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Three Steps To Becoming Who You Want To Be

Posted Friday, September 25, 2009 (57 days 6 hours ago.) Viewed 115 times.

Don't give up on your dreams! Do you remember when you were younger and the possibilities seemed endless? Have your dreams faded with age and obstacles? The only things keeping you from being who you want to be, are the stories you tell yourself about why you can't be that person. All of us build up these stories as we get older. If you've lived in the same skin for long, you tend to start doubting the only person who can help you, and that is yourself. Those perceptions are the main thing that keep us in the rut we've built for ourselves. The great news is that anyone can dig their way out. You dug the rut with your own negative stories and perceptions. You can now fill it in with more productive stories and, in time, use it as a highway to the new you.

There are three steps you can take that will propel you into your destiny. These three steps will cover all you need to do, but you have to be detailed and specific as you cover these steps.

The Three Steps

Laser like focus on what you want

Start building up an inner image of yourself as the person you want to become. You've had a life time of practice NOT seeing yourself that way, so it will take time and discipline to change that image of yourself. Remember, thoughts about what you don't want are just as powerful as those about what you do.
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Study people that already are the kind of person you want to be. Read about them, find out what they did to become the people they are. What steps did they take to get to where they are in life.
Become aware of, and break through your inner conflict

Write down every fear or concern you have about becoming the person you want to be... Become aware of those fears and doubts so they can't ambush you later on. Ask yourself what the cost is, if you don't change. Write down anything you don't want to have to do to reach your goal.

If you see it working part of the time, and not working all the time, your image is still unclear. Refocus , burn this new thought pattern or image into your mind. See yourself clearly as the person you want to become and the pathway and opportunities will appear.

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Learn To Love Your Diet

Posted Wednesday, September 23, 2009 (59 days 7 hours ago.) Viewed 43 times.

Who can get excited about broccoli? Those who love to eat broccoli, that's who. Most of us have formed an opinion about broccoli (or any food) from our earliest childhood memories. Chances are you didn't like it the first time you ate it. You may even have memories of others who made comments about it and helped you form your opinion. The same is true for anything that we eat. If we have an opinion about something, we tend to think it's reality, when in many cases it just isn't so. As humorist Artemus Ward said, "It ain't so much the things we know that get us into trouble, it's the things we know that just ain't so!"

Now, I am not preaching about eating broccoli, but I am trying to get a point across. The way you feel about your diet has a great deal to do with whether or not you will stick with it. If our thoughts continually trigger discontent about a diet, we will usually find an excuse to:

Blame the diet "it doesn't work anyway"
Cheat "just this once"
Blow it "I'll start again Monday"

The truth is there are very few diets that won't work. Diet's don't fail. People do. The only way to change that is to change how you think about your diet or eating plan. Personally, I prefer not to call it a diet, but an eating plan. Too many bad memories about diets, I guess! But, regardless of what you call it, there is good news. Your mind is easier to change than your waist line! The human brain will believe anything you tell it, if you tell it often enough and strongly enough. New programming produces new results.

Start with your attitude. Introduce into your line of thinking the positive aspects of sticking with your diet. A diet complied with means losing weight every single day! Imagine that! Every day you are getting closer to your goal. Take charge of your emotions by tackling those reverberating doubts and cravings with truth. The fact is that you are getting healthier and skinnier every single day by loving what you eat. Think of each item on your menu as fuel to improve your body. Tell yourself you love those items, tell it to yourself often and with emotion! Your love will grow and some day when the times comes... it may be difficult to eat anything else!

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Sowing Mental Seeds For Success

Posted Wednesday, September 23, 2009 (59 days 7 hours ago.) Viewed 28 times.

Ever wonder why you have trouble getting ahead financially? That very thought could be your reason. Researchers are coming more and more to the conclusion that our thoughts actively work to produce like results. In other words, if you believe it's hard to make a living, your subconscious is moving heaven and earth to make sure that is the case. How many of us think like millionaires? Probably only about 5 to 6 percent of the population have the mental attitudes and imagery to see themselves in that way. The good news is that there's a lot we can do as individuals to change our mental imagery.

A thought is like a seed and like produces like. You can't plant corn and expect to reap watermelon, just as you can't continually plant thoughts of failure and reap success. Another fact researchers have found is that a thought about what you don't want, is just as powerful as a thought about what you do. This explains a lot. Why is there so much poverty in the world? Because so many people focus their minds on worry about what they don't want. The only way to change what you reap is to change what you plant!

There are many ways you can do this. Positive thinking books abound as well as seminars and self help gurus. I personally think it takes a more personal approach to be effective. Too many people have come away from motivational speeches all geared up for success, only to find themselves back in the same boat a few weeks later. Lasting change starts with you and ends with you. First of all you need to take a mental inventory of the seeds you've been planting. Take note of your thoughts and the images that run through your mind for a few days. These habitual thoughts can only be reversed by specific and personal scrutiny.

Make it your daily focus to find the specific seeds (thoughts) that have been planted and reverse them into success seeds. Build a new and more positive thought pattern by daily planting these new seeds. Remember the crops you have harvested have taken years to plant so make this a habit that will last a life time. Water these new seeds with more of the same, and fertilize them by making them a priority in your life. Little by little, you will begin to reap your new lifestyle of success.

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Better Swimming By Mental Imagery

Posted Wednesday, September 23, 2009 (59 days 8 hours ago.) Viewed 29 times.

Winning athletes do it, as well as successful business people. More and more motivational researchers are catching onto the fact that your habitual thought patterns affect your performance in every day life. It really isn't that much of a surprise when you think about it. How many of us see ourselves as great swimmers? Probably only about 5 to 6 percent of the population have the mental attitudes and imagery to see themselves in that way. The good news is that there's a lot we can do as individuals to change our mental imagery

We become what we believe we are. The more we think about ourselves as being a certain kind of person, the more apt we are to be that kind of person. Our minds are trained to make us become whatever we believe. If we feel we are good at something, we will undoubtedly do well in that area. So the first step to improvement in any area is to change the way we think about ourselves in that area. If you have difficulty seeing yourself as a great swimmer then download pictures of great swimmers and start building a mental image of yourself doing the things they do.

Of course this doesn't mean you don't even get in the pool while you're changing that image. As you rebuild your internal image, you need to be laying the groundwork for the outer image to take shape. You fertilize the new seeds you are planting as you practice your swimming techniques. Every time you have a doubt or the shadow of the old imagery crosses your mind, you must discipline that thought by blocking it and reversing it to the new image. Spend the first few minutes of every day reaffirming your new status as a great swimmer.

Notice the words that flow through your mind also. Chances are they are founded on the old image of yourself. A life time of hearing negative speeches to ourselves takes some time to turn around. Changing those words to positive self talk will make a big difference. Baby steps are best at first. Make an audio recording telling yourself how good you are for a change. Listen to it regularly. Stick with constant positive thought patterns and you will soon find yourself swimming with the best of them.

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Color Yourself Happy

Posted Tuesday, September 22, 2009 (60 days 4 hours ago.) Viewed 42 times.

Many of us are plagued by self doubt and feelings of general unhappiness, but we don't have to live that way. Despite your circumstances, you can be happy if you are willing to take some steps to make it happen. We are responsible for our own feelings. It doesn't matter who or what you feel made you unhappy. The circumstances, or the person(s) you think is responsible has little to do with how you feel, unless you give them that power.

The first step is to realize that you have the power to decide what you feel. No one else has that power. This can be a little intimidating at first, as we take responsibility for our own feelings, but when you really look into your own heart, you will know that you have the choice to feel happy or sad. Take a deep breath and look closely at what you are feeling. If you are angry or feeling victimized, analyze why that is the case. Chances are you have some forgiving to do. Releasing your pain and hurt will allow your emotions to begin to heal.

The true meaning of forgiveness is to cancel. Cancel the debt you are holding in your mind. In most cases we need to cancel many debts to ourselves. Forgive your self, in other words. If there are things in life where you feel you have let yourself down, cancel those things. They have no power over your thoughts if you forgive yourself for them. Forgive others and forgive the circumstances that you are unhappy about. If financial debts are a problem, forgive yourself for allowing them into your life. Cancel those debts mentally and allow yourself to feel the forgiveness flow over you.

Breathe deeply again and start taking note of all that you do have, rather than what you don't. Allow yourself to experience gratitude. Gratitude is a major door to happiness! Now, allow yourself to feel love. If gratitude is the door to happiness, then love is the key. Feel love for those around you. If you don't have anyone around you, then feel love for yourself. You are a creature created in the image of love. Allow that to lead you through the door into happiness. Fear and doubt detour destiny. Don't allow them to cloud one moment of your day!

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