Do you think that children should be spanked as a form of disciplne?
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Yes...slap on the butt works. I don't believe in beating a child with a belt or fist, but a good slap on the butt when needed...YES !! Good Lord the kids these days are not scared of anything and are all running the country, and they have no respect at all !!
That's my opionion
is it legal where we live?!
It's legal in Canada to slap a child on the bum only with your hand....up to 3 times.
I asked my friend who is a police officer in converstion one day....but when i give a swat on the butt, it's one or two smacks with my hand only, and it doesn't happen very often, only when neccessary!
I usally take something away, or if they have a day at the park planned or something like that, they can't go. Or their friends can't come and play here for a day or vise versa.....actually this works better than the slap on the bum.
I do actually think that there are times when it is appropriate. But it needs to be handled well and the physical punishment should be given immediately that the child has committed an offense.
I believe there is an age past which spanking is no longer effective and the use of it just creates resentment. Once a child can reason for itself, spanking becomes demeaning and not educational. And it should never be done in the fashion that I received most of mine: "Your father is going to spank you when he gets home." Heaven forbid that I had offended my mother early in the day!
I don't believe there is a formula for figuring out when one should stop using spanking as an educational tool. Parents should (hopefully) pay good attention to the development of their children and be aware when reasoning with them becomes possible. Until then a swift, corrective swat to the buttocks will get the point across simply and plainly.
I do not think taking a belt to the buttocks or the calves or the backs of the thighs is necessary. Nor is the use of a wooden paddle (all of which were done to me). It is the sudden surprise of the smack of a hand that grabs the child's attention and makes them take note.
And it should never, never, never be done in anger. It should always be remembered that it is an educational tool and that only.
again it depends on the constitutional law stating in your jurisdiction
I may be totally ignorant about the issue, but I do not believe any states have said that it is illegal to corporeally punish your children. The problem arises in determining was is reasonable punishment and what constitutes physical abuse. The issue is further muddied by access to information that I did not have when I was a child. Today's children see on television and the Internet all sorts of reports of other children calling authorities or 911 when they have been beaten by their parents. Suddenly, it then seems that any punishment might be reported.
Yeah I don't agree with the belt either Dianne...I got that lots to and now that I am 46 years old and think back about it, my feelings toward that is resentment to my parents. But.....that's what they knew and that's what I am stopping !! Stop the cycle...now to stop the cycle of growling all the time...which is harder to do...good greif
Belts, paddles, switches ... they should burn them all. :) I figure if you are going to spank your child you should use only your hand so that it hurts you too. It's a good reminder not to let it get out of hand. Pun intended.
Hi Dianne: Nice to be back here again, having a hard time here on this end of the world right now. But back to the Pun Intended...HAHA funny. I can remember counting the times I would get the belt...1 wack 2..3...5..7 and then my sister. I remember trying to get away and kicking and screaming and just terrible anxiety, fright, it was horrible...I never want to do that to the kids. I remember when my sister was getting it first I wish it was me first to get it over with, but as I got older, I toughened up and didn't cry, fight back or anything, I just grit and beared it and then laughed at my parents Then I married a man that hit me, and I would just say...is that the best ya can do? Mind you I left him. I never dated anyone yet and it's been two and a half years, and actually if I did, I would probably pick someone the same all over again, just different.
So, beating a kid severly does something bad to their mind and it stays in their subconscience in who they pick for a husband/wife or whatever in the future. I don't know. But the mental abuse of being told your stupid and dumb and a bother to everyone or you can't do anything right....hurts worse, and that's harder to fix. I would rather have the belt than be told I was worthless and stupid.
Kathy, that last bit is so true. That kind of abuse is far harder to overcome. But I still didn't like being hit ... not with the hand, belt or paddle. I too finally came to a place where I didn't cry or yell or respond in any way. At that point, they stopped hitting me. If I'd only known, right? Then they started restricting me to my room for punishment. I'd get home from school and have to go straight to my room. Took my meals in there too. And the thing is, I wasn't really a bad child. They could pick on the tiniest of issues and make it huge. Oh well, water under the bridge and all that. And just when I think I've made progress in forgiving and forgetting, I have another go at it ... like right now. :)
Total Answers: 3, Total Page Views: 708.This is really a difficult question because the answer is dependent upon the child's parents. There are some parents that are able to discipline their children by appropriate spanking and the children learn whatever lesson is being taught and no one is worse for the experience. Then there are parents that go too far, not necessarily because they intend to, but because the situation gets totally out of control. In that case, the answer is a very definite 'no'.
We have gone full circle in this country as far as children. Where children were taught to respect everyone, they now respect no one and are basically 'out of control'.
Whether or not you choose to discipline your child with spanking I feel it should start when they are relatively young. If you start when they're young they should learn the basics early and spanking no longer becomes necessary.
gender is dreived at the age of three
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