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Asked by Sydney Harrell 2 years 83 days ago.

What do you think affects our sexuality/sexual orientation? Instinct, experiences, etc?



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People have varying opinions on this. Some believe we would be naturally straight because of our instinct to procreate if we were "normal", some believe our experiences and upbringing decide our sexuality, some believe we truly choose, and some believe it's a combination of all of the above.

What do you, personally, think?

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» Answer from Jean Horst Answer given 2 years 83 days ago.
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Personally, I think it is a complex combination of all of the above. Just like all human behaviors. I have 3 children, they were all born with very distinct characteristics, likes, dislikes, behavior patterns. I can work to shape those or help them learn to control them but I can't change them fundamentally.

» Comment from Sydney Harrell Comment made 2 years 83 days ago.
Thank you Jean, I agree with you completely on this, I think it is a combination, I think many things play into what decides our sexual orientation. Thank you for answering!

-Sydney

» Comment from Terrence Aubrey Comment made 2 years 76 days ago.
I agree Jean, one of the many marvels of parenthood and something that is a shared revelation for many parents is the individuality of our offspring. I have three sons, they share many physical similarities, but they are each one of them very distinctive, very different. One of the marvels of life.

It is as through we arrive here with a degree of preset genetic code that to some extent pre detirmines our likes and dislikes and I guess our sexuality is part of that programing.

» Answer from Ella Camp Answer given 2 years 83 days ago.
Jean said, albiet in different words- exactly what I would have said....no sense in me repeating it.....Good question Sydney.....

» Comment from Sydney Harrell Comment made 2 years 83 days ago.
Thanks, Ella. I was curious about what people thought on the subject.


» Answer from Hilda Cang Answer given 2 years 83 days ago.
I think it's what we called our instinct to procreate sexuality following our experiences and so forth. We may not be affected by our upbringing to decide our sexuality urges. Don't you agree ?

» Comment from Sydney Harrell Comment made 2 years 82 days ago.
I agree, but aspects of our upbringing can cause us, out of fear/shame to suppress and or redirect our sexual urges.


» Answer from Bruce Horst Answer given 2 years 83 days ago.
I used to believe that everyone was naturally 'straight' and only because of some sort of deviance or life experience, strayed from being straight.

Then I became aware of someone with no genitalia.

This made me wonder if it was wrong for this person to take on either a male or female role. The obvious conclusion is that it wouldn't be wrong, the person was born this way, it would be a matter of preference.

Eventually I concluded that male and female is not a 100% one way or the other. Sure, most of the time the physical attributes are one or the other, but mentally, emotionally, and often hormonally it's not completely one way or the other.

There was an issue of Time a few years ago which addressed this. I remember it talked about the 'yuck' factor. Most people opposed to homosexuality can't get past the 'yuck'. This is usually negated when a person actually become friends with someone who is homosexual, much like when a person is racist and then gets to know someone who is of a different race, or when someone is a xenophobic and then gets to know someone who is from another country.

This is one reason why I love the TV show Modern Family!

» Comment from Sydney Harrell Comment made 2 years 82 days ago.
Hi Bruce, I see what you mean. I had a friend years ago in Arizona before I moved back to Georgia who was female, but you truly wouldn't know that she was female if she didn't tell you, she was simply masculine. Her name was Brianna, later on in life she changed her name to "Brian".


» Answer from Paul Schroeder Answer given 2 years 79 days ago.
Sex, is not the answer.

Sex, is the question; the answer, is "YES".

I have heard that homosexuality as a preference, reflects a spiritually latent 'carry over', from a previous lifetime, when our sexual identities and 'roles' were 'reversed'.

Women's bodies are complex, life-giving, works of art; men's bodies, by comparison are simple and utilitarian, like Jeeps.

» Answer from David Levitt Answer given 2 years 75 days ago.
All of the above, and then some. Sexual preference is as varied as snowflakes in that each have their own unique identities. In the animal kingdom there are many sexual preferences as well, and to the best of my knowledge they do not have the mental capacity to discriminate or discern as to why they have their certain proclivities, so using this as an indicator this seems to rule out choice, although as humans we certainly have the ability to deny.

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