Infidelity is like an epidemic that has infected many committed men and women across the country. Almost everybody you know has probably cheated on his or her spouse or partner at least once while in a relationship. Cheating, I believe, is now as common as hay fever in springtime.
Traditionally, unfaithfulness is more commonly committed by men. Nowadays, however, many girlfriends and wives are also having illicit relationships.
If you want to ascertain if your partner is philandering with another man, you must be very observant and sensitive to the things that are happening around you. Here are the telltale signs that will help you determine if your girlfriend is seeing another person:
Sudden preoccupation with appearance
The first sign that your girlfriend is cheating on you is her sudden preoccupation with how she looks or smells. Pay attention to the word sudden because women really love to dress up and beautify themselves once in a while. However, be wary if she completely changed her hairstyle, perfume, nail polish and style of clothing, such as from conservative to more provocative, most especially if you were not the one who suggested the changes.
Reduced intimacy
Women usually equate intimacy with their emotional relation with a person. Thus, if your girlfriend seems to abhor kissing you or even holding your hand in public, chances are she is starting to develop an emotional relation with another man.
Most commonly, women wear sexy clothes and lingerie to make their partner notice them more. However, there is a big probability that your girlfriend is cheating on you if she wears shape fitting dresses and inviting lingerie but doesn't want to make love with you.
Increased overtime and girl's night out
Many women need to work hard to be on top. Thus, it is natural for them to sometimes spend extra time working for a project or a report. However, if she works overtime almost everyday, even on Sundays, you must be alarmed.
The best way to ensure that she is really working in the office even in the wee hours of the night is to drop by her office unexpectedly. You can probably bring her coffee or dinner as an excuse. Thus, if she is indeed working very hard, she will appreciate the gesture that you made by bringing her food. On the other hand, this is also a good way to know if she is really in the office and not somewhere else.
Instead of overtime, some women use their friends as their excuse. If your girlfriend seems to spend most of her time with her friends on vacations and overnight trips, you must be wary. Remember that although women love to regularly hang out with friends, they will still allocate time for their boyfriends.
Increase use of phone and Internet
Watch how your girlfriend reacts to calls and messages. If she tries to conceal some calls and erases her messages, then there might be something fishy going on. If she is really trying hard to conceal conversations or doesn't want you to use her mobile phone, then she maybe hiding something from you.
A poll on Internet Use and Abuse by Greenfield and Rivet showed that 57% of men and women use the Internet to flirt. Thus, you should also monitor your girlfriend's chatting and Internet activities.
If you noticed that your girlfriend is displaying at least two of the four signs that have been mentioned, then it is time for you to gather clues and more proof. Never confront your girlfriend about infidelity unless you are extremely sure about it.
Also, this is probably a good time to reflect on your relationship. Have you been a good boyfriend? Do you still go out of your way to make her happy? Are you sensitive to her needs and emotions? Assess your relationship and your feelings for her. If you want to pursue the relationship to a higher level, then maybe you need to find ways to rekindle the fire in your relationship.
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One thing i must say is that, some man above said that "its my sixth sense",
this feeling is absolutely correct everytime and every man who is fond of a woman emotionally, is induced with this kind of sense.
One thing is for sure, if u feel she is cheating, then there is really something annoying, because feelings are energies transformed from some actual actions performed.
I am a victim of gf betrayal. She cheated me ruthlessly and cruelly, she is a perfect spontaneous lair, and an unmathced actor, everytime i come to know about her gruesome deeds, she always cries and acts so nicely that my heart melts into a warm stream of blood, but behind me she is a perfect cheating bitch, a slut in high demand.
Always rely on ur gut feelings and sixth sense.
This is absolutely right that these days it is hard to find an honest and dedicated woman. Our society is slowly becoming a breed of honorless inbred swines.
however, aftermath, try to rule ur heart with ur head.
» left by sebastian from calgary,ab, canada (135 days 18 hours ago.)
My scenario is almost exactly the same, brilliant actor, hides her emotions so well, and can flick it on like a light switch...if you have any doubt about your gf, confront here concisely and with concern. if she is to defendant and dose not make eye contact and continues this behavior you certainly should cut it off, life is to short to be played by some cold hearted bitch! move on we're all better off.
ok so, few weeks ago, found out my girl was flirtin with one of my childhood friends on facebook. i never actually seen him flirt back but she was telling him that she wanted to do more. i dont kno what that meant. so i confronted her. and she fessed up that she only flirted with him. but i got reason to believe that she did do more. i work alot, and she stays home with my 2 year old. We had drinks on our 5th year anniversary. we just moved into our dream house and i found out that night after i passed out that him an her were makin out at my kitchen table. i dont know what to believe. shes a chronic liar. she lies over the smallest things and i catch her. and its so easy to lie to me, when i just spent 12 hours at werk. we broke up an i took her back. mostly because if i broke up with her i wouldnt be able to see my son as much. we are trying to work it out but, i think every night those words she was saying to him. i love her so much..and i dont know what to do. i dont believe she told me everything. som1 plz gimme some advice.
» left by andrew from missouri (130 days 16 hours ago.)
its not once a cheater always a cheater, its "you cant turn a hoe into a housewife" this is the saying that rings clearest and most true in my head. i have been with so many girls and every single one of them has cheated on me, except one, one was nice enough to dump me before she @#$%&*ed another guy, 5 minutes before, but still. its the thought that counts. please gals, please be honest and get your head straight chances are guys will take you back if you just have a fling. its so dumb to even want this 30% of woman that are killed are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends, im willing to bet most of that percentage were cheaters. im in no way saying they are justified in doing something so terrible no way at all, i can however see how in the wrong situation something like that can happen. you really have no idea how bad it hurts so bad to know that youve been cheated on and then get lied to straight in the face by the person who you would give your life for, take a bullet for, the person who you commit every second of your being towards. its terrible it really is that people have to put up with this. in my opinion girls are the cheaters more so than guys because well they are girls, you can be butt @#$%&*ing ugly and broke as a girl and still get @#$%&*ed, try being ugly and broke as a guy and even getting a girl to look in your direction. again im not saying this is right, but i can understand why men were so afraid of giving woman any rights at all in the first place, because of how much more powerful they could be in this world then man. its a shame that most girls always have their own agenda, and will suck a guys dick if she just "thinks" she likes him, and he takes her out to a fancy dinner. i know i probably deserve being cheated on because i used to be swine, a pig, a womanizer, i would take girls out and spend 100s of dollars on them just to get in their pants, and it always worked, if they had a boyfriend or not, they would of course lie to their spouse married or not (whos going to turn down a 100 dollar dinner?) and things would just escalate and i would end up doing the nasty. i feel so bad now for all of those guys that i hurt in the proceess of my own selfishness, and i feel like maybe i deserve what is happening to me, now what does all this mean? shower your gal with gifts? no, because she will expect that all the time or shell dump you, treat her like ass? even tho most girls do like an asshole, it wont last long. unless you get a girl that is @#$%&*ed in the head and will cheat, maybe worse. what is the middle ground, im 21 with 2 kids from this girl who has cheated on me several times, hell i let her @#$%&* my friend because i knew she was going to if i didnt. might as well know about it and be there right? please someone help me. i would love to hear from a girl who is a cheater and changed for her man. i want to know why please any information at all is helpful. dstrbdfan666 from hotmail com (remove spaces and add things accordingly) in the subject put cheaters so i dont think its spam.
Ok guys, i am over 30 and i found out for myself that it is a culture thing: I had girls from europe, from US and from Australia. They are likely to cheat more easily on you than girls from a culture where family is no.1. Think of your children, you do not want to be with a cheating bitch and have to raise little kids with her. A nightmare. Look at divorce rates eg. in Europe, often 50% or higher, same in Australia. This wont happen that much to you with girls, say, from Asia, Russia, other countries, where family values are still high! Just a thought.
» left by Wreca from China (112 days 12 hours ago.)
Im 30 loving 20 years old girl from different race,we meet when she broke with her ex-bf (ex-classmate), so she move on with me,and i help her a lot,she once told me that she was lucky to have me,cos i change her life for better within 8 month. she once told me that she want travel for classmates activities but end up in hotel room with him. they sex without condom,just one week later she told me i want travel for a day,meet with him in different city and have sex again.
30 days later she was pregnant. and we abort the baby i took all the responsibilities, just one day after Hospital she broke with me because i took her phone to check, two day later she come back.cos he cant take care of her and they even spent 6hrs in KFC cos there is no place to stay,i give her chance and ask her to tell me the truth, then she told me that he have sex with her and release inside her,in both near by cities she travelled to.since then i don't trust her anymore
I love her,i'm thinking to break,contact her ex-bf, or just move on.... please help me with good advice, cos im not sure that she will not do to him again
Wow, i thought id be the only person to resort to the internet about the possibilty of my girlfriend cheating, feels good to no im not! ME and my girlfriend are have been together for a little over a year now and before she went away we were looking at houses so id call the relationship prety serious untill now. She is currently away on a family holiday and has been acting realy different to say the least. Im currently suffering from a slipped disk and awaiting news if i need a spinal operation and if i can go back to my job.
My girlfriends been away for 10 days and not once had she asked how ive been doing, what ive done while shes away and not even asked how my back is. Fair enough crap happens and i left it. I was then on the phone to her and could hear her cousin shouting a guys name, when i heard i just said whos that shes shouting, my girlfriend turned around and said shes just shouting random names so i just laughed and we both said bye but just before she put the phone down i heard her cousin calling her a liar. Im not the kinda guys who forbids a girlfriend from having guy mates so theres no reason to lie about meeting a friend while shes been there and she no's this. The only other logical explanation i can think of is that shes cheating? What do you guys think? Also when i approached her about her cousin she said her cousin just winds people up for a laugh and thats all she was doing. When i asked her if theres anything i should no about like if shes has been cheating she turn around and went crazy. Realy dont no what to think REALY hoping someone reading this has been in a similar situation.
» left by joy from philippines (68 days 9 hours ago.)
well i noticed guys get hurt a lot when their girl cheats.
i am a 24 year old gal and i have cheated 3x with my man for 6 years, he never knew about it but he had doubts, he was a very trusting man and even if its already obvious that im cheating, he would always believe in what i say. the reason i cheated is that i was bored in the relationship, i wanted a new thrill but that doesnt mean i love him less.i just want excitement, fun and adventure,later did i know it would backfired.we broke up but now i miss him evryday, he is already with someone else and now getting married.i am also currently in a relatioship with someone for a year now but i still think of my 6year relationship. as of now i am already a good girl, doin evrything that i have never done with my past relationship.i see to it that my current man is loved by me in all means, he got mt pregnant and then suddenly he wanted to get rid of the baby, i couldnt understand why suddenly this man dont care for me just like the previous one, i discovered he is cheating on me for months and got the other girl pregnant too. i cried for how many nights, thinking this is already my karma..BUT i never let go of him, i showed him how much i love him and i am willing to hold on and he chose me instead of the girl, leavin the girl pregnant.my conscience is killin me, i talked to the girl, asked her whats her plans, she told me she wants to get to rid of the baby and move on, so i gave her money, accompanied her to the abortionist and remained friends. i am now still with this man who cheated on me once and tryin to work things out, we have agreed to marry next year.
at the back of my mind, i still long for this guy whom i cheated 3x..
so guys, i hope i have enlighted ur mind a bit. girls can cheat but that doesnt mean she doesnt loves u.
» left by Johnsmitthydoo from Montreal (60 days 4 hours ago.)
Hey guys, so my girlfriend and i have been dating for a year now,We met threw other friends she basicly put her self out to be miss.innocent virgin girl but likes to still drink a bit or do drugs every now and then nothing hard just like pot and that kinda stuff,So i got to know her pretty well she would basicly talk to me constintly every day all day text messaging me,My friend who i had been friends with for 2 years was kind've intrested in her was also getting to know her but he was actually a virgin thats never even kissed a girl,well we would basicly just drive around and she'd talk with me and we'd allways end up at her place in bed but just to have a nap...lol she'd cuddle up to me so tight and just lay there, when she'd be awake she'd make some sort of advances but since i thought she was a virgin i should try and make it a little bit more special for her,anywho she started dating my friend cause her friend was telling him that she likes him so much,but in reality just felt bad for him and thought he was nice,the whole time she was dating him, she'd be constintly talking to me on the phone,texting, msn e.t.c and still get me to hangout with her and she'd bring me in her bed still and give me massages and just cuddle up to me,eventually she ended up very pationatly kissing me, and we're about to have sex but i decided not to "very odd thing to do " lol because she was dating my friend even though i'd been madly in love with her since the second i layed eyes on her, so this continued for another week or so, then she dumped him and started hanging out with me everyday but a month in she said she didnt want a relationship, then eventually we started dating then a week later she went to mexico with her mom and sisters, which seems pretty innocent but apparently not,her sister met some mexican guy and they were "together" and he had a friend apparently and her sister decided to tell him that she was interested so im told that he kissed her and she pulled a way and didnt let him but he still managed to hold a kiss for 2 seconds so her excuse for this was she didn't know we were dating yet cause apparently i didnt ask her which i did clearly two times actually and she said yes but still felt bad even though "she didn't do it" he came on to her. lol oh wow so anyways after this sitsuation i find out that my lovley girlfriend had a pretty eventfull pass so apparently she had slept with about 10 people that i knew quite well and when being around them with would'nt mention a thing about it even if i asked her. but eventually she told me and i dont know it just felt like i was cheated it hurt so much, to have to look into these friends, or aquaintinces in the eye and think oh well thats great you @#$%&*ed my sluty girlfriend. when i met the cute innocent girl. so now we get in arguments frequently about how she had sex with all those people that i know pretty well. Which i think it should be understandable that it would bother me its human nature at least i think,but apparently according to her that it shouldn't bother me cause its in the past, but you learn alot about a person from there passed so it seems the chances are high that she'd cheat on me and she told me that she had NEVER said no to any guy that tried which is really wierd cause she is so shy and doesn't talk to anyone which scares me a little that shes been with around 10 + people. she has maybe 3-4 close friends and thats about it and they bairly even socialize together. Anyway, now shes extremly depressed and is on anti-depressents , she used to allways doing sexual favors for me , head ,massages e.t.c and we'd have sex at least a minimum of 4 times a day and then a few favors both ways, now she doesnt seem to want to do any favors and sex just isnt as passionate just lifles she still says i love you all the time and kisses me and always wants to hold my hand and wants to be around me all the time but it just seems to be like the spark is gone. like something is missing , i have caught her talking to people that shes had sex with, and replying and having conversations with ex boyfriends while they tried to make fun of me she didn't even really defend me, i found a bunch of letters and little things from previous relationships, but she said she didn't even know she had them still, even though i watched her put them in a box infront of me at the start of our relationship and said she wanted to burn them but it never happend. and when she describes how she wants me to look or whatever like a hair cut or clothing or a tattoo it just fits the discriptions of previous people which kind've scares me alot too. but i dont know guys im just rambling on and on, anyone have some insight on if you think shes still seeing them or new people or is still interested in them, or is it just because she is suffering from depresion and or the side effects from the pills ? anything would be helpful.
» left by kou from 2125 bryant ave n. (46 days 17 hours ago.)
well i dont know if my girlfriend is cheating but i wanna say that she is doing things that she isn't suppsoe to be doing when in a relationship. she was dancing with this guy on her homecoming dance, and she asked me if it was okay for her to date other guys.... i need help. what should i do.
Trust me kiddo, take it from someone who's been through it. Dump her asap. Unless you want an open relationship and you get to date or be with other girls... Then break up with her. By telling you she wants to date another she's basically saying that she doesn't want you... But is keeping you around till something better comes by, the fact that over the course of a relationship that someone by chance may start hitting on her is bad enough, but normal. But the fact that she's solliciting guys to do as mentioned above, well, that's effed up.
I dearly loved a girl and still do, we have been together for nearly 2years and just about 2weeks ago, I found out she was in movies with a guy who came all the way from Canada, i caught her red handedly. That same day she lied to me saying she was going to her aunts place but rather she went to meet this guy. After i caught her she started crying n saying she made a mistake and that this guy was just a friend whereas she used to chat wid him on MSN n Facebook. She also agreed that she meet her couple of times since the guy has landed in my country. A week later she closes all her e-mail accounts but opens a gmail account and e-mailing to guy in OZ saying she has closed her accounts and will advise further wen i open i new account. Wen i confronted her she said this guy was my dads dream and that this guy wanted 2 marry him. Wen i asked y u e-mailed hime. She said mum told me 2 do so.
She has made my life very difficult, eventhough I love her but she has lost my trust. She said she has realized her mistaked n she wants a new life wid me as she said she loves me. She also proposed 2 marry me!... Well life isnt the same as it used to be, we were so happy but i had a problem of my own, that was drinking late nights n stuff. I will be living this City in 3weeks n going far from her, but thinking abt all this aches me....Pls someone tell me wat to do?
Bro once a cheat always a cheat...I no it will be hard, but trust me she has evil in her n has shown she can do this again..Go drink n party buddy..n keep ur distance, its hard 2 trust girls these days..They are all effd up...If she wud have LOVED u she y'd she do this? Go get a break bro...
Just move forward and also she will coz it wudnt take much of her time to look 4 another guy....Or else u regret later!
Believe me girls ae like this, they will show that they care for you and if you hurt them they will sumhow revenge from u...If she wud have lovd u she wudnt be chatiing on te net and meeting a guy secretly....The whole picture is infront of u and u still wana go down the pothole.....Run buddy, as far as u can, she is an evil that will haunt u forever...!
» left by John Miller from Virginia (1 hour 42 minutes ago.) New Comment!
I recently came to find out that my gf has been talking to her ex (who is trying to get back with her) behind my back. When I confronted her about this she acted as if there is nothing wrong with her talking to her ex and that I was overreacting. I honestly don't have a problem with them getting together now and again, but my worry comes from the fact that she was keeping it from me and that she has cheated on others in the past. Let me get your opinions. Do I have something to worry about?
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