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In my article: Does Playing Hard To Get Make You More Attractive? I mentioned
that the two biggest mistakes men and women make with playing hard to get is to
1) Play hard-to-get even when they don't yet know if the other person is
interested at all; 2) Play much too hard to get that the other person thinks you
are “not interested".
If you are playing hard to get and no one is chasing you, that is not playing
hard to get, that is lying to yourself. Before you start playing hard to get you
must first make the sure the other person wants to play, and is interested in
the chase. You must first give him or her reason to want to chase you.
In the culture I was raised in, this is called: "the delicate art of
arranging to be caught". It is a courtship ritual that our ancestors discovered
watching the courtship behaviour of other wild animals and fine tuned it for
their own use. This ritual is still part of selfishly guarded rituals and
esoteric arts.
The whole strategy is to give the other person the thrill of a chase when in
actual fact you are the one who arranged to be caught. I’ll just reveal one
secret of the delicate art of arranging to be caught.
You’ve probably heard that it’s always best to “leave something to the
imagination." There is some sense in this in as far titillating and perhaps some
extra provocation is concerned, but this is not the best way of arranging to be
caught especially when the little that is revealed, shown or exposed does
nothing to the imagination except to ask “why?" or “what for?" Even beautiful
eyes, a sweet voice or interesting story have away of putting one off (and in
some cases even distinctly revolting) if what is presented to the eyes has no
apparent or sincere hint of fun and enjoyment, excitement and adventure or
attraction and arousal.
The other person should not have to guess about anything. Most people are
unable to accurately read other peoples’ body language let alone their minds.
Take nothing for granted. Leave nothing to guesswork. I am not suggesting that
we all wear revealing clothing, eyeball or ogle at every hot man or woman, flash
breasts or grab crotches à la Michael Jackson; this is not “leaving nothing to
the imagination", it’s bad taste and a sign of under developed sexual and social
skills.
Leaving nothing to the imagination basically means that you build up enough
intrigue and mystery (with every lingering look, every expression, every body
move you make etc) to make the person wonder what makes you tick and what's
going on in your "sexy" head. The person is excited, stimulated and aroused by
their own imagination. Their own imagination feeds the thrill for the chase.
You do not really have to do much but relax and wait to be caught. There is
no need for any “seduction techniques", no need to act like you’re not as
excited, no need to wait as long as you can before you call after a first date
and no need to pretend to be busy etc. In fact you can call him/her everyday or
go out every evening just to feed more into his/her imagination. Nothing is more
powerfully seductive than a person’s own imagination.
So - the obvious question must be: How the heck do you work with something as
high speed and fickle as the imagination? This is a whole other secret - I
discuss it a little bit more on my website.
About the Author: Christine Akiteng, Internationally renowned Sexual
Confidence/Dating Coach and author of eBook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of
Fullness™ helps men and women be effortlessly interesting, create ever-deepening
emotional connections, inspire sexual passion, have lots of fun - and create a
genuine and lasting relationship, all at the same time.
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http://www.playinghardtogettheloveway.com
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