably so's', Mr. Tyner! The Proverbs 31 Man Comment by Teresa Ortiz (5,015) Teresa Ortiz (181 days 12 hours ago.)Hi Dane, thank you for sharing the Proverbs 31 man. I have one and I can tell you as a wife, it blesses me and gives me the courage and strength to be that Proverbs 31 wife with pleasure and complete fulfillment. I hope this article encourages many men. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Avis Ward (8,717) Avis Ward (181 days 12 hours ago.)Dane, I can only say one thing, this is an excellent article! Ok, maybe more than one as it's deserved. Not many think or speak of the "Proverbs 31" Man when it comes to this text. If I'm to have a mate again, he must be my counterpart as a Proverbs 31 woman. A work in progress, or a few chapters behind, perhaps, but on the path. Thank you for one dynamic message! Response from Dane Tyner (388) Building a Blessed Home Comment by April Lorier (4,522) April Lorier (183 days 10 hours ago.)Good article, Dane. It was well written, too. I have a stone placque that says, "For me and my house, we will serve the Lord." I see it from my kitchen window every morning and it's a reminder. Response from Dane Tyner (388) Comment by Teresa Ortiz (5,015) Teresa Ortiz (183 days 10 hours ago.)Excellent article. Good job bringing this Scripture to life with practical advice. It is so true, a small curse can wipe out a lot of blessing. Keep writing and sharing. God will lead those who need these words to your articles. Blessings to you. Ter | ||||||||||||||||
