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Rod Cortez is an international dating coached who has helped men have more dating success in more than 44 different countries. Rod took himself from a shy young man to an effective communicator and dating coach by learning in the trenches. He offers free dating tips in his newsletter. To find out more simple go to http://thedatepro.com/ |
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Comments on all articles by Rod Cortez (963)    Do You Really Need A Girlfriend? Karthik from Chennai, India: (47 days 15 hours ago.)  I have never read an article like this in the recent years.I happened to read yours as I have just now failed in love (second time).I happen to live in South India which is the most orthodox part of the country.At the same time I work in one of the MNCs where I see many people having mates.To be frank I feel jealous of them. But there was a point when I never thought about relationships to be so serioius.I never used to fall prey to the peer pressure of having a girlfriend until I was completely changed by a Girl who I will never forget.I loved her...I still regret I should have kissed her and accepted.I rejected her love bluntly. Ever since I have been in desperate need for love and never been able to do so because of two reasons: Lack of Skills with Women and Ever more Careful with women after failing in Love. Today , I proposed to my colleague whom I thought also loves me.....but she is in love with someone else. I got some consolation after reading ur article and starting to realise that all these years I have beenwanting for love only because I was really in love with the girl who proposed me 3 years back......... I have many ambitions in life but all are at stake now..can't really procceed in life ........ Comment by Rod Cortez (963) (47 days 4 hours ago.)Karthik, I'm glad my article helped you. I think one needs to learn to love themselves first before they can really begin finding true success in dating. There is a difference between choosing to have a girlfriend and feeling like you have to have a girlfriend. The former comes from power and the latter comes from weakness and insecurity. But that's okay because with enough work you can overcome this.
Take care,
Rod
What Women Want When They Go To Bars And Nightclubs Comment by Rod Cortez (963) (47 days 4 hours ago.)Creative Blogger,
This is why I stated "generally", meaning that in 51% of more of the cases it was true. Just because you and your friends are exceptions does not mean that the the general rule is not true. Yes, I have dated hundreds of women and have spoken with thousands of women around the world. Since you only need 1,000 to make a sample statistically significant I did not pull these figures out of thin air.
I appreciate your feedback, but really, you took my article way out of context. I still stand that generally the best candidates for long-term relationships are not to be found in bars and nightclubs, and the majority of experts (dating and relationship) are on my side. You're entitled to your opinion and I'm entitled to mine. I base mine on my vast experience and master-minding with other dating and relationship experts.
Rod
creativeblogger: (49 days 9 hours ago.) wow, so you've questioned 100% of the women in bars and clubs on a regular basis in order to gather these scientifically sound statistics, I commend you. Of course these statistics were pulled out of thin air, who you trying to kid. I am woman, I have been visiting bars and clubs on and off since I was 18 and I have only ever been in long term relationships and the same applies to 100% of the friends who joined me. What a coincidence we appear to fall within your 49%. Comment by Creative Blogger (4,990)     Creative Blogger  (52 days 9 hours ago.) It's easy to spot a women who is on the prowl for a man. They are looking around and scoping out what's on offer while their girl friends chat and engage more with each other. The free singleton will dip in and out of chat but their wyes will be mainly on the room not their friends. Saying women who go to bars are not the type to settle down with is also stereotypical rot unless of course the same applies to men. Rod Cortez from Los Angeles: (49 days 11 hours ago.) I stated that generally speaking women who go to bars tend to be the type that are generally not good for long-term relationships. Since it is true more than 51% of the time it is generally true. Sometimes stereotypes are based on truth. Rod Common Dating And Relationship Mistakes Men Make Anonymous: (229 days 6 hours ago.) Excellent article. Very helpful Anonymous: (229 days 6 hours ago.) Excellent article. Very helpful Do You Really Need A Girlfriend? Rod Cortez from Los Angeles, CA, USA: (302 days 17 hours ago.) Hey Anonymous, this is Rod Cortez and I wanted to say I appreciate the feedback. I also wanted to let you know that I was not a "natural" when it came to dating girls when I was growing up in high school and for part of my college years. I suffered from panic and anxiety attacks for years. You pointed out the term "social skills" and I thought that was insightful. These are skills that ANY man can learn if he's willing to learn, apply what he's learned, and making approaches to lessen approach anxiety. I've made thousands of approaches over the years and my approach anxiety is still there, but the difference is that I make the approach anyway. My main concern with your post is that you believe that it's "crushing" if you've never had a girlfriend and I totally understand. But it doesn't have to be that they. Also you should not define yourself and your happiness based on having a girlfriend, it's simply not healthy. The real question is why do you believe this? Where does that belief come from? So I do understand because I had to work hard to obtain these social skills. The good news is that with the Internet it's gotten a lot easier with information from dating coaches around the world. I hope you make an effort to make a commitment to change that belief. Because really....no one is a loser based on whether or not they have a girlfriend or boyfriend, that's just society adding that label. Later, Rod Cortez krngrl from Woodbine, MD: (303 days 2 hours ago.)  I'm actually a girl and my friend dared me to look at this. After I read it, you must be really smart because I know that lots of boys want a gf just to be popular and us girls don't appreciate this. Anyway the hygiene thing really works guys... and I would give this a 5 STAR. : ) Dave from LA: (314 days 14 hours ago.) Anonymous you are wrong. If you've never had one it's only "crushing" because you interpret it that way. Who taught you to think that way? No one is a "loser" until they have a girlfriend. You forget that many of the guys with social skills did nOT start off that way. Many of them were shy and didn't have a girlfriend until they were in their 20s or even 30s! But they worked hard to work on their social skills. Sorry but I don't agree with you. Anonymous: (314 days 21 hours ago.) Easy to say if you have had girlfriends before. If you have never had one, it's just crushing. It doesn't matter what else you accomplish in your life, your career, your family, you're a loser and will always be a loser until you have a girlfriend. Guys who have the social skills to just get a girlfriend whenever they want will never understand. How To Turbo-Charge A Woman's Attraction To You Comment by Jo Walker (107)  (322 days 8 hours ago.)absolutely great How To...where were you when I went through 3 frogs before I found my prince? lol Keep it up! The Evolution of Being Single Comment by April Lorier (4,541)  April Lorier  (1 year 9 days ago.)What a great article, Rod! You wrote the story of my life, too! I love your comment: "I realized at that moment that you attract what you are." Too many people do not understand this law of human nature. Desperation attracts desperation, and the ending is often disastrous! It's so refreshing to hear this from a man! HA! Response from Rod Cortez (963) Do You Really Need A Girlfriend? Steve: (1 year 166 days ago.) Wow. Awesome artical. i'm throughly impressed. I found this very enlightning, and helpful. Thank you. ~Steve |
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