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Telling Someone You Like Them, without saying a word. How to get That Man/Woman, without risk of face to face rejection.

Posted Friday, April 25, 2008 (1 year 209 days ago.) Viewed 19,101 times.

There are so many ways to tell someone that you like them. If you want that man/woman, let him know with more than just words. For those of you who are afraid to tell someone you like them, or just choke up every time you try, then stop trying to tell them. It's ok that you can't talk. It's ok that you are shy. There are other ways of getting the point across, that is discreet, and can save you facing a possible rejection face to face.

For reading ease, and avoidance of typing drama, this article is written for the girls. But it is understood that it works for the boys, too.

Hi Girls, ohhh you are so not alone. So many girls are afraid to tell a guy that they are into them, mostly for fear of rejection and losing their friendship. There are a few things you could do, and how about I give you a few suggestions, and you can see which one is right for you?

Number one: Ignore him.

So many guys have come to me and said, so and so and I are friends, now she's ignoring me. It's bugging me, why is she ignoring me? What does she want?

Reply: She wants you silly.

I don't mean cold shoulder, ignore, as in your mad at him, but just walk by without saying hello and going all gaga just because he's in the same room. Act like you haven't met him before, and don't start conversations with him. It sounds strange, but it drives guys nuts. Nothing gets a guys attention more than being ignored. They don't know what's going on inside your head, but it makes you more interesting to them, and they suddenly will take an interest in you, because you just became a challenge.

Number two: Body Language.

f you can't ignore him, examine the body language and figure out if he's into you.

Does his eyes light up when he sees you?

And a bright smile follow?

Do you get any vibes that he's interested, for example: Does he pay extra attention to you, over the others, prefers to sit beside you over your friends?

If you are getting the vibes, maybe it's because he's sending them to you.

Number three: Flirting.

I have a great article about flirting tips with body language, you should check out, to see more on effective ways how. There are different flirting methods you can try. If you are too shy to talk, then don't. You can use your curves, your eyes, your walk, and get your girl friends to watch him from one side of the room, as you walk past him, and when you can't see him anymore. Get the girls to watch and see if he's watching you walk by. It works. If he's checking you out, after you can no longer see him, then he's into you.

Number four: Give him your number.

Oh, and you could also write down your first name and cell phone number, on a piece of paper, with little hearts drawn on it-and say something cute like,

  • Friday night's good for me.
  • Or if somethings going on, like a bunch of you are going to the movies, or somewhere, you can slip him your cell number, (or msn chat) and say something like: Going to the Movies Friday night, for a personal invite, call.
  • You could just put on some lipstip and leave a kiss on the paper beside your name. That's really forward, and he'll get the point.
  • You could also write, I think your sweet, cute, hot, or a sexy beast.
  • How bout a date?
  • You can stop wondering, Yes, I'm single.
  • Did you know, my friends think we'd make a great couple?
You can get creative about what you would say, you don't have to put yourself out there to the point that you could make a fool of yourself if he rejects you. If you don't hear from him, and see him often, he has plenty of opportunity to tell you he lost your cell phone number, or little piece of paper, then you know he's not into you. And you can move on.

Number 5: If he has your cell phone number all ready.

And you are friends, but you want to move on to the next level, and you don't know if that's what he wants, and you are too shy to say anything.. then don't talk. There are plenty of ways of saying something without conversation. Send him a txt message, with one of the sentiments above. Flirt back and forth through txt messages and see where it goes. Send him one that says,

you're such a hottie..

Wanna hang out this weekend, just you and me, you sexy beast?

Hooking up with you, works for me.. case you were wondering?

And lastly,

Yeah, just had a cancel so I'm free this Friday night.. so we can do something, and send it to his text by accident. Opps.

Number 6: Send him an ecard.

You could send him an ecard, that's cute, mushygushy.com has the cutest ecards I've ever seen, and say one of the sentiments above in it.

Like, Friday night works for me.

Or incase you were wondering, Yes, I'm single. It's forward, but it's also discreet.

No one sees it but him, and then he can let you down easy, or jump back with a reply to let you know that he's into you.

Hope some of these suggestions were helpful, good luck hunny. If he's not into you, it's ok, there is someone out there that would love to be with you-and it means by not hooking up with him, leaves you available for your special one.

Here's some body language flirting tips.

Flirting tips/ with body language.

Peace and Love,

Sacreeta


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Suffering In Silence? You Can Help Yourself, When You're Dating a No Show Cheat.

Posted Thursday, April 24, 2008 (1 year 210 days ago.) Viewed 426 times.

Suffering in Silence because you are 'Dating' a No Show lying smooth talking cheat? Is he running around on me? How do you pick up the pieces and move on, or even begin to move on, when you have been lied to soo many times, that you are having a hard time figuring out what is real anymore?
 
As with my other Love Advice articles, I am using a 'he', and it is understood he and she. For ease of reading, and writing it.

This article is a continuation to my article on the signs of living with a no show, being the wife, the serious girlfriend. But what about the other woman. What if she doesn't know anymore about you, then you know about her?

Detecting a cheating lover, who is a no show, and is geared toward the effects it has on you. During your read today, forget about him, or proving anything. You need to look into your heart, and listen to the answer that you already know, but are afraid to face. Don't pay attention to the lies that were dummed in your head. You can deal with it, so be strong, and just read, and be honest with yourself.

Over time, if you stay with a no show, what can happen is-- Your self-worth will go to a standstill, some times it goes backward, and you'll start to live with a silent suffering, that is unnecessary. And the longer it drags on, the harder it is to get out of.

How do you know you're dating a no show?

No Commitment.
When you tell him that you were out on the town, with your friends, he acts cavalier, and doesn't pursue the topic of you picking up someone else. Even if it's brought up, he won't bite. The conversation you have with him about this, leaves you the impression that he has no more right to ask you not to fall for some handsome man out there, than you would be of him falling for some gorges chick. He also acts like he has no right to care, if you have a male guest in your house that he doesn't know when he shows up. And either doesn't come in, or leaves before he crosses your threshold. As if he doesn't want anyone to know he knows you.

* Sounds like he's not jealous. Some guys aren't. But when it leaves you feeling like he's bascially saying you're not a couple, when you're sleeping together, then yes, he's showing a sign of a no show.

Stay away from my personal life.
If you figure out where he works, and you show up, he acts like he doesn't know you, and seems angry that you are there. He tells you to never do that again, or he'll never speak to you. In some cases, you aren't even sure where he lives.

He's the running no show joke, with your friends.
Is he the running joke with your friends, as the phantom boyfriend, and they all start nick naming him No Show Joe, for example?

Stands you up, when it's party night.
He will make plans with you on a Friday night, and not show up, expecting you to stay in waiting for him. Then get angry if you bring it up, with no explanation, and a threat to leave you if you bring it up again.

Cagey and secretive, about his personal life.
If you ask him simple things about his past loves, try to get him to share his life, who his friends are he becomes defensive, and sometimes insulting. He uses the excuse, don't ask me about my personal life, I find jealousy insulting and I won't be with a jealous person.
 
* Hunny, if he's blackmailing you with the fear that if you say anything, it's jealousy, that's a load of bull. There can be jealousy in a relationship, true that has nothing to do with love but there is moving onto a new level in your relationship where meeting their friends and family is natural. Keeping you in the dark using the threat of leaving you for being jealous is a lame excuse. That is playing on your emotions, trying to challenge you not to be a typical female, (male) and that is one of the oldest tricks of emotional blackmail.

Calls you clingy, when you are getting too close.
Another form of emotional blackmail is when he tells you that he doesn't like clingy, needy women. Making you feel if you want to be part of his life, that he won't like you anymore and will leave you. There are clingy, needy women (men) out there, but that's extreme cases. Those people are co-dependent, and are an entire different issue. But when you are dating for months, and months, and you naturally want to know about his past, his dreams, where he works.. his cell phone number. That's natural, common, and not clingy.
 
Walks the other way when you see him in public.
If he's with anyone, espeically a woman. He will quickly turn a heel and walk the other way when he sees you in public. He will become angry with you if you ever dare ask who she is. Even if he's with the guys, he'd still ignore you in public.
 
Stranger danger.
If he ever took you out in public, it's to a place niether of you have been to before. And it's never to the same place twice. If he did take you out, he shuts off his cell phone, and makes excuses to leave if he sees anyone he or you know.

What is common in realtionships, that a no show will try to make you overlook?

Calling them your boyfriend.
It is common to refer to them as your boyfriend (girlfriend) if you are having a sexual relationship for six months. People have gotten engaged in shorter lengths than that. But you know he'd blow a gasket if you called him your boyfriend.. so you don't.

If they are shaming you for calling them your boyfriend, (girlfriend) become cagey and agitated when you refer to them that way, they are not respecting you, and the‘exclusive' privileges' you are giving them to your intimate parts. That isn't healthy for you, and it won't get better, if they continue to treat you that way. 

Showing up more than twice a month.
It is comomon to expect to see your boyfriend more than twice a month, and you only see him twice a month, and he uses the lame excuse that he was busy, busy, busy. And gets angry if you ask him about it, and says things like. Well I'm here now. That is the most classic sign of a no show. Usually given by a married man, or a man in a serious relationship that he doesn't want you to know about.
 
Using you for sex.
The only time you see him is when he wants sex, and then he dashes off. A no show will systematically show up, every two weeks, or what ever his routine is, look for bedroom activities, and shoot off after it's over. It really hurts you, but you can't say anything to him about it, or try to get conversation in with him, because he never talks with you.
 
Exclusive rights to your body is something that is earned hunny, and treating you with disrespect is not earning anything. It will eventually make you feel cheap, used, and worthless. Your self esteem will fade, no matter how hard you try to fight it.

You have never met his family or friends.
If you are not having unrealistic expectations about your relationship, and are being shamed for it, then you are emotionally being blackmailed. If your lover loves you, they will be proud to show you off to their family and friends. What you are feeling about the levels of your relationship is normal, and after being with him for a few months, up to six, you should have met his family by now. And if you are wondering why, it's because he's keeping you as a secret.

It's up to you, how long you sit around wasting your life, you can break the emotional hold they have over you and you can move on. But only you can decide how much you can take.

If you don't like being second best, then don't be.

There are a few things that you could keep in the back of your mind when you are stuck with a no show.

  1. Remember that the majority of guys are sincere when it comes to women, and you'd have to be unlucky to run into a no show, but it can happen, to the best of us.
  2. There are good guys out there, who will treat you like gold and give you the respect that you deserve.. but you have to free yourself first from the no show, and find the happiness you deserve.
  3. Listen to your friends when they tell you the truth, they are tyring to help, because they love you and worry about you.
  4. Don't be afraid to break-up with him, he is wasting your time, and your precious life. Precious time that you can't get back.
  5. Plus you could catch some type of disease or creepy crawlers, which is common with people who have multiple partners.
  6. It's unfair to you to be faithful to someone who is not faithful to you.
  7. Know you are worth every effort that a man puts into a woman, when he's in love, and you deserve no less than that.
  8. When he tells you that he is only afraid of commitment, remember that introducing you to his friends is something a guy does to show you off.. and has nothing to do with commitment.

When you start to think something is wrong with you, that he is ashamed of you, and start to feel bad about yourself because he won't go out in public with you.. Think again, you are suffering in silence and now it's affecting your entire outlook on life, and yourself, and you really need to get away from the situation.

Even if you believe him that he is afraid of commitment, and the relationship you are in is making you feel sad, edgy and unsettled, and it's not giving you all that you need and want, it's ok to say that you deserve better. And remember, no one will give you better, you have to go out and get it for yourself.
 
If he is a no show cheating sly dog, you will probably be the last to know, if you ever learn the whole truth. If he fits into the signs above, he could be using you as the other woman.
 
Knowing or not, what it all really boils down to is, does he make you happy?  Is the relationship giving you what you want and deserve?. It's up to you, you know your situation better than anyone. Take care with all your choices, and good luck.
 

Be well.

Sacreeta


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