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X-PosedLeah (12,682)     Leah    Catch up with me on Facebook How to spot a Gold Digger and avoid them!Posted Sunday, October 25, 2009 (26 days 15 hours ago.) Viewed 161 times. Gold Diggers are both male and female,despite the stereotypical view that they are usually female. Women are just as likely to find a male latch onto them for their money as a man is. Gold digging is also not restricted to heterosexual relationships. Some people love money and the trappings of success but have a lazy streak, so they would rather find a free ride than pay for their own. The good news is that Gold diggers are not hard to spot but the bad news is that easy targets for Gold Diggers are even easier to spot! If you have a lot of money and you are one of these people that loves and enjoys money, glittery objects and big flashy cars etc. then you are a Gold Diggers wet dream because straight away you have something in common! Your other characteristics might include generosity and a mind set that 'you get what you pay for'. You might be a big tipper, buy more rounds than the rest of your pals, generally throwing the money around. You do this because you are generous but also because of the attention it brings and you do like attention don't you! So a nice 'expensive' bit of arm candy might not be such a bad trade off right? Often wealthy men and women have no objection to funding their gold digging partner in exchange for their company if that person is very attractive and makes them look good. Much like the new car makes them look good. But what happens when the money runs dry or you can no longer keep up with a gold diggers expensive tastes and needs? Do you think they will stick around? Not likely. They will bleed you dry, accuse you of ruining their life by depriving them of their luxury lifestyle and then they will be off to find their next source of gold! So if you fit the description above, think twice before happily acquiring an attractive partner on the understanding that you fund their entire lifestyle. The pleasant company will only last as long as the gifts and money keep coming, then the laugh will turn to a scowl. Now we know what a Gold Diggers ideal mate is, how do those of you who have wealth and success spot a gold digger should you decide to avoid them! It is important not to confuse a man or woman with little of their own money as a gold digger purely on the basis that they cannot afford to pay for the great dates and places that you want to go. You will often know if your date cannot afford that lifestyle and if that's the case and you still want to enjoy the high life with them, don't see them as a gold digger if you need to pay. Needing to pay and being able to afford to do so is not the same as being forced to pay and then some regardless of what your date earns! Also, someone who can't afford to pay and is not a gold digger may suggest activities which are free and won't suggest you go somewhere very expensive knowing full well you'll be footing 100% of the bill. So how do you spot a Gold Digger? Wherever the money is, God, diggers will be in great abundance. They are not foolish and know how to find what they seek, and that won't be in any cheap bar or club! When they visit these establishments they will be 'shopping' and will be weighing up everyone in the place to see who might offer them the best 'deal' in terms of what 'can you do for me'. They will start as they mean to go on, by insisting you buy the drinks and suggesting places you can go and things you can buy. They will drive your credit card for you, let alone the new car they might persuade you to buy them. If your Gold digger isn't blatantly asking you for gifts, then they will be very huffy and quiet if not in receipt of them but their reasons will soon become clear. You might be accused of being a cheapskate, not treating them right, not appreciating them properly! A line I heard a gold digger tell a pal of mine was 'It costs money to look this good, and if he wants to date me, why shouldn't he pay'. That woman was a gold digger and she got what she wanted..mainly. But when her man got into debt due to trying to fund her excessive needs, things didn't look quiet so pretty when she was unable to cope on the reduction in living standards. A Gold digger won't stand by you when you hit hard times. That pretty little designer face will turn into a twisted nagging grimace and it won't be pleasant! If money was the lure, then when you have none or less they will be off looking for the next best thing. If you have fallen for your gold digger, that knowledge may be what spurs you on to ensure that you never do fall short of expectations, but what a hollow empty existence that is! Do yourself a favor, find someone who loves you for you. 
Permalink Comments (1) Is Publishing Private Email Illegal and what can you do to stop it?Posted Monday, September 28, 2009 (53 days 7 hours ago.) Viewed 215 times. I have recently read a thread on a forum where a forum member posted the entire contents of a private email she'd received from someone she had done business with. As soon as I read this thread I said to myself: " Never do business with her!!" All the warning lights went on. Imagine a business associate behaving so unprofessionally as to publish private correspondence? What has cyber space become? It should be the law of the land and understood by all that emails are by their very nature private and not for publication or publishing on public boards. I aired my disgust when I saw the post and unbelievably received very little support. Was that due to fear of retribution by the forum thread starter or an indication of apathy to such matters? The forum in question doesn't allow private forum messages between members to be made public and yet allows this. Presumably this means that they respect the privacy of members messages but not that of none members. This is rather sad and short sighted as todays none member could be tomorrows fully paid up member! I raised the issue of legalities on the forum. I at first assumed the poster could be sued for publishing private emails but I am not sure this is correct. Is publishing private emails illegal? I would have thought that publishing private emails is illegal or at least covered by some form of Internet law. It might be the case that publishing private emails is covered under copyright laws, but I am no expert! Check out this useful forum thread here on the details. http://www.webmasterworld.com/forum44/1500.htm This forum thread (linked above) indicates that the email author has copyright and so their emails cannot be published without their permission. For a more detailed look at the legal issues surrounding publishing emails or even forwarding emails without the consent of the original author visit this law site here . Meanwhile it also might be the case that Internet Service Providers prohibit the publication of private emails as per their terms of service. They take violations of their terms of service very seriously and can withdraw service from anyone who breaches their code of conduct. It is always worth checking your service providers terms of service to see if your emails are protected by copyright and if so, how you can report people publishing your emails online, to your service provider. The last word Whatever the law, please don't air your dirty laundry in public and keep your whingeing, whining, bitching to your close pals and family who you can trust not to forward your rants to the people concerned. But as we know that is how gossip starts! It appears the Internet is no different. Welcome to cyber space!
Permalink Comments (8) Why Being With a Babe Magnet Isn't All It's Cracked Up To Be!Posted Friday, August 07, 2009 (105 days 12 hours ago.) Viewed 214 times. On the surface of it, he had nothing to offer to women in terms of these superficial things that other men might consider women find important when looking for a mate. Certainly when I first encountered this male, I didn't find him the least bit attractive. In fact I found him a little repulsive. 1 year later we were married. What did this man do to persuade me he was worth my time, my attention and my love? He had a great smile. This was his one endearing physical feature and he smiled a lot. He was a great listener and he was interested in knowing everything about me but wasn't so inquisitive that he didn't share anything about himself. He shared a great deal of intimate information. He also played to my nurturing side by appearing 'vulnerable'. This I suppose created an atmosphere of trust and as a result a friendship was forged. He was like this with all the women he encountered without exception. He was instantly 'open' and 'sharing'. He had life experience and was able to relate to people's problems and help them overcome them. He thus played the healer and the needy card well. I very quickly noticed how 'attractive' he seemed to be to other women. This of course (in competitive terms) made his attractive rating fly up. If other women rate him highly then he must be worth having. This is how men's attractive ratings work. It's not about them standing alone as an individual it's about others perceive them. This summarizes this man's appeal. So what was the downside of being with this man that every woman wanted. Day and night women would call the house. Not just his female friends, but the girlfriends of his male friends and the mothers of his male friends. They'd call him up to discuss their problems. When we were out strange women would come up and sit on his knee with me sat right beside him. I also had to endure women telling him they loved him, throw their arms around him and kiss him right under my nose. It was quite insane and in all seriousness this is exactly how it was. He couldn't buy an icecream from a female icecream seller without her relating her personal troubles and him taking her number! I am not exaggerating in the least. Meanwhile, this guy was far from perfect behind the scenes and one year after marrying him I divorced him and went back to finding him repulsive. There are thus two messages here: Guys If it's in your nature to be a friend, to listen to women's problems and to be attentive you'll do very well with women indeed. Women If you've got yourself a babe magnet, be warned, it might not be that much fun! You must not be the least bit jealous as chances are your babe magnet will continue to attract babes long after you two got together. Good luck! Pop here for more personal stories & dating tips
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