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Hands down, the eyes have it – they begin it, they make it happen and they finish it.
Eye contact is an important part of the mating ritual. But there is more to eye contact and sexual attraction than dilating pupils, how many times you exchange glances and how long you can keep eye contact. Many Dating Coaches and Seduction “Experts" hardly ever even mention it. You are simply told “don't make a good eye contact and all is lost" and for the last thousand times you've tried to make “good" eye contact, caught a few eyes and held some of them in mutual gazing but that’s just it – eye contact. No sparks and no “It’s you I want."
Well, honey, I hate to be the one to be the bearer of bad news, but merely pointing hauntingly vacant and dull eyes towards a man or woman thinking that if you gaze hard enough and long enough, something will happen is a waste of a lot of time.
The eyes are the most powerful single carrier of sexual energy. When eyes meet, two sexual energies come into contact. Whether sparks fly or not depends on the amount of sexual energy each one is generating at that particular moment in time.
When a man or woman looks into your eyes and he or she sees nothing in there, it doesn’t matter how long you focus your eyes into theirs. If they initially liked your general physical appearance, they may return eye contact just to see if they can read more from your eyes and if they still find nothing there, they just look elsewhere and avoid further eye contact. There is still chance that you will be attracted to each other but for very different reasons – and not happy ones either.
But when a man or woman looks into your eyes and your sexual energy is coming at them hard and strong, sparks fly. The mistake a lot of men and women make - mostly because they are unaware of how sexual energy works – is to think: “Oh! We made eye contact, now we’re an item!" Mistake! Big Mistake!
Without working to fan the flame, that little spark can easily be put out instantly. The secret is to fan that spark into a fiercely burning fire using the eyes to speak on your behalf.
The eyes have a body language all on their own. They have a very subtle form of speaking that is hard to define, but you know it when you see eyes that “speak": they narrow, deepen, greet, adore, invite, suggest, implore, insist, caress, propose and promise. They also glow with knowledge, twinkle mischievously and play with sexual desire. All without you even opening your mouth and without a single word exchanged between the two of you.
Nothing will improve your dating prospects more than fluency in eye language. I encourage you to go out there and let your eyes do the speaking! It’ll take sometime getting used to it but eventually you will feel yourself starting to really “connect" with others at a very deep level. If you are not sure of where to even begin, I discuss how to use the eyes to converse fluently a lot more on my website including how to use the eyebrows to give vividness and energy - adding intensity and depth to the attraction!
About the Author: Christine Akiteng, Internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of ebook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™ helps men and women cultivate that NATURAL EASE that draws the opposite sex in - without the mental stress and emotional frustration of today's dating dynamics.
Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com |
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