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Its About Damned Time Myrtle Beach Stand Up!

Posted Monday, February 23, 2009 (273 days 17 hours ago.) Viewed 35 times.

It's about damned time that Myrtle Beach stand up and start acting like the Family Beach' it portrays itself to be.

Copyright February 24, 2009, 12:22 AM All Rights Reserved

With this new Curfew , which has pretty much been in force in our neighboring cities and townships, Myrtle Beach's parents (both local residents and visitors), whom thinks that they Boulevard will raise their, will soon get a slap in the face when their phone rings at three AM and it's Myrtle Beaches finest on the other end.

Now they are telling you that Your child has been detained by the Myrtle Beach Police Department and it is your responsibility to keep your kid from roaming the streets alone (at all hours of the day and night) unsupervised, so come pick this kid up and take responsibility of your creation. Remember you can be charged with your kids offenses.

Myrtle Beach and the Grand Strand has been a magnet for people of all ages; young and old. Some flock here, as a refuge, from some involvement with the legal system, somewhere else, and seem to get lost' among the locals. At least now the young and impressionable will get the chance to be steered in the right direction sooner.

Fewer and fewer kids will be able to be exposed to the mature elements that a Tourist Attraction like Myrtle Beach has to offer during the hours of the curfew. I have personally witnessed children, as young as 9 years old, who's parents thought it is actually ok for them to just say "Ok mom, I'm going swimming now, I'll see you later." And be allowed to run amuck through the streets alone. That was 9 AM.

No one checked on them, no one bothered to even wonder where the kids were or what they were doing or even gave one thought to who they may be talking to. The kid comes home when ever they want to, even as late as 2 or 3 O'clock in the morning.

Even though is seems like our children are absorbing more information, quicker than previous generations, it is solely due on what elements you allow your child to be exposed that will shape them. Another issue to consider would be how mature these kids really are to handle it.

Your kids are our future. These kids need guidance and supervision. They do not know how to handle adult-like situations. As a parent it is your job to guide them. Not the guy who runs the T-Shirt stand down by the Pavilion. Oh, but that's only while your kid is there. Kids are adventurous.

You just never know where their imaginations may take them and what kind of danger or trouble they can get into. People if you are going to produce offspring please Remember that they are YOUR responsibility.

You must ensure that they are supervised, At All Times until which time that they have demonstrated, to you, that they are responsible enough to be alone and are not going to be endangering themselves or others.

Read it, learn it and live it.

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Holidays Are Opportunities To Celebrate- Why Wait For a Holiday?

Posted Saturday, February 21, 2009 (276 days 11 hours ago.) Viewed 6 times.

I know that you are most likely dealing with holiday rush at the moment and are probably feeling a bit stressed with the added responsibilities, activities, and expectations of the season. That's why I want to take this time to focus on the topic of holidays.

Holidays are opportunities for us to celebrate cultural, communal, and personal occasions such as historical events, spiritual practices, ancestry, community, family, co-workers, loved ones, and much more.

These times, which are primarily associated with happy feelings and pleasant activities, are important to us. They help us to celebrate life! However, the downside of holidays is that we can limit our celebration of gifts, flowers, and special declarations of friendship and love to those dedicated days of the year!

My question is why do we have to wait for a holiday in order to honor our life and those we share it with?

Why not send flowers or give that special gift to someone you care about just because you feel like it or to let them know you thought about them?

Or send a friendly card or cheerful email to someone you are close with or someone you want to reach out to?

Or take a moment to say hello or smile at someone on the street or someone you come in contact with?

These personal moments can be very enriching for all involved

But taking the time to make your daily life special shouldn't be limited to just doing something nice with others. It is equally important for you to do something nice for yourself on a regular basis, whether it's a walk in the park or a long hot bubble bath, or even just a break from thinking about daily worries and stress. The time you spend treating yourself well will give you a happier, healthier, and more peaceful outlook. You should take time out for yourself every day.

I hope that my words will help you to put the current holiday craziness into perspective. After all, this time should be about togetherness, giving, and rejoicing. But let's remember that we don't have to wait for a set occasion to do this. You can do something special for yourself and for someone around you any time you feel the need. We all deserve the benefits of a festive holiday, any day, any time the spirit moves us.

May this holiday season help you to obtain peace of mind and a calmed heart and to light the holiday spirit in your life for yourself and those around you.

Blessed Be to each of you and yours and Happy Holidays!

Priestess Kandi

Copyright 2007- 2009 Priestess Kandi Ranson 12/13/2007 4:00 AM

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What is a Good Teacher? General Use

Posted Thursday, February 12, 2009 (285 days 12 hours ago.) Viewed 47 times.

Generally:

Has a sense of humor... Humans do silly things sometimes, and a sense of humor can help keep things in perspective. A good teacher will help you laugh with and at yourself (and them), but will not hold you up to ridicule.
Has respect for all living things... One need not be a vegetarian to care about the lives and welfare of animals. Environmental concerns are important. The gift of our environment needs respect to last. Abuse of any living thing is pretty much a "no-no" and this should be our first instinct.
Has a healthy self image... A teacher who realizes that he or she can learn just as much from a novice as the novice may learn from the teacher is probably comfortable in what they know, yet are still open to new ideas and concepts.
Is kind and compassionate... This doesn't mean that you will not be challenged or have to work hard, but it does mean that your honest efforts will be met with encouragement and gentle guidance. A good teacher will not "look down his or her nose" at your sincere attempts; they do realize that experience is necessary to gaining knowledge and Knowledge is Power.
Tells the truth and is direct... This means that you will not be led astray, either, by one who is afraid to confront you when you are heading in a wrong direction; or by one who seeks to manipulate you for unspoken ends. They call a spade a spade and want you to do the same. They 'walk their talk" and do not have a separate code of conduct for themselves while expecting others to follow what they teach.
Is able to teach by example... The good teacher will often tell stories of the time that they really 'screwed up". They also can tell you about their successes and failures and do so-neither making excuses or being overly melodramatic about their experiences. They can offer practical examples and show applications of such examples clearly. They are not "mysterious" so much as they demonstrate the "mysteries", in simple ways, to help you understand them.
Has a global point of view... Local "gurus' may only be interested in making a name or creating a following for themselves. A good teacher will encourage their students to reach beyond the local area and embrace the rest of the world as a community.
Allows for mistakes and admits that he/she is not perfect... "We are all in this together" is a good statement to hear from a teacher that you are considering working with.

I always say "Teamwork only works if you work it."I was taught that :

Together

Everyone

Achieves

More

Is flexible, yet honors commitments... Too rigid a set of rules and regulations stifles energy flow and the learning experiences. Too random a training program may also interfere in the discipline required for growth. A balance between the two is best, for without balance you not have a sufficient teaching / learning environment
Encourages you to do your own research and ask questions... A good teacher wants you to discover and explore new ideas. A good book list should be included in any training program. You should be able to disagree with a teacher without being censored or reprimanded.

(A well thought out concept should be "thought provoking" however and not just "provoking".).

Gives credit where credit is due... A teacher who is using references or techniques from other sources should plainly state this fact. The use of other people's work without credit is theft, plain and simple. This practice is known and plagiarism.
Listens more than talks... A good teacher is genuinely interested in your thoughts, feelings and opinions. Feedback is one way that a teacher can tell you how you are absorbing and integrating the materials and lessons. Someone who talks all the time about his/her experiences is more interested in impressing you with their personal knowledge than helping you to acquire knowledge of your own.
Wants you to mature and move on... A good teacher wants his or her students to surpass them. That is the greatest compliment that a teacher can receive. Just as a good parent wants to send mature and well balanced children out into the world, so does a good well rounded teacher wants their "children" to grow up and leave home, with all the necessary skills to be successful and decent beings; who play well with others and are honest.

ON THE OTHER HAND: ...

You Should AVOID a teacher who:

Possesses a superior a attitude... If a teacher states or implies that they are the sole holder of some sort of "special" or "secret" knowledge disclosed only to a "chosen few", you really don't want to know what that may be.
Excludes or belittles members of any race or culture... Bigotry, of any kind ,has no place in educational environments what so ever.
Is attacking or violent... Obviously this is not a person you want to be exposed to.
Is either overly sensitive or too insensitive... Someone who either sees slights and attacks where there are none, or ignores actual tangible problems, may not be in touch with "reality". It is just best to leave them to their own little fantasy world and find a Good Teacher.
Is ingratiating... Someone who is overly friendly and shares intimate details of their personal life with you almost immediately may be looking to "win you over." This is a real danger sign that is often overlooked. By "baring their soul", they encourage you to do the same in return. This "instant intimacy" can leave you vulnerable to manipulation and abuse. Go slowly when meeting someone new. Never disclose too much personal information about yourself until you know that your teacher can be trusted to keep you information private and will not use it against you later.
Is controlling... No teacher should expect your to abandon your family and friends. Isolation from the rest of society is a classic cult activity which can prove dangerous, detrimental to your well being or fatal to you or others. You should not be expected to run errands or perform tasks. Team work only works if you work it! Sometimes you and the teacher will work out a "fair exchange of energy" in return for training. Make sure it IS fair. If you feel like you are being taken advantage of, you probably are.
Is continually canceling classes after you have paid for your course... This is a classic indication that they simply have your money and no longer cares about fulfilling the original agreement. If they are postponing classes for lengthy periods of time, you may have a real problem on your hands.
Belittles you or uses you as an "example"... Your deserve to be treated with respect even if they are a novice. No teacher has the right to strip you of your self esteem. You should not be bullied into doing something that makes you uncomfortable or that you do not completely understand.

On the other hand, being held up to others as the "teacher's pet" is also incorrect and this teacher may be setting you up for something that you may not want to become involved in.

Has few or no "elders" in their group... "Where are the people who have been trained before me?" is a good question to ask. Perhaps they DID mature and move on... or perhaps they just ran screaming from the room!...It pays to check references of past students. Talk to anyone you can find who has trained with this teacher; before you make the decision to train under them.
Wants a lot of money up front... You should be able to get a class schedule or other outline of what the training will consist of BEFORE you sign up and pay for your education. Look it over carefully and ask questions. It may not be a good value. Degrees and titles are earned, They are not bought...or sold.
Has assistants, cohorts or senior students who you are expected to obey... Some groups do have a system of 'elders' who deserve respect. However, you are not obligated to accept anyone simply based on their "rank" within a group. If the teacher has an "entourage" which follows them everywhere and seems to "cater" to this teacher's every whim, watch carefully. You may end up finding yourself as being the next "groupie."
Is overly idealistic and impractical... If this teacher has marvelous plans for the world-and especially if they tell YOU that you will be a part of this grand scheme-but he/she cannot balance their checkbook, take care of their children or hold onto a job, you want to leave now. You may end up not only shoring up these "dream castles", by supporting this person financially and emotionally. Education is a Path of parental responsibility and a parent they should be able to Not allow these influences to manifest this in their own live.

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Exhibits any of these characteristics... lying, sexual misconduct, theft, physical violence or abuse are definitely Red Flags to stay away from. This is Just common sense. Use your instincts and good judgments when choosing a teacher in any subject or environments.