Why do we feel obligated to tip everyone these days?
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We tip the waiter- the hairdresser-.....the Butcher- the Baker- the Candlestick maker..........tipping for services we've already paid for- and yet we are made to feel like selfish unsophisticated ingrates if we don't follow this societal demand.
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Why do we tip on the dollar amount of food? It's just as much effort to serve a steak as it is a hamburger....why not tip according to the number of people being served instead......this is just one of the little formulas that our society has developed, which seem to be irritatingly askew......
In the first place, who invented such rule as paying a tip when we eat in a restaurant or drink in a bar ? Even you go for a haircut or hairdo, some people give 2 or 5 bucks extra to that shampoo girl or the hair stylist respectively. I seldom tip because I think I have paid what is stated on the menu, unless otherwise but it is not very compulsory we must pay a tip. It's optional !
Of course it's optional- but what I don't care for is the idea that it's come to be expected..........
I've wondered this myself but never had the courage to go against the practice. I do feel a tip is more deserved at some times than at others. I have so many food allergies that eating out for me is problematic and I usually take the server to the brink of frustration ... and beyond. So on the rare occasion that Bernd and I eat out, we tip our server(s) nicely.
I never understood tipping the person who cut my hair. But now that I do that myself, I don't have that dilemma. I cut Bernd's hair too.
I think we do it because we've been told we need to do it and because everyone else does it. If we could all stop it all at once, we'd probably feel better about not tipping. Then, generally speaking, food servers are paid only minimum wage and rely on tips for the majority of their income. If we stopped tipping them, their employers would have to pay them more money because I am sure the servers would complain. That might actually increase the cost of a meal beyond the listed prices plus taxes plus tips. You never know.
Every now and then a patient is so happy with how my husband (an optician) has helped them that they give him a tip. Some of the tips have been substantial. As a show of genuine appreciation for someone going out of their way to help you get what you want or need, I do think tips are warranted. As a matter of course and done without thought out of a sheer need to conform to the norm, I'm not so sure.
Having once worked as a waiter, and once driven a taxi, I tend to very much overtip to both.
I have always been hyper conscious of those eking a living as a "service person", a janitor, busboy, bellhop, waitress,
room service, those who make your bed and scrub the tub, after you've checked out.
I always feel obliged to overtip because they are invisible to most people .
You are such a kind and generous person......but it's not that I'm selfish...most of the time it's the fact that those people actually have a lot more money than I do.......
Tipping is appreciated for good service. I tip based on that. Many times in food service they are paid less than minimum wage, plus tips. So they rely on tips to make up the difference. As for hairdressers, they have to pay for booth rent, their own supplies (hairspray, gel, sanitizers) that they use on you, so the tips help offset the costs.
I don't tip a crabby waiter!!!! I also do not tip 18% gratiuity unless it is a extremly nice restaurant.
In a nutshell: I tip waiters, hairdressers, the farrier(horseshoer),and dog groomer.
I do not tip medical personnel (come on, really?),hotel staff, janitors (when I was a janitor I was grateful if they remembered to share a donut with me)or anyone else.
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