RomanticAccord.ComOlalekan Ashiru (93)    Olalekan Ashiru   http://www.romanticaccord.com Questions To Ask Before Ending A RelationshipPosted Tuesday, August 05, 2008 (108 days 16 hours ago.) Viewed 89 times. Ending a relationship should always be the last resort in any relationship, before reaching that end one thing should have led to the other and the couples or partners involved in such relationship might have been seeing the hand writing on the walls that the relationship is heading toward a brick wall. However, since any marital relationship is a vow that was made initially between couple to be together till death do them part, certain last minute effort should still be made to know whether the relationship could still be restored. In order to do this, the couple may try asking, answering or discussing some questions either individually or together as the situation may permit, but should have it at the back of their mind that when it comes to matters of the heart, only honesty can do the magic. They should forget about asking about the 'love' word.. We all know that if you have been in a relationship for a while, saying "I love you" can become a habit instead of a feeling. They should just put all the cards on the table... if the person you are ending a relationship with feels the same way about ending it (and they just might), they can move straight to step 2, if things work out fine, good .But, if not they can part and go their separate ways... but if either party is clueless to the upcoming end, such that they may feel hurt, no matter how the break up happens. Then, they can try step 1 individually and if satisfied, step 2 could be discussed together. Anyone can make the first move here Step 1 Is this what you really want? Would your life be better or worse without this person? Would you regret it? Step 2 Do you think our relationship is working out well? Or are you happy with how things are with us? What do you think are the problems? What are those things we should be doing that we are presently not doing? Do you think we can have a second chance? Are you willing to try to make this work? What about the Children? (If any) If we were to break up could we still be friends? Some schools of thought believe that there may not be any right question to ask if you are considering ending a relationship, as it may not be easy to have this type dialogue between couples that are about going there separate ways, they are of the opinion that it sounds like an exit survey and nobody in such circumstances will be willing to take it. On the contrary, I believe it could still work out if the couples observe the signs early enough and still believe that there may be room for improvement. Lastly, listen to your heart before you tell him/her goodbye. 
Permalink Comments (1) Romantic Relationship Compatibility…issues That Should Not Be OverlookedPosted Sunday, June 22, 2008 (152 days 13 hours ago.) Viewed 190 times. Relationship Compatibility... What is it? It is simply the ability of people to live together without problems. What type of problems? A problem free relationship is the one in harmony, and when or where there is harmony, there is peace. Problem, whether big or small, would arise when the level of compatibility is low, and the issues involved are mainly those compatibility issues that the couples should not have overlooked. True compatibility is not measured by the argument about the positioning of the T.V. Shelve or what the color of the window blind in the visitors' room should be. If you ask average singles, what is it that they want in a partner, they would rather be telling you those physical qualities they would like to see in their Partner, like being tall, handsome, athletic, beautiful, and so on. But in reality, all these qualities are not necessarily issues that could not be overlooked. They are outward issues and have less important impact on compatibility. Now, how do you know when and if you are compatible with the person you are dating? The short and simple answer is : You don't. At least, not in the beginning. Clearly, you're not a mind reader. You need a way to think through the issues that can make or mar a relationship. It is the presence (or lack) of compatibility in any relationship that causes the relationship to last or causes it to fail. Consider these questions: How will you get along with another person? What will the highs and lows, be in the relationship? Is it a match made in heaven or hell? Usually, Astrology plays a role in providing a guide to couples or people involved in a relationship. Astrologers, through the use of charts, compares the interrelationship of two separate charts through which they can reveal the ways and levels that the two people can relate with each other. The romantic compatibility chart compares two people with regards to all the things that affect their ability to live in harmony with each other, from relationship personality and lifestyle to sexuality and passion. This is one of the most comprehensive ways available that will help you to understand how You should relate romantically with another person and how you both can better understand and appreciate each other. Actually, romantic compatibility relies more on couples or partners, and not just what astrology says. In view of the above, there are some relationship compatibility issues that should not be overlooked, which include but not limited to the following: 1.FAMILY UPBRINGING (CLASS AND RELIGION) This is a very important issue that should not be overlooked, as it may be difficult for an individual to change from the ways he/she grows with from childhood. It may be difficult for an individual from a very wealthy family background who has always been relating with people of the same class to now change over night and start seeing himself/herself relating with somebody(especially when you take the extended family into consideration) from the lower class of the society. Difference in religious belief should also be given serious consideration from beginning. If this is not properly considered and settled, the couple will always be viewing issues from different perspectives and this may lead to recurrent problems. 2.INTELLECTUAL COMPATIBILITY : There should be some reasonable level of compatibility here. A highly intelligent individual will always view issues from the angle of perfection and may not be able to tolerate , work or live with a mediocre. 3.SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY: There should be some manageable level of compatibility here, to avoid the likely result of sexual incompatibility, which includes cheating. 4.PERSONAL CHARACTER AND ATTITUDE : Laziness, Cleanliness, tolerance, friendship e.t.c. 5.INDIVIDUAL PREFERENCE : Life Goals, Business and Enterprise , Spending Habit and Life Style OTHER ISSUES : 1.COLOUR 2.ETHNICITY 3.PHYSICAL APPEARANCE The first two of the other issues above should be easy to manage except in a society where there is ethnic problem or racism. The last is normally a thing of the mind and should be easily managed depending on the individuals concerned. In conclusion, if these issues have been discussed with open mind and you think you both find each other compatible and that you love each other for sure, the romantic compatibility will grow slowly between you and your partner. Astrology just guide and gives you some important details that might help you in choosing your potential partner in future and certain aspects that will help you enhance your personality and building up the romantic compatibility in your relationship. Lastly, these issues could not be exhausted in a single article like this one, to have access to a more comprehensive discussion of the issues, visit http://www.romanticaccord.com
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