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My Husband is a Baby Boomer And Learning the Guitar? Does He Have A Loose String?

Posted Friday, September 19, 2008 (1 year 64 days ago.) Viewed 59 times.

My husband is a baby boomer and decided to learn the guitar. I have no idea where this new interest came from. He doesn't have any emotional problems and has not been going to sleep listening to guitar music. One morning he sat me down and said, "All I want for Christmas is a guitar."

My biggest thought was "When would he have time in the midst of his busy life. I mean the man is working as a carpenter, kitchen installer, artist, art instructor and deacon/elder at church. In addition there are internet marketing projects that need his artistic talent and keen attention to details.

Well, as I pondered over these points in my mind I came to three powerful revelations

1. I went to a Christmas party given by my mom's cardiologist. I sat eating while listening to wonderful music conducted by a band that consisted of most of his patients who had been given cardiac by-pass or other procedures. Then I was further shocked to see this middle-aged physician walk to the band and pick up an electric guitar sitting in the corner. While sitting, he played. He was calm, relaxed and peaceful.

I then realized that guitar playing for my middle-aged, baby boomer husband could provide a peaceful interruption in his mentally and physically busy day.

2. I watch him systematically practice his chords. He has organized his practice space and also attended a class at a local continuing education program. I realized that he was serious about this new passion. Isn't it better that he spend time with his guitar than a mid-aged crush on another woman, gambling or new car we could not afford?

3. I observed my busy schedule, care giving responsibilities my mom and lack of a vacation in two years. I began to appreciate our walks in the park and visits to Barnes and Nobles early in the morning as valuable vacation moments. It did not matter that he brought more guitar tutorials, magazines and cd's as long as he is happy.

And women if your man is a baby boomer and learning something wholesome and new don't be a player-hater like I almost became.

Since we both love the action on the internet we set up a blog called midlife guitar just so he could share what he was learning with others. Go visit it when you get a chance at http://www.midlifeguitar.com. Share your videos, testimonials and lessons with him. Just email them to support@midlifeguitar.com.

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Falling Asleep at Your Computer? 3 Things to Do the Next Time That Happens

Posted Tuesday, March 25, 2008 (1 year 241 days ago.) Viewed 156 times.

Are you falling asleep at your computer? If yes, that means you are either tired or on sleep inducing drugs. I will venture a guess that if you are an internet marketer it could be just plain sleep deprivation.

Sleep deprivation is going on undetected in many internet users. It often results in folks sitting at the computer straining to keep their eyes open as they complete a blog post or other tasks. Meanwhile there is the danger of making costly mistakes or snoring while their fingers are still on the keys.

Here are three simple recommendations that are easy to do.

1. Set a time each night to go the bed in your calendar

Treat this time like an appointment in your calendar. Tell your family and friends the cut off time for phone discussions. Put the pen down and shut down or put the computer to sleep.

2. When you catch yourself nodding at the computer-get up and take a nap or just go to bed.

Notice the time of day this is happening. Then think for a moment and ask yourself the following questions: Why am I sleepy, what time did I go to bed last night? Can what I am doing on the computer this minute wait until I am more rested? Is my chair comfortable enough to take a 15 min. nap?

3. Avoid caffeine before you retire.

This only gives you a short term surge that fools your body into believing it is not tired. But later it will catch up with you.

We all want to work productively on our computer tasks. But getting our rest can increase our success. I encourage you to be increasingly aware of healthy internet use and start getting your rest. I am making the same attempt. So I invite you to visit http://www.healthyinternetusers.com and share your insights.

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Who Cut The Rope for You? Lessons Learned From a Mountain Climbing Movie

Posted Sunday, July 08, 2007 (2 years 137 days ago.) Viewed 890 times.

I watched a movie on mountain climbing one day while in a reflective mood. I had seen the movie before but never saw the powerful point that smacked me in the face until that day. I do not recall the name or actors of this action packed movie. However, I will, hopefully never forget the insightful lesson I learned.

You see the movie opens with three experience mountain climbers hanging off the edge by a rope and hook in the top of the ledge that was making its way out of the rock. The weight was too much. The people on the rope were a family of two children and their father.

The father, a man in his late forties was at the end of the rope while his son, in his 20’s was above him. The sister was clinging on to the rope and attempting to get a grip onto a rock that would hold the three of them. As much as she tried the rope attachment to the rock would not hold them. The father made a decision. He ordered the son above him to cut the rope in order to save their lives. With his weight removed, there was a chance. Without his death all three of them would die.

The son painfully obeyed. The decision caused strain with the relationship with his sister. However, she continued with her life to make it purposeful. She kept climbing.

Whereas. Her brother stopped. But he still had a meaningful career.

They meet again years later while her brother is the photographer covering a climbing expedition that his sister happens to be a participant.

Before the story ends, she is near death from a climb that went bad. Her brother climbs again to rescue her once again. Once again, in the attempt to save her life he is hanging on a rope with four climbers this time. In order the save the life of the woman the older climber orders the young man to cut the rope.

In this case, he willingly dies but takes an unwilling very rich climber with him who was responsible for the death of the wife of the climber above him in a prior climb because of his selfishness.

That was the short version. Here were the lessons I learned

If someone cuts the rope to save me from a certain death I am responsible for making my life even more purposeful and worthy of that sacrifice.

It is important to thank folks who may not have sacrificed a physical death but may have sacrificed other things in their life to make mine more meaningful.

I must examine what I would do if asked to “cut the rope" for someone else. Should I keep trying when the odds are against us? When should I cut the ropes? How will I live with the decision?

Which ropes need cutting in our lives for the achievement of our goals?

I do not want my climb up the mountains in my life to be a selfish climb.

I do not intend to hurt others in my climb up the mountain.

I really do not want to be at the end of my rope but desire to be around as long as I can to help others be better climbers. But If I must sacrifice to help someone else that I want to do it knowing that I will transition and be in a good place with my decision.

In conclusion, I encourage you to examine times when someone cut the rope for you. Have you been living a life with purpose? Have you been able to say “Thank You?"

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Do You Know Someone Sick?-7 Simple Secret Ways to Encourage Them

Posted Friday, June 15, 2007 (2 years 160 days ago.) Viewed 1,403 times.

If you have ever been ill, for any period of time, it is important to recall how you felt when someone encouraged you. Here are seven ways you can show someone you care when they are ill.

1. Call them.

Call the person during a time that is not too late or too early in the day. Schedule the call after their breakfast and before bedtime. This will let them know you are thinking about them although their social or work routine has changed.

2. Let them know that you are praying for them.

Express this fact in a card, phone call or person-to-person visit. This will let them know that you are taking time to intercede for them. It will be a great source of comfort.

3. Send an ENCOURAGEMENT CARD.

Locate a blank card or one with empowering words. Most people normally send get-well cards. However, seldom are encouragement cards sent when the person is feeling extra despondent or losing hope.

4. Prepare a CARE PACKAGE

Use the decorative boxes in the post office or a decorative gift box. Include items you know will make them laugh, (like toys,) refect on good things, and practical items they need.

5. Prepare a meal or have a meal prepared

Pay close attention to dietary restrictions and provide an eye pleasing meal that will encourage them to eat. This will meet a need and reduce anxiety.

6. Make them LAUGH

Send a movie or comedy show that will encourage wholesome laughter. Research shows that laughter is healing.

7. Decorate the walls of the sick room with scenic and relaxing pictures

Use framed prints of artwork or photography this will create an atmosphere that will enhance the healing process.

These are only a few steps, there are more, but if you start with these, you can make a difference in the life of someone ill.

COPYRIGHT 2007, ROSIE HORNER

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My Husband is a Baby Boomer And Learning the Guitar? Does He Have A Loose String?

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