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5 Helpful Tips to Live in Accord with Your Other Half

Posted Saturday, November 21, 2009 (8 hours 24 minutes ago.) Viewed 1 times.

What do you mean my other half? No, it's really not your other half. But it sure feels like it when you're in an intimate relationship living with a spouse, a roommate, a friend, or a partner. Relationships can be trying at times and tempers may flare, but it's mostly because of misunderstandings. These tips may just be the ticket to peace in your household.

Five Tips to Live in Accord with Your Other Half:

1. Respect each other: Respect towards each other means showing consideration and thoughtfulness regarding the other person's feelings, belongings, and personal preferences. It means not forcing or coercing someone to think, believe, or feel the way you want that person to. It means allowing them to be who they are without ill will.

2.Pay attention to each others' need for space: Every person in a relationship has the need for personal space and time. Allowing time away from each other helps revitalize the relationship. Seriously, if you were together all the time, when would you find the time to buy that special gift or flowers for that special someone? Or that token of appreciation?

3. Don't depend on each other for approval: Being dependent for approval from each other is unhealthy in a relationship, it creates stress always wondering if what you are doing, saying, or wearing is okay with the other person. Being independent of the other means having the freedom to express your own creativity and to share it with your other half.

4. Love yourself first then the other: The best type of relationships are those where each one individually loves themselves first. The love from within themselves radiates outward freely and spreads with a sense of peace towards the other person. Genuine love truly is a quality that comes from your heart and is not dependent on outer sources to be expressed.

5. Trust each other: Honestly trusting each other can really create a genuinely harmonic relationship, a real treasure not to be taken lightly. The results of these are reliability and trustworthiness. These two attributes are foundational stones of a healthy relationship.

These five tips are meant to enhance your relationship with your spouse, roommate, friend, or partner. Overall, the root of a harmonious relationship really lies within each other and the willingness to make an attempt to get along and be open to suggestions for maintaining peace in your relationship.

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7 Important Components for Living a Balanced Life

Posted Sunday, November 15, 2009 (6 days 6 hours ago.) Viewed 13 times.

Living a balanced life when your schedule is full of things to do can be quite challenging. But with dedication to your well-being, a balanced life can be achieved. There are several components to this aspect, but following are just seven of the most important components for living a balanced life.

Seven Important Components for Living a Balanced Life:

1. Good Eating Habits: Eating at a fast food restaurant now and then is not harmful, but it's not something you want to make a habit out of. Try to eat fresh vegetable and fruits daily, and watch out for those sweet snacks full of empty calories.

2. Regular Exercise: This doesn't have to mean that you go to the gym every day, but even some form of regular exercise every other day can be very beneficial to your circulatory system and can help bring oxygen to your cells to keep you in good spirits.

3. No Smoking: You are already surrounded by enough carcinogens of which you have no control over. Smoking is one carcinogen you do have control over and don't have to inhale. Your lungs are very valuable to your healthy living.

4. Healthy Body Weight: Excess body weight can take a toll on your legs and your back, it can also cause permanent damage to your lower extremities. Make an attempt to reach a healthy body weight for your body type. When you reach your desired body weight, do your best to maintain it.

5. Good Night's Rest: Getting seven to eight hours of sleep per night is the recommended ideal. It helps keep your reflexes alert so you may respond appropriately in any given crisis situation. It also helps in maintaining emotional balance. Ever notice how your emotions are exaggerated when you're tired?

6. Quiet Time: Spend some type of quiet time by yourself without any stress. This is the perfect time to regain your sense of balance in your life and help reduce stress. A meditation practice can count as part of your quiet time. It helps you get a moment of clarity.

7. Conscious Contact with your Higher Power: When you wake up in the morning, be grateful and say to your Higher Power, "Thank you for a new day" and at bedtime say, "Thank you for today". Keeping a conscious contact with your Higher Power lets you that know you're not alone.

Implement these seven valuable components into your daily life and your body will reward you with good health. Do it for your one and only body you possess, and have control over. With dedication to your well-being, you can do it!

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Should You Register Your Written Work?

Posted Friday, October 23, 2009 (29 days 7 hours ago.) Viewed 11 times.

So, there you are. Your article or book is complete and you are proud of your hard work. You look at your computer screen and get ready to print. Your work is excellent!

But as you look at your work you think about where it is going, you may even be asking yourself a very common question. "Should I register my written work with a Copyright Office?" I mean seriously, you've put a lot of work into this written masterpiece.

If you're a new writer coming into the field of writing, be assured that you are not alone in asking this question. Several writers before you have asked the very same question. Just as movies and music have copyrights, so does your writing.

As a matter of fact, your writing gets automatic copyright the minute it is created by you. In other words, you automatically attain legal ownership of your written work once you've made it accessible in a tangible form such as writing it down on paper, typing it into your old typewriter, or keying it into your computer and saving it as a file.

Here is all you the proof you need once your written work leaves your hands and goes through the submission process:

1. A copy of your written work

2. A dated record of your submission

If you are still leery about submitting your prized writing and wish to register it, by all means do so. That is still your prerogative. You may obtain a copyright application with instructions at:

Library of Congress

101 Independence Ave. S. E.

Washington, DC 20559-6000

Or go online: www.copyright.gov/forms

If you decide to register your unpublished manuscript with a Copyright Office, be advised that you must inform the Editor who accepts your manuscript for publication of your copyright protection. Please note that as of this writing (2009) to register for copyright; fees are $65 (paper print) and $35 (online).

If you decide to register your unpublished manuscript with a Copyright Office, be advised that you must inform the Editor who later accepts your manuscript for publication of your copyright protection.

If you decide not to register your writing, you are automatically protected under the Copyright Term Extension Act which protects your created works written during or after 1978.

So, let's thank our copyright-based business and keep those creative juices flowing. Let's keep on writing!

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5 Ways to Optimize Communication with an Elderly Stranger

Posted Sunday, August 02, 2009 (111 days 17 hours ago.) Viewed 65 times.

Have you ever turned to an elderly person just to be friendly and say Hi' then next thing you know you're engaged in a one sided conversation? Sometimes when you meet an elderly person you may feel bad or guilty as you walk away because you just don't know what to say. That is because most of the time when we accidentally meet an elderly person, they just want someone to talk to or someone to listen to them. Following are five helpful ways to help alleviate that bad feeling or guilt.

Five Ways to Optimize Communication with an Elderly Stranger:

1. Be genuinely interested in what that person is saying. Yes, it may sound boring to you and maybe you could care less. But at least for a moment, pretend that you do care and before you know it you will be engaged in a decent conversation.

2. Be a good listener. No, this doesn't mean you have to do reflective listening, it means that you acknowledge the other person speaking and you give that person your undivided attention. It's only for a short moment.

3. Don't give that glazed-over look. The kind that tells the other person non-verbally that you just don't care. Be aware of what you are doing with your eyes, and by all means, never roll your eyes while talking to an elderly person. Actions speak louder than words. Nod and smile.

4. Make an attempt to add your parts and pieces to the information the other person is relaying, for example, if that person is taking about their car, then talk about yours too. If they are talking about their pet, talk about yours too.

5. Never express your opinions regarding sex, religion, or politics. These elderly members of society have been around a while and have seen a lot. Never go head-to-head with any of these topics, if an argument ensues, you will never win.

Remember that these conversations are temporary and short lived, so be respectful and give that elderly person a few minutes of your time. You never know where that could lead. You'll be surprised how good you'll feel if you follow these five simple ways of communicating with an elderly stranger.

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5 Ways to Build Your 12-Step Support Network

Posted Sunday, August 02, 2009 (111 days 17 hours ago.) Viewed 14 times.

Now that you are involved in a 12-Step program of recovery for your addiction, whether alcohol, drugs, gambling, over-eating, sexual, etc., it is very important to have a network that will support your goal to succeed. Following are five ways that may help strengthen your support so you may succeed.

Five Ways to Build Your 12-Step Support Network:

1. A fellowship of 12-Step members: This is your strongest support in your 12-Step network. These are the people who understand how your program works, the meaning of your addiction, the consequences of relapse, and the benefits of abstinence. These are the members you can safely call on when you find yourself in need of unconditional support.

2. Family members: Your immediate family members are likely to be more willing to make an effort and get involved in your recovery, maybe even the ones who may appreciate your relapse prevention efforts. Besides, your family members are the ones who have seen your worst side and are more likely to welcome the more pleasant, new you.

3. Friends who are knowledgeable about addictions: Though your friends may only have surface knowledge of your addiction, it's you chance to be proactive and help them understand how addictions affect people's lives. They probably know someone in their lives they can make the association with. You won't know unless you share with them.

4. People who understand your need for abstinence: Get involved with people who understand the meaning of abstinence. Some people may say it's okay to do/have just a little, they'll keep an eye on you and you'll be okay. These types of people do not fully understand the concept of abstinence, or the serious consequences of relapse.

5. People who will not place your hard earned efforts in jeopardy: Some people actually don't understand addictions and may call it ‘an act of the will' and may even say to you, ‘come on, let's go here or there, all you have to do is not participate in your addiction'. They may mean well, but you don't want to place yourself in a situation you, and they may regret later.

Success in your recovery really depends on your efforts to make it work for you, and part of that effort must involve having a plan of action. In this case it is to build your 12-Step support network. By strengthening your support network, you increase your chances for success with your recovery goals.

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