An interview with a lady member of www.jaters.com who has been on more dates than you can possibly imagine. I've picked few tips and pointers from her and gathered them for you. Follow these rules and you will certainly get a second date.
Rule 1: The Icebreaker
Tell them how nice they look at the beginning of the night it shows that your attracted to them and it breaks the ice a little.
Rule 2: Don’t Hide any Intentions
Say how you feel about your date because you don’t want to lead them down any roads where you’re not planning on going. For example sex, kiss at the end of the date, a possible long lasting relationship.
Rule 3: Plan Place Beforehand
Always think of somewhere interesting to go where you can talk. You want to get to know this possible true love and if you don’t have anything to talk about then you know that the relationship is going to be awkward.
Rule 4: Gum Chewing No No
Never chew gum while talking to them. It’s really unattractive for both sexes and people tend to spit a little when they have gum in their mouths. Also, if you happen to kiss at the end of the night, you never want to choke in the middle of the perfect kiss.
Rule 5: Don’t Always let him Pay
Men always offer to pay for the date. Don’t always accept. A relationship is a two-way thing and beginning with him paying for everything is not a good way to start a healthy relationship. Always offer to help pay for something, if they refuse then accept the gift. It’s always nice to have a good surprise
Rule 6: Body Odor
Make sure you smell good. B.O is a total turn off so make sure you wear perfume. Wear something expensive like ck ,jean or dkny or anything else that smells nice. Don’t overdo it. It will seem like you’re trying to cover something up. A faint smell of Ralph Lauren rather than body odor is always nice.
Rule 7: Dressing Correctly
Don’t overdress you don’t want to make your date look under dressed. That can be so embarrassing. Try and find out what your date is wearing before the big date and also VERY important find out where your going before you dress. Try to dress for the occasion.
Rule 7: The Final Kiss.
Simply take his or her hand before you kiss him/her if they pull their hand away it means don’t kiss him, if the hold your hand back lean over for the kiss.
Rule 8: Taking it to the Next Step
A small kiss will do at first. Kiss them on the lips quickly and if they seemed to like it, and you feel comfortable with it, carry on with the full tongue thing. If they don’t like it, then just walk away.
Rule 9: Back up Plan
If you like him/her don’t wait for your date to ask for the second date. If you do it shows your keen and that you really like him. If they say no, voice any interest in possibly becoming friends.
Rule 10: Going too Far
Never ever have sex on the first date. It shows you’re easy and that may be the only reason they asked to out in the first place.
Yair Czitrom is the owner and webmaster of http://www.jaters.com - Free Jewish dating, Jewish singles & Jewish matchmaking service. An experienced online dater that took his dating knowledge and web skills to help other daters/singles.
