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Far too much game-playing goes on in the seduction world, and many men (and woman) are quickly discovering that generic tricks and routines to lure the opposite sex don’t’ bring any real gratification other than the occasional mechanical bonk.
But did you know that people in other parts of the word do things differently. The greatest seducers are not so much revered for technical excellence, but for the character they put into the game. The seducer is not bound to a schematic designed plan but instead intention and distinctiveness precedes every move. Intention and distinctiveness allows the seducer to be open minded, take it all in and put him or herself in the position of really living the seduction experience and not just performing it.
A more profound dance of seduction comes into being or existence, and it becomes more than just seducer seducing seducee, it becomes something that generates mutual, tension, suspense, arousal, pleasure… This something whatever you want to call it (chemistry, attraction, love) adds reciprocity to the game, and takes it beyond playing against to playing together, which is the true meaning of the art of seduction.
As in life, distinctiveness in seduction is the starting point. Adding your own distinctiveness, your own unique personal style, your own passion and your own spirit to the experience can set you apart in an irresistibly attractive manner
The following are a few ideas for extending the “ordinary" to “extra-ordinary" - and that I warmly recommend.
1. You must first get in touch with your own innate seductiveness and allow yourself to be seduced by your own self in order to be able to seduce another person. If you take time to know what you are feeling when you are seducing a man or woman that is "How you feel about yourself when you're with a particular person," NOT "How you feel about him or her?" your seduction will be smoother and more memorable.
2. Elicit complex combinations of emotions and thoughts that allow the person to undergo an emotional change associated with the experience – he or she will always associate the intense emotion with you.
3. Make him or her feel special by making the experience different from anything he or she has ever known - and you will charm him/her for hours.
4. Stretch out the moment - even if you know where you want to go, don’t rush the moment. Always keep in mind that present moment hovers between becoming the past and progressing into the future.
You may be holding back what the opposite sex really want and find irresistible. Your unique individual energy (anything from having unusual ideas, tone of voice, way of looking, way of walking, way of talking, how you eat, how you move your body in dance etc-) can become powerfully seductive if you can add your own distinctiveness, your own unique personal style and extend it beyond “ordinary" to “extra-ordinary"!
About the Author: Christine Akiteng, Internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of ebook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™ helps men and women cultivate that NATURAL EASE that draws the opposite sex in - without the mental stress and emotional frustration of today's dating dynamics.
Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com |
