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Tina Cassidy

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How Your Attitude Makes the Difference

Posted Thursday, November 05, 2009 (19 days 14 hours ago.) Viewed 19 times.

Many things about your life boil down to the hand you have been dealt. You can't change the fact that you were born in that place and with certain givens for your appearance, IQ, or physical skills. Education and training can open some doors for you, but they cannot change your past, make you taller and more athletic, or alter the fact that some people are unfair in the way they treat you.

In spite of the fact that all of us know that most of our life circumstances are beyond our control, we are all still tempted to fret and complain about things that cannot be changed. Of course they cause distress. They certainly put us at a disadvantage in certain contexts. They mustn't be allowed to define and limit us.

The people who do best with life move beyond the temptation to whine and feel sorry for themselves. They face the disappointment and move beyond it. They acknowledge the bad break and look for a way to turn it around. They work from a half-full rather than half-empty glass mindset.

These people have a different attitude than the defeatist and whiner. They have found a way to make lemonade from their lemons.

There is a section in John Baillie's A Diary of Private Prayer that reads . . .

Teach me, O God, so to use all the circumstances of my life today that they may bring forth in me the fruits of holiness rather than the fruits of sin.

Let me use disappointment as material for patience;

Let me use success as material for thankfulness;

Let me use suspense as material for perseverance;

Let me use danger as material for courage;

Let me use reproach as material for longsuffering;

Let me use praise as material for humility;

Let me use pleasures as material for temperance;

Let me use pains as material for endurance.

When a given day begins, countless things are headed your way over which you have no control. It may be bad weather or someone's bad temper, a deadline that won't budge or a client equally resistant to change. The one factor you can control through it all is your attitude toward them.

Your attitude today will make all the difference in everything that matters.

Rubel Shelly

Rubel Shelly is a Preacher and Professor of Religion and Philosophy located in Rochester Hills, Michigan. In addition to church and academic responsibilities, he has worked actively with such community projects as Habitat for Humanity, American Red Cross, From Nashville With Love, Metro (Nashville) Public Schools, Faith Family Medical Clinic, and Operation Andrew Ministries. To learn more about Rubel please go to: www.RubelShelly.com

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Dealing with the Unknown & Unexpected!

Posted Thursday, July 16, 2009 (131 days 9 hours ago.) Viewed 69 times.

Do you ever have one of those moments when life seems to blindside you? Everything is going along fine when BAM! Something happens that changes everything as you know it! What do you do? How do you handle the day-to-day happenings, take steps toward your dreams, and work through the current situation at hand? As a life coach in Calgary, I see this in my practice all too often.

The first step is to create space and time to deal with the new and unknown. Everyone leads busy lives it is the mantra of the day! When we are hit with the unexpected, we are going to have to deal with the situation; however, if we don't create the space for it in our lives then the unexpected will seep quickly into our day to day activities. We will begin to experience increased stress caused by the unexpected. Our anxiety will be compounded by our already full lives, unless we make some changes quickly. Step one must be to create time in our schedule to allow space to deal with the unknown.

Step two is to gather information. Obviously if it is the unknown and the unexpected there are things which are new that need to be learned. During this period of time you will probably continue to experience moments of anxiety, however remind yourself you are on the right path. To handle the new and unknown you have to take the unknown out of the equation by researching, reading, asking questions, talking with experts on the subject, and gathering information. This takes time, so be gentle with yourself. This time will also be a period of learned patience. Be open to help and ideas from others. You will ultimately choose what you do (if anything) with the information. Mediation, quiet, and time spent in nature can help you reduce stress while you gather the information you need for step three.

Step three is to take action. Now that you have created space to deal with the unexpected and gathered information to deal with the new, you are now in a position to make informed decisions. You may choose to do nothing, but this is a decision that comes from an informed place. You may choose to make changes, but again this comes from a place of conscious and informed choice. Once you have made a decision (either to do nothing or to take action) you can apply the process "Easy as ABC," as described in "Stop Holding Back." A = Accept your decision. Accept that you have done what is needed up to this point and you are now making a conscious choice to change (or not). B = Be with your emotions. With any decision, comes emotions, allow yourself to experience these emotions fully. C = Change (or not). When timing is right, embrace the choice you have made whole-heartedly, and begin again the process of creating what you desire.

The unexpected and unknown can be scary and stressful; however you can take steps to reduce the pain' that comes with it. Visit me at Calgary Life Coach for more information and resources to assist with any stress that may be holding you back.

The journey of your life is to discover your purpose and get on with living it out!

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Major Life Changes Can Bring About Feelings of Insecurity

Posted Monday, July 13, 2009 (134 days 7 hours ago.) Viewed 71 times.

I frequently hear - I have just changed cities and jobs and am feeling very insecure. Is there any steps I can take to build my self-confidence...I need ME Back!

Major life changes can bring about feelings of insecurity as we learn new skills and move out of our comfort zone. Feelings of doubt and anxiety are quite a normal part of the process. In fact, there is a natural learning cycle called the Competence Cycle. Understanding where in the cycle you are at any particular point will help you to better deal with doubt and move you in the direction you desire.

In Stage 1: Unconsciously Incompetent We often don't even know what we don't know. At this stage, we may not even know the questions we need to ask to create the changes we want.

In Stage 2: Consciously Incompetent We are very aware of how incompetent we are. We don't fit in, and it is obvious that we are unsure of ourselves. I suspect this is exactly where you are in the cycle. Don't fret it is all part of the natural process you need to go through.

In Stage 3: Consciously Competent We are now aware of everything we know and need to know. We know exactly what we need to do, and we consciously choose our actions.

In Stage 4: Unconsciously Competent We naturally respond and act to get things done.

You have taken a major step in your own growth by recognizing that you are not feeling yourself and want to get the "real you" back. The good news is the "real you" never left! The emotions you are currently feeling have more to do with all the changes you have experienced in a short time, and less to do with who you are. In the book, "Stop Holding Back," I discuss the process Easy as ABC, which I recommend using when dealing with change.

Easy as ABC stands for:

A Accept your emotions: The first step is to identify where you are in the cycle and then accept the emotions that come with that change.

B Be with the emotion: We spend most of our lives in the process of achieving our goals; however, it is in the daily "being" we will find fulfillment. Therefore, don't fight your emotions. Completely feel and express them. Allow your emotions to help create the changes you desire.

C Change: Finally, when timing is right, choose to embrace the changes you are currently dealing with. One step at a time; allow your true-self to shine! Act as if you were meant to be where you are right now, right in this moment. All will be fine!

To learn more about the success processes that move you from where you are to where you want to be contact Tina Cassidy at Calgary Life Coach and order you copy of "Stop Holding Back" today!

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What Are They and Where Can I Find Some?

Posted Monday, July 13, 2009 (134 days 7 hours ago.) Viewed 19 times.

As an experienced life coach in Calgary I frequently have clients trying to change habits. Unlike a trendy pair of shoes, I can't just buy myself a pre-packaged "New and Improved Set of Success Habits," so where do I find them? The habits that shape us are of our own design. Everyday there are hundreds of routines we complete automatically. In fact, psychologists say that up to 90% of our behavior is habitual. This is a good-bad thing: our habits let us maneuver on auto-pilot allowing us to accomplish more in day. However, if we completely behave unconscious to our habits; then we may be choosing habits that are moving us away from our dreams rather than toward them.

Your current habits are producing your current lifestyle. If you are leading a life that is successful in all areas family and personal relationships, career, finances, etc.; then you have a handle on Success Habits! Most of us though have at least one area we are aiming to improve in our lives.

Recently I met a woman who said, "Every time I set goals, I break them! I can never hold myself accountable." On further inquiry it came to light she had never actually gotten to the "goal setting stage" where she had clearly defined, written, and measurable goals. In fact, she was just working with a "Wish List." Now everybody needs a "Wish List" and ultimately, this is the first step in setting goals. However, to achieve our dreams and goals, we need to move beyond a "Wish List."

So why do so many people never get beyond just wishing for a better life? As described by Brian Tracey, author and goal-setting expert, there are four main reasons why people never get around to setting goals:

They do not realize the incredible benefits of having written, specific, and measurable goals.
They do now know how to set goals.
They fear failure.
They fear they will be rejected.

Just think, if your habits run your life, and your goals focus you on creating successful habits, then it is critical for your success and happiness to set goals. Recognizing where you are at with this process is a step in the right direction. If you have not set goals for 2009 then take the time now to do so. If you need assistance, contact me and I will send you a powerful goal setting process. If you have already set goals, but have fallen off the New Year's Resolution wagon, get back on! Take the time to create the plan that will achieve your goals and start following that plan today!

For more information visit me at http://Calgary Life Coach

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