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Anthony Fleming

Don't Think About Purple Teddy Bears

If we were sitting together and I said to you "Don't think about Purple Teddy Bears!" What's the first thing that pops into your mind? Exactly! Purple Teddy Bears!

You may think that this is an unusual way to begin an article but the point I am making here is very, very important and this light-hearted example makes the point very clearly. What point I hear you asking! Well, if you were to ask a certain well know UK hypnotist this question he would say "The mind does not process negation." which is gobbledygook to most normal thinking people. However, if you re-read my first sentence above, the meaning will become very clear to you. What this means is that your mind does not give value or attention to negatives. For example, if you say "I want to lose weight." Your focus and attention is on "weight" and consequently your mind will assist you in maintaining your current weight or even increasing it. Another example would be that you say "I don't want to be poor." And again as your attention is on "poor" you will maintain and attract to yourself more "poor" or poverty. I'm sure this is becoming clear to you now. If not then I suggest you go back to the beginning and re-read this section again and think about it before continuing with the rest of this article.    

To make positive changes in your life, you must think and make statements of what you really want, not what you don't want. And if you think that these two things are the same then excuse me for saying this but you are quite wrong. Why? Because they are in fact opposites and the results or consequences will be poles apart. It is very important to have this point clear in your mind.     

Okay, let's assume that the above is clear and we will continue. To initiate any significant changes in your life the first step is to be clear about what it is you really want. For example, let's say you want a new car. You would not say "I don't like my car and want to change it." as this is a negative focus. Also you would not be too general with your request to the universe and say "I want a new car." What will draw your new car to you is to be very specific and detailed such as "I want a new black Mercedes SL350 convertible, with cream leather upholstery, parking sensors, a built in satnav, black floor mats and a 6 CD autochanger." Now if you really want to gain a powerful advantage and draw your new dream black Mercedes car towards you even more quickly then you should also do the following:  

* visit your local Mercedes car showroom and sit in your dream car; smell and feel the new soft leather, wrap your hands around the steering wheel, now let your eyes feast on the elegance of the interior and the style and beauty of the body design – wonderful!

 

 

* next book a test drive and think about driving this beautiful car and imagine the wind on your face and rushing through your hair and you feel great – fantastic!

 

* now when the time comes for your test drive, really sit back and enjoy this experience and drive this car as though you own it and imagine that this beautiful black Mercedes SL350 is all yours – awesome!

The final part of this is to hold onto your clear mental picture and to the feelings you have associated with owning this new car, and believe with all your being that this new elegant and stylish Mercedes is on its way to you and absolutely nothing can stop it. As Wayne Dyer would say "You will see it when you believe it."

Here is a second example for those of you who may be more interested in acquiring personal qualities and skills and not material things. Let's say you want to be a good public speaker. And remember that you would not think or say "I don't want to be a poor public speaker." First of all you would state very clearly, perhaps out loud and in your mind and even write it down "I want be to a good public speaker." or "I am becoming a good public speaker." Next visualise yourself giving a great talk to an interested and appreciative audience. They are smiling at you and nodding their heads. They are leaning forward in their chairs to catch your every word. The expression on their faces clearly shows that they are impressed and interested in what you are sharing with them. Your words are flowing very easily and you feel inspired. [it feels good, doesn't it!]

Now take action to project the new image you have of yourself and to reinforce the new confident and eloquent speaker that you are. Practise giving a 5-10 minute talk on a subject that you feel passionate about. Relax! The first practice step is to do this on your own. Next, when you are comfortable with the first step choose a very good friend or perhaps your partner (and consider one or two other people) and give the same talk. Repeat these two steps a few times until you have adopted and ingrained into your being that YOU ARE A GOOD SPEAKER. See this in your minds eye and believe it and feel it. Know that the more you believe you are a good speaker and you speak in public the more this will become embedded into your whole being and public speaking will be very natural for you. And when I say 'public speaking' I am not necessarily referring to speaking to large groups or hundreds of people, although you may have this as your goal, 'public speaking' may be feeling more confident and comfortable telling a joke at an informal dinner party or standing up at a business meeting and sharing your views with the participants or perhaps giving a short presentation to your work colleagues. Whatever it is, if you follow these simple steps you can and you will become a good speaker – just believe in yourself!     

The important message I am trying to convey here is to help you to gain a clear understanding that to draw good things, qualities, events and people into your life and into your experience you must focus on the positive and on what you really want. And the best way of putting this to the test is just to try it. Well, have you got anything to loose? or rather I should say "How much have you got to gain?" and the answer is "Lots!"

I wish you health and happiness.

Anthony Fleming

www.Passion4Life.org

9 Practical Tips to Lift Your Mood

2 – Slowly drink a glass of water in the mornings and while drinking think to yourself "This is magical and health inducing water. It is washing away impurities and filling me with health and vitality…" [It tasted different, didn't it?]  

3 – Lift your mood while you are alone and driving or at home. Listen to one of your favourite up-beat songs loudly and sing along OR say to yourself repeatedly "I like myself! I like myself! I like myself!" [You couldn't help smiling, could you?]

4 – Start a simple exercise routine (aerobics, shadow boxing, yoga, tai chi…), preferably in the mornings, and while doing your routine repeat positive words and expressions such as: "Health!" "I feel good!" "Vitality!" "The Universe is my friend!" "Energy!" "Inspiration!" "Confidence!" etc. etc. [You will feel much more alive and ready for a fantastic day!] 

5 – Feed your soul by reading a short passage from a Holy Book such as the Bible, Quran, Buddhist or Baha'i Scriptures OR if you are not religious, read something you find inspirational and uplifting. [Do this every day and you will feel the difference within 7 days.]

6 – Think of a nice thing to do or to say to someone. This could be as simple as a compliment to a work colleague such as "That's a great tie." or "You look happy today!"  [This is a win/win. Other people will feel good and you will feel good too. Just try it for a few days.] 

7 – Do something uplifting in the morning in place of watching the news. This will have a dramatic effect on your mood and your outlook on life as you will be starving yourself of your usual morning/evening stimulus of bad news. [Let's be realistic. Is there ever any good news on the TV? This will obviously make you feel more positive and optimistic as your focus of attention will gradually be drawn towards the many, many good things life has to offer.]

8 – Find time just for yourself. Everyone needs some "me" time. There are many ways to do this and I will list a few to get your creative imagination working: 1: Take a short stroll alone at lunch time. 2: Go to bed 15 minutes before your spouse. 3: Get up a little earlier. 4: Pull over in your car for 15 minutes and listen to some soothing music or just sit quietly. [Do this and everyone around you will benefit as you will be happier and less stressed.]

9 – At the end of the day sit quietly and think of (or better still write down) 10 good things about your day. This might be a challenge for the first day or two, but by the third day you will amaze yourself how easy it is to pick out the good things in your day. [Do this for just one week and I promise that you will notice more and more great things about life.]

Do let me know how you get on with these simple tips. Thank you!

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