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Unleash Your Infinite Potential

Posted Thursday, March 05, 2009 (248 days 14 hours ago.) Viewed 107 times.

Forget all self-help. That's right, forget it all.

Forget NLP, hypnosis and subliminal trash. (!)

I've tried zillions of self-help sites myself, and I don't think they make a difference. Honestly. They are really just another excuse to waste your time. You don't need it.

Don't waste your time.

Yes, you need advice, tips and strategies, but not technologies'. No technology can change the human mind; no CD can do the trick. Only a burning desire for achieving one's goal can. Let go of all of that. It doesn't work. And it doesn't have to.

YOU have to work. YOU have an immense potential in yourself. Every human being is a soul filled with immeasurable power. The wellspring of possibilities inside you holds more than you can imagine in your wildest dreams.

You think you can't do this, you can't do that.

There are only 2 days to go before I have my interview, and I have no preparation, whaddyamean there's still something I can do?

Believe me, what you can do is not something', but anything.' Swami Vivekananda had all the knowledge of the entire 10 volume encyclopedia in his head. I'm not joking. People asked him questions from it, and would become disciples instantly when they heard him answer-just to feel the raw power inside him.

And he has said himself, that's not some gift' that he had. He has said that all souls are the same, and each one of them is a source of infinite energy. Yes, maybe everyone is not born to be everything. Everyone may not be capable of being the Tiger Woods of golf. But everyone has the power to become the Tiger Woods of their own field. Oh yes! That's a promise. You can become the best mother, wife, teacher, businessman, engineer or scientist in the world.

Yes you can! J

For that you need to believe in what I've just told you. You have to absolutely absolutely believe in the immense power within yourself. And then you must say, "I'm a teacher (mother/homemaker/businessman/student/). That's my only identity. That's what God wants me to be and that's why He's put me in this position and has given me a universe of power. I'll put all of that into my life. I won't let it lie around in my mind's backyard. The source of power is infinite. So no matter how I'm doing, I'm always capable to doing better, better and even better."

Imagine having $100 billion, then putting it in a locker, and carrying on with your ordinary average life, without having a care for that ocean of money you have, and you'll get a feeling of what you're doing now, if you're not conscious of the immense power inside you. Would you like to die before spending at least a good part of that money? Similarly, believe me, you don't want to die leaving your powerhouse untouched.

Some people think being lazy, watching TV, partying and 'relaxing' are ways of rewarding themselves, ways of 'enjoying', and even 'making the most of' life, and working hard is sheer agony. It's like punishing yourself.

It's like saying, "I won't take the trouble to look for and buy and then furnish a nice big mansion with the money I've got, because that's hard work. I'd rather my money be wasted. I'd be the couch-potato instead." Need I say more?

Also, talking of rewards, most of you know what an immense sense of satisfaction we feel, when we've achieved what we wanted to achieve. Thousand days spent being lazy doesn't compare with that exhilaration. It's like going on spending that $100 billion of yours on various things and then enjoying them. (Actually even that doesn't compare with the heady delight of accomplishment!)

The only self-help in the world you need is this-the true realization that a universe of power lies inside you. All the rest will take care of itself.

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Love and Failure

Posted Friday, February 13, 2009 (268 days 4 hours ago.) Viewed 765 times.

I'm ravaged if I fail. Failure is worse than death.

What does failure prove?

Of course it proves that I'm worth nothing.

Also, it means I won't get what I wanted.

So that's what we come back to-getting. This life is a quest for Getting. This society will cheer you if you can Get it/ Achieve it. And if you can't Get enough-you're a nobody, you're not worth anything. It', for you, might mean wealth, recognition, status or any kind of material success. You MUST Get IT.

Our children imbibe this from early childhood. Parents pressurizing them to be the topper of their class, win the football championship, be equally amazing in painting, music, dance and what have you.

I know I must be the best. Otherwise Mom won't love me as much.

And what can be a greater measure of self-worth to a child than parental love? This is not to say that parents stop loving their children if they are not high-acheivers. But the message the child gets is, "I get all those beams and hugs and kisses and little treats when I top the class, but I get a long face when I don't."

Where are we going? Why are we doing this to our kids and to ourselves? What does it matter if the interviewer thinks I'm not worthy of being in their company/institute? What does it matter if the teacher thinks I don't deserve better grades? I know what I am. Who knows me better-she, or me? Why will my self-worth depend on others' evaluation of me-others who are not even the important ones-my friends, husband/wife/partner, parents, kids?

Is the sales I've made for my company/the grades I've got/the number of questions I could answer in an interview-the only aspect of my life?

Let's say I ask myself, "Who am I?" What answer do I get? Do I tell myself, "Who am I? I'm the very guy who's responsible for a 40% increase in my company's revenue!" Or do I say, "I'm a fun-loving/friendly/happy-go-lucky person, married to/in a relationship with John/Jane-the most wonderful man/woman in the world. I'm also blessed to have Sarah and Ryan-the sweetest kids in the world!"???

Now let's say I didn't get that job/promotion/admission to that hallowed university. I failed a test. I didn't meet the sales targets. What happens? Well, hell happens. That's what lies at the core of my life, doesn't it? Meeting sales targets/getting the best grades/ being promoted. So of course I'm devastated. And oh, I forgot to add-I also know that there's no second chance. If I fail to meet those targets today, there's no tomorrow. If I don't pass that exam at the first attempt I'll be barred from taking it ever again in my life. And people never get promoted if they fail to get promoted once. So considering all that, I'm contemplating suicide.

Now let's imagine another scenario-I keep neglecting Jane cause I'm too busy making sure the first scenario doesn't come true-meeting deadlines, networking with key people after office hours, studying so hard for the interview that I have no time even to talk to Jane. She is a human being too. She feels hurt. Then she tries her best to draw my attention to our waning relationship. Naturally I ignore her. She feels more hurt than I can imagine. And then one day she doesn't feel so hurt. And then comes a time when she barely notices my neglect. That's when she starts seeing other guys. And then we part.

The End.

The most important part -yes, the most important part of me has been slow-poisoned to death.

What will I do then? Will I be ecstatic that I still have the gold rolling in and my targets in place?

"Oh, well, the elixir of my life, the only reason I was born, the only reason I have been living for is gone, but that's a teensy-weensy price I paid when you consider what I got in return-a promotion and an insane bonus a result of all those hours I kept working neglecting her!"

Is that what I'd say? I actually won't. No, not even if I'm the most selfish, achievement-maniac and greedy person in the world.

I'd feel like I'm choking to death. I'll feel the ground giving way under my feet.

Is there a second chance now? Will I ever get her back? Ok. Let me try.

"Jane, I can't tell you how much I love you. I can't tell you how sorry I am. I know what has happened is entirely my fault. I promise you I'll always be yours from now on. I'm dying. Don't do this to me. Please come home."

"Thanks for all that, John, but I'm with Joe now. We're getting married next month."

"Oh. Right. Congratulations."

Looks like I made a mistake. There's no second chance after all. Not in this case.

Now all I want is to live my life once more. To correct those mistakes. To do the things I should have done. To spend my time where I should have spent it. Will I get another chance? Will I?

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Motivational Quotes: Inspiration-The Fuel That Keeps You Going

Posted Tuesday, November 25, 2008 (348 days 4 hours ago.) Viewed 698 times.

What is inspiration? It is the desire to do what you have to do to reach your goal. You start with visualizing the your happiest and most fulfilled self, and then decide what you have to achieve to realize that vision. According to that you fix your goal. The next step is planning a course of action to reach your goal. This plan is basically a set of smaller goals to be achieved over a certain period of time for your ultimate goal to be realized.

Up to this point it's comparatively easy. Now comes the doing part, and that is where inspiration and motivation comes into play. Initially, i.e. just after you've fixed your goal and made your plans, you'll have lots of it. But if you are the average Joe, you'll work quite diligently at it for the first week, may be at best the second too, but then the warm-fuzzy feeling will start to drain.

Contrary to common perceptions, inspiration is not that warm-fuzzy feeling that keeps you excited for the first few days of your journey. It's the utter craving in your heart for your goal, coupled with a strong belief in yourself and in what you're doing, that keeps you at it for years and decades (i.e. as long as it takes for you to reach your goal) together. Remember, no one ever became great by giving up, and none of them had it easy. Every success story is a story of perseverance, of not giving in, of stubborn continuation in one's journey in the face of adversity and of the strongest of beliefs in one's dreams. Here is a glimpse of some of those stories.

Inspiration and motivation quotes:

" Mind is everything,muscle-pieces of rubber. All that I am, I am because of my mind."

Paavo Nurmi - The greatest runner of all time

" I never did anything by accident, nor did any of my inventions come by accident; they came by work."

Thomas A. Edison

" If you have to climb a high hill then waiting will not make it small. Just go ahead."

Author Unknown

" What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability. It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are."

Tony Robbins

" I'm a great believer in luck. And I find the harder I work the more of it I have."

Author Unknown

" One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn't do."

Henry Ford

"I don't have a luck line on my hand. There are lines that define my work and there will be lines that my work will define."

Written in 2008 by Amal Gupta --- India

" Always hope for the best, which would become the bridge between what you are and what you aim to become. It may not happen soon but you will be surprised how it can change the course of universe."

Copyright 2007 Chaitanya Goteti

" To achieve the impossible, one must think the absurd; to look where everyone else has looked, but to see what no else has seen."

Author Unknown

" A champion shows who he is by what he does when he's tested. When a person gets up and says 'I can still do it', he's a champion."

Evander Holyfield

" Often the difference between a successful person and a failure is not one has better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on one's ideas, to take a calculated risk --- and to act."

Maxwell Maltz

" You see, in life, lots of people know what to do, but few people actually do what they know. Knowing is not enough! You must take action."

Anthony Robbins

" The only way to truly move forward is to never look back."

Written in 2008 by Christopher Ammirati --- New Jersey

" It must be borne in the mind that the tragedy of life does not lie in not reaching your goal; the tragedy is in not having a goal to reach. Not a calamity to die without dreams not fulfilled but a calamity not to dream. Not a disaster to be unable to capture your ideal; it is a disaster not to have an ideal to capture. Not a disgrace not to reach the stars but a disgrace to have no stars to reach. Not failure but low aim is sin."

Benjamin Ewise

I chose this quote because I've learnt that it is better to dare to try than not to attempt at all.

" You're not pushing hard enough, if everything in your world is not pushing back."

Written in 2008 by Shawn Allen --- Missouri

" I'll always be number 1 to myself."

Moses Malone

" The last effort is always the one that matters. So in whatever you do, never give in until it's over as you'll never know - you may just turn the whole thing around."

Written in 2008 by Jasper T. --- Australia

" To be the best you have to beat the best. Learn from the mistakes other people make to stay ahead and never let thoughts of your background affect how you perform."

Romza

It helps to keep me focussed and to never give up on my dreams.

" Acquire the courage to believe in yourself. Many of the things that you have been taught were at one time the radical ideas of individuals who had the courage to believe what their own hearts and minds told them was true, rather than accept the common beliefs of their day."

Ching Ning Chu

" People say they love that I think outside the box. Really, I say, I didn't even know there was a box."

Mathew Moran

" Whenever you fail, don't ever think that you failed because you are not worthy. If you have come this far, then there must be something in you that brought you this far; a fire that pushed you on, so put some more gas on the fire and push on. Get up, dust yourself off and come right back, not only with a vengeance but also with a plan to win."

A Captain in the Indian Army

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