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Live with Gratitudevictor brett (156)    victor brett   Victor Brett and Associates Vets veiw on Michael Jacksons DeathPosted Saturday, July 11, 2009 (213 days 4 hours ago.) Viewed 32 times. Vets thoughts about Michael Jackson's death and the Media Editors note: As I drafted this numerous emails came in and I have incorporated those thoughts into this blog post: We all know MJ was a global entertainer who performed for millions of the decades. He made millions, he spent millions. It is said he also did a number of things that inspired and disgusted millions, were you stand on these issues is not the point!
To all the Moms and Dads, spouses and Kids that have lost a hero I want to say thanks and their loss is a far greater blow then any pop culture icon. They (our Heroes) allow individuals to grow up and BECOME pop culture icons! Vic Luebker, Chairman and CEO www.hope4heroes.org 
Permalink Comments (1) Vision and LeadershipPosted Wednesday, November 12, 2008 (1 year 89 days ago.) Viewed 76 times. Many inexperienced leaders fail to sufficiently convey a vision to the subordinates they lead. If you are not skilled in telling everyone which direction to head you'll have confusion. Worse yet, you'll have a situation where people start creating their own direction. For some leaders their deficiency comes not from a lack of communication but from not having a vision themselves. Vision is what determines what an organization is going to try to accomplish. Without a clear vision the organization will be pulled in many different directions. Some of these directions will cancel each other out, so even though much work will be done, very little is actually accomplished. It is much easier to lead if you have a clear idea of what you want to achieve and your ideas are good. Even if you don't have a tremendous amount of skill as a leader, having a clear vision can help you through your shortcomings. People want to follow someone with a plan. By having a clear vision of what you want to accomplish, you will attract followers and people who want to align themselves with your vision. Individuals realize that on of the cornerstones of success is a clear vision. For this reason they want to align themselves with someone who articulates a vision--they want to join in the success. In fact a poor leader with a great vision, will achieve more than a great leader with an ill-conceived plan. Success covers a huge number of failures. If you are successful, people will tend to forget many mistakes you make as a leader. If you are ineffective people are less likely to overlook your deficiencies in vision. People want to follow someone who will lead them to success. If you appear to be able to do this, people will want to follow you. If you have a track record of success, people will want to follow you. If you have a track record of failure, people will want to distance themselves from you in order to avoid your failures in the future. If you are pushing people toward shared success, they will tend to stick with you because they are succeeding. In some cases they may even start mimicking some of your poor leadership habits thinking they are part of the reason for your success. Many people mistake success for good leadership skills. That is because people want to follow people with whom they can be successful. Obviously good leadership skills are very important. It is much better to lead with a solid vision and skillful leadership expertise. Just make sure that as you develop your leadership skills, you don't overlook the skills that will let you develop a vision that makes it worth it for followers to follow you.
Permalink Comments (2) A slow Sexy KISS!Posted Tuesday, November 11, 2008 (1 year 90 days ago.) Viewed 699 times. The kiss is a stamp of your love. It is a way of showing your love, your care, and your affections to your partner. While you kiss the tension in your lip should neither be overtly tight or too loose. If it is too loose, it will look frivolous and lazy and if you are too tight it could sense your nervousness and self consciousness. In a humorous note, kissing is like posting an application at the top for the position at the base. Don?t look at kissing as a route towards excellent sex. Kissing by itself is an act of pleasure which may or may not lead to sex. Let's look at the basic kiss: See that your lips are moist. You need to get your lips wet by running your tongue once over them before you kiss. Stand close to your partner. As your lips get closer, incline your head slightly to one side just enough so your nose is out of the way of theirs. See the direction in which your partner is tilting her head and you can tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction. Ideally your nose should touch her cheek as your lips make contact. When you touch the other person's lips and you stretch your tongue out a bit, your mouths will instinctively open up. Open your mouth slightly and place your lips gently over her lips. Move your lips in a slow circular motion or just leave them still and suck the lower lips gently and succulently. Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. When you close your eyes you are concentrating on the pleasure of being intimate with your partner?s lips. You can look directly at her eyes as you kiss or break the kiss, but the process of kiss should be savored with closed eyes as you ?feel? the pleasurable sensations with your eyes closed. While kissing, you can put one hand on your partner?s waist and the other against the middle of their back. You can cup her face in your hands, put them around their waist, put them around your partner?s neck, hold her upper or lower arms or run your fingers through her hair. If you are nervous about the first kiss and would like to go for a ?care for you a lot? or ?miss you? kiss rather than the erotic kiss, then you can go for the ?closed kisses?. Here instead of opening your lips, you keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner know that you respect her boundaries but still you love her and feel that she is one special person in your life. In the French kiss, the tongue has a more considerable role, than the lips which is why you part your lips slightly. Once you have started kissing, you should slip your tongue in hers or vice versa. Don?t let your tongue go limp but play it around hers or playfully her tongue out with yours. Push her tongue back into yours and so on. Tongue wrestle playfully. Circle the tip of your tongue around the tip of hers. Repeat her actions if she moves her tongue differently. Play tango with her tongue. If she flicks her tongue over yours, or if she thrusts her tongue inside your mouth, repeat the same action. The romantic kiss: When your lips meet, keep them parted slightly and press gently against your partner?s lips. Tilt your head slightly to one side, so that your nose does not get in the way. The next step is intention. Give a slight peck on the lips and move away. Don?t move in haste, drift away slowly all the while holding her hands and look deep into her eyes. The passionate kiss: If it is a more intimate kiss, then linger your lips around hers for a while. Then suck the upper lip and the lower lip. Again the intensity of the kiss should be decided by your comfort level. Having tested her lips, you can explore further-just lick them together and slightly caress the areas around her mouth or as the sexologists call it, oral region. The kiss value can be enhanced by devouring a chocolate or any other succulent fruit. Keep a piece of chocolate in your mouth and keep on transferring it to her mouth and back again till the chocolate melts and you are madly sucking each other?s tongue. The perfect kiss: The perfect kiss starts out slowly and picks up as you become involved. A good kiss will flow, it does not stand and it does not end abruptly. Each peck has to be relished and enjoyed. Each kiss should be gentle and easy. Caress her face or give a gentle hug. It will be one of the pleasurable experiences you will have. Lean over to smell your partner?s hair. The moment the tip of your nose touches her hair, kiss your partner?s head. Gently go to the ear. Nibble the rim of the ear with your lips and breathe gently. Purr in her ears. Utter sexy sweet nothings. Switch to the neck. Plunge into the nape and gently bite the skin there. With a series of little bites, make your way to the corner of the lips. Lift your lips slightly away and zero in.
Permalink Comments (1) Live with Gratitude.......Not Attitude!Posted Wednesday, November 05, 2008 (1 year 96 days ago.) Viewed 612 times. Creating an attitude of gratitude is one of the easiest steps we can take to improve our lives. The happiness that we create for ourselves by showing our appreciation has far-reaching effects, both for ourselves and for those we come into contact with. The potential for gratitude to spread beyond those people also increases significantly – it can be highly contagious. There are so many different ways that we can express an attitude of gratitude. Here are just a few:
Say "thank you". This is the most basic and well-known way to show appreciation to others. Saying "thank you" is a great way to express your gratitude and can be done in several different forms. You can say it in person, over the phone, in a note, or in an email. Using this when it's least expected can have significant results in lifting someone's spirits. For example, a quick note to your child's teacher thanking her for her hard work and patience might give her the boost of energy that she needs right when she needs it most. You may never know what effect this has had on her, but it will have an effect. Stop complaining about your life. Even as tough as life can be sometimes, remember that there is always someone that has things worse than you do. Constant complaining about what is wrong in your life will keep you focused on that. The opposite is true as well – focusing on what is right in your life will keep you focused on that. Focusing on the negative will bring you down while focusing on the positive will lift you up. Focus on what you have, not what you don't have. This is very closely related to not complaining about your life. Being grateful for what you do have keeps you in a positive place, whereas focusing on what you don't have keeps you in a negative place. Focusing on what you do have, regardless of how little or how much that may be, is a great expression of gratitude. Model your attitude. Modeling your attitude of gratitude is a great way to spread it to others. We've all heard the Golden Rule to "treat others the way you want to be treated". Showing your appreciation to others shows them that you like to be treated this way too. An attitude of gratitude can be quite infectious! Be satisfied with simple things and be mindful of little things. Being grateful for the little things in our lives is just as important (if not, more so) than being grateful for the big things. Our lives are filled with little things every day that we can be grateful for. What about that front row parking spot you found when you were running late? Or the beautiful weather outside? How about the store clerk that went out of her way to help you? This may take a little practice, but there are many little things throughout the day that we can be grateful for if we take the time to notice them. Give to someone else. This is the best way to spread your gratitude of attitude. There are so many different ways to give to someone else. You could volunteer your time to help those less fortunate or give you time to children by mentoring them. The possibilities are endless but could make a huge difference in someone's life without you evening knowing it. If they in turn give to someone else, the cycle could continue without end. Keep a gratitude journal. Let's just be honest here: there are some days when it is hard to find anything to be grateful for. Keeping a gratitude journal can help with that. There are preprinted journals so you can just fill in the blanks or you can make your own. The important thing is to find at least 5 things each day to be grateful for, no matter how big or small those things are. A gratitude journal can serve two purposes: it will help you stop and remember what you are grateful for or it can serve as inspiration on days when you find it difficult to find anything to be grateful for by reading over past days. Practice random acts of kindness. This can be one of the most fun and rewarding ways to live a life of gratitude, especially when it's done anonymously. Surprise someone with something unexpected. You may never know what it meant to them but it will likely make their day. Try putting a note in your child's lunch or bringing treats to the office to share. Even a small gesture can mean so much to someone. Living a life of gratitude is one of the easiest ways to live a happier life. It takes very little effort to show someone you appreciate them but will mean so much to them. There are so many ways to make gratitude a part of our life and to spread that attitude to others. Make today the day you start living a life of gratitude and spread your light to the rest of the world! Visit Vic at: www.victorbrett.com
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