How do you say "I'm sorry" to someone who has lost a loved one?
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A week ago my brother-in-law passed away while the entire family and a gathering of friends were having a picnic. It was so sudden and my sister and children were in shock and devastated. I immediately flew to be with her, hugged her, I felt her pain and I said, "Fe, I am so sorry. It is God's will and he did not suffer, he is in God's hand now." with that said, my sister was consoled and I did the same with the children.
If you are interested, I have written a poem for my late brother-in-law at www.Searchwarp.com
My sister and her family just lost a loved one. How do I say "I am sorry for your loss." ? It came to me as I was in the plane returning from Minnesota to Rhode Island from the wake and the funeral services...write a poem as a tribute!
So I did, wrote a poem in his memory. This morning, my sister and my nieces called me to thank me for the poem. She was crying but she said it helped a lot in their trying to cope this very difficult time. I think this is the best answer.
Best regards to you and yours,
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I have seen a lot of heartache suffered in people who have lost a loved one, and I myself have also suffered it too. What can a person say other than sorry, there is nothing really anything you can say but that you are sorry to hear of your loss.
I would however give my condolences and tell them that I will always be there if they need someone to talk to, or need a shoulder to cry on
Try to comfort the person, but say as little as possible; because no matter how hard we try, we can't feel the loss or relieve the pain that they are feeling at that moment. Sometimes just being there or holding them while they cry says more than words.
» Answer from Roger Guzman, M.D. Answer given 4 years 74 days ago.Hi Steven,
Since I believe actions speak louder than words, I just give the one who lost a loved one a hug and then I tell him if there is anything I can do for him, just say it and I will get it done.
You don't say, "I'm sorry" ... why would you say that? What are you sorry for? "Mourn with those that mourn" ... nobody is sorry, but saddened. Acknowledge and respect the person's time of sadness. Say, "I know it's sad/hard for you, and if you need me for anything, I'm here for you ... just call".
Sometimes the best thing you can do is just hug them and let them know you are there for them.
Whatever you say, don't try to explain their loss to them, that's the last thing they want to hear even from their closest friends.
With a hug and your ears.
I don't think you say sorry, just look at them and tell them in all sincerity "if you need anything, just let me know".
The real kicker is to actually mean it and do just that, if you're ever asked.
Total Answers: 11, Total Page Views: 27,649.I say "So sorry" it all depends on who and the family and the situation of their death actually. A friend of mine passed away in September from a horrible accident and I just told the family how sorry I was and how blessed I was to have had that person in my life and that if there is anything I can do let me know.
It's different in all situations......not fun standing in line trying to think of what words to say, they'll come to you, and if you can't say anything that's ok to. Hugs are always good!
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