Having emotional value is an incredibly powerful currency when it comes to dating (and relationships).
But what does emotional value mean?
Your emotional value is the degree that a man or woman perceives you as potentially contributing to their happiness. It is the most important filter by which both men and women determine how to spend their time and energy.
When a man or woman agrees to go out on a date with you, he or she is (sub-consciously) tuned to look for a type of energy or “mood of life" that tells him or her that you have the ability to bring new and uplifting emotional experiences into his or her life and that merging his or her life with you is more interesting and worthwhile than it would be if he or she were single and alone. The higher your emotional value the more likely that a man or woman will want to spend more time with you and explore the possibilities of a relationship. If you are perceived as having very low emotional value (or are an emotional risk) you end up not being worth the effort.
Unfortunately most of the time, many men and women are too preoccupied with the superficial “feelings’ of physical attraction that they fail to recognize the more elementary, more significant inner process. You think you have the whole physical, mental and financial package and hit it off great but you get rejected for reasons “you don’t understand". And if you ask him or her if there is something about you that they are unsure of, he/she’ll probably tell you everything about you is okay but you suspect that is not true because he or she is stalling.
If you know what your emotional value to the opposite sex is, you can figure out how to “help" them “see" why and how life with you is more interesting and worthwhile than life without you. This lays a foundation for emotional connection and intimacy.
But if you don’t know what your emotional value is, dating (and relationships) is a gamble – a lot of trying this and trying that. Very often you’ll make an emotional investment without knowing where the other person is coming from or where you fit into in their plan (mistake). You either find yourself being put on eternal “hold" or getting hurt.
You might also want to read: "The Sexual Ingredient That Instantly Attracts Men And Women". Article can be found on my website under "articles" button.
About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of eBook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™. Her unique approach to dating has helped hundreds create positive, constructive, honest and fulfilling relationships.
Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com
