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CHILDREN NEED TO KNOW THESE RULES ABOUT SAFETY WHEN THEY ARE `OUT ON THEIR OWN` Most people are good! This means most strangers are good. A stranger is just someone I don't know and can look like anybody. The rules are different when I am with an adult who is taking care of me and when I am on my own. When I am on my own, my job is to check first with the adult in charge before I let a stranger get close to me, talk to me, or give me anything.
If I am old enough to be out on my own without an adult to ask, it is safer to be where there are other people close by to get help if I need it. I do not give personal information to a stranger or to someone who makes me feel uncomfortable. It is OK to get help from strangers if an emergency is happening to me, and there is no one close by that I know.
My job is to check first with the adult in charge before I go anywhere with anyone (a stranger or someone I know). I will tell the adult in charge where I am going, who will be with me, and what I will be doing. I will have a safety plan for how to get help anywhere I go. I will know what my family's safety rules are for children answering the door, being on the phone, and being on the internet.
To be able to follow these rules, children need to practice
1. How to stand and walk with awareness and confidence.
2. How to keep a safe distance from someone approaching them.
3. How to walk away from a stranger without waiting even if that person is being very nice.
4. How to check first even when a stranger says not to.
5. How to ESCAPE from a person / persons who grabs me. `Aikido` or kidsscape by John Hall gives all people the ability to escape from all attacks and grabs.
6. How to get help from a busy or insensitive adult if they are lost or scared.
7. How to make noise, run, and get to safety in case of an emergency.
8. What to say and do if a stranger approaches them at home.
CHILDREN NEED TO KNOW THESE RULES ABOUT SAFETY WITH PEOPLE THEY KNOW: My body belongs to myself--my body, my time, and my spirit--ALL belong to me. Touch for play, teasing, or affection has to be both people's choice and it has to be safe. Except for health, no one should touch me in my private areas (the parts of the body covered by a bathing suit or underwear).
No one should ask me to touch them in their private areas .
Touch or other behavior for health or safety is not always a choice, but also should never, EVER, have to be a secret.
I do not have to let what other people say control how I feel. Anything that bothers me should not have to be a secret. If I have a problem, I need to tell an adult I trust and keep on telling until I get help.
It is NEVER too late to get help .
To be able to follow these rules, children need to practice:
1. Saying "No" to unwanted or inappropriate behavior using polite clear words, eye contact, and assertive body language.
2. Persisting even when someone uses bribes, hurt feelings, or power to try to pressure them into doing something that makes them feel uncomfortable.
3. Protecting themselves from hurtful words.
4. Verbal choices for getting out of potentially dangerous situations.
5. Getting the attention of busy adults and telling the details about situations that make them confused or uncomfortable.
PARENT and Child Information on AWARENESS
Child abductors use these tricks most the time, the candy, the ice cream, we have some over here or I've lost my puppy, can you help me find it? Also, your mummy or Daddy is hurt. Your daddy sent me to come pick you up to take you to the hospital. They need you there."
What is a Stranger? Start by explaining that a stranger is not always a creepy man lurking in the shadows – they're often young and friendly. Tell them that strangers use tricks to lure children into dangerous situations. They may ask for help loading groceries into a car or searching for a lost puppy or kitten. Explain that grown-ups and teens typically don't ask children for help, or offer toys or candy.
A stranger may try to coax a child into a vehicle by saying that the child's parent is sick or in the hospital. Tell your child that you will never send a stranger to get them. Agree on a code word that the driver must know. If he asks for hints or doesn't know the code word, the child should run and tell an adult. Normally this situation NEVER HAPPENS and if it does happen then, NORMALLY one of the parents sends one of their in-laws whom are known to the child.
Teachyour child to observe his or her surroundings, and to inform you if a stranger speaks to him. Make a game of teaching your child how to look at a random person in a crowd, then turn to you and describe the person without peeking: height, build, hair color, and facial hair, skin color, jewelry, tattoos, and clothing, as well as how they move. Do the same with cars and trucks.
Buddy up. I f your child walks to school, find a buddy or two for him to walk with. Check the route, and make sure he doesn't deviate from it (for example, no shortcuts through wooded areas or alleys). Teach him to use the buddy system at playgrounds as well. Locate safe houses in your neighborhood where he can go if he is ever in trouble or being followed.
No secrets. Help your child define personal boundaries. Tell him that no one should ever touch his private areas (except a doctor or nurse, and you'll be there to supervise), and no one should ask him to keep secrets from his parents. He should trust his instincts and inform you if he feels uncomfortable with someone.
Don't offer information. Teach your child never to reveal any information concerning any family member or other child.
The TRICKS USED BY SEXUAL PREDATORS
Complements / Attention
This trick is on top the of the list for the most insidious of all tricks because predators use the same innocent vulnerability we strive to protect in our children for purposes of methodically gaining their trust by giving special attention to them so they can eventually sexually abuse them. All children want love, attention and affection this is why they are particularly vulnerable to those who are experts at grooming them to lead to their eventual sexual abuse.
Accidental Touching Trick
Children are often unaware that an accidental touching may be intentional or may be an offender attempting to touch closer to genitalia the next time.
Assistance Lure Trick
Offenders may ask a child for help with directions or carrying packages. One convicted offender stated that he liked to hang around kiddies hamburger restaurant bathrooms. He would abuse young boys under the guise of helping them with their zippers.
Another type of assistance lure may be an offender who senses a role he might play by assisting a family with children. His assistance might be needed for babysitting or for driving a child to activities. Watch for those who are more interested in your child than you, there is a reason.
Authority Trick
Many of us have taught our children to respect authority without realizing that individuals who target our children take advantage of their position such as a teacher, coach, religious or club leader.
Desensitize Trick
Offenders may continually talk to children about sex or use pornography to demonstrate sexual acts. They may arouse a child's curiosity by leaving sexual material and aids around where they may see them.
Drug & Alcohol Trick
Drugs or alcohol can be used to incapacitate a child making them highly vulnerable to sexual abuse.
Emergency Trick
Crisis can be confusing for young children and offenders count on that so they construct an emergency to lure children.
Fame Trick
Promises are made to make the child a movie star or to meet someone famous.
Friendship Trick
Older children may bribe a younger child (or same age) by saying that they will not be their friend anymore unless they participate in a sexual act. This is mainly used with young girls.
Games Trick
Body contact games such as wrestling are played where touching genitalia is part of the rules. Also by way of tickling or play grabbing, with the adult laughing loudly to make it seem more like an innocent game to the child.
Hero Trick / Special Privileges Trick
(Coach / Teacher / Person in a Position of Authority)
Children are often impressed with those individuals they look up to such as those in a position of authority like a coach, teacher, older cousin. They may endure abuse to maintain a relationship where they are receiving special privileges for fear of losing those privileges.
SAFETY for CHILDREN
• Be sure that the children in your life know that you will listen
• Rules and boundaries - use them for your children's safety
• Safety and weapons - Safety in the face of armed violence in our schools
• Safety for Summer ` Swimming Pools`
• Sex offender in the neighbourhood
• What is a stranger?
• The safety of kids is everybody's business
• How to tell when a child is ready
• Holiday Boundaries `In any Counrty, any Time, Any Where` Be READY`
• What Parents and Teachers need to know
• How can I teach safety without making my child afraid?
PERSONAL SAFETY for TEENS and ADULTS
• The date rape drug and alcohol
• Boundary-lowering tactics to watch out for
• Getting help
• Intuition - trust its wisdom
• Look and Sound Like You Mean It
• Resistance works
• Staying safe while helping others
• Safety tips for teens
• General safety tips
The FOUNDATION of SAFETY (our beliefs, attitudes, emotions)
• Believe in Yourself - The foundation of personal safety
• Fear - How to make fear your friend
• Safety comes from inside ourselves
• Women's safety - the empowering possibilities: a new world for women's rights
• Protecting ourselves from negative beliefs
THE KAEDE PROGRAM IS NOT FOR SALE OR TO BE SOLD FOR PROFIT BY ANY EDUCATIONAL Institute, INDIVDUAL or GROUPS.THIS IS A FREE PROGRAM DESIGN FOR WOMEN and CHILDRENS SAFETY, PARENTS / TEACHERS / and people in a position of AUTHORITY. ALL RIGHTS RESEVERED
KNOWN DATE RAPE DRUGS and their EFFECTS
Sexaul Assault
What are date rape drugs? These are drugs that are sometimes used to assist a sexual assault. Sexual assault is any type of sexual activity that a person does not agree to. It can include inappropriate touching, vaginal penetration, sexual intercourse, rape, and attempted rape. Because of the effects of these drugs, victims may be physically helpless, unable to refuse sex, and can't remember what happened. The drugs often have no color, smell, or taste and are easily added to flavored drinks without the victim's knowledge. There are at least three date rape drugs:
GHB (gamma hydroxybutyric acid)
Rohypnol (flunitrazepam)
Ketamine (ketamine hydrochloride)
Although we use the term "date rape," most experts prefer the term "drug-facilitated sexual assault." These drugs have been used to help people commit other crimes, like robbery and physical assault, and have been used on both men and women.
What do these drugs look like?
GHB has a few forms: a liquid with no odor or color, white powder, and pill.
Rohypnol is a pill and dissolves in liquids. New pills turn blue when added to liquids. However, the old pills, with no color, are still available.
Ketamine is a white powder.
What effects do these drugs have on my body? The drugs can affect you quickly. The length of time that the effects last varies. It depends on how much of the drug is taken and if the drug is mixed with other substances, like alcohol. Alcohol can worsen the drug's effects and can cause more health problems. Also, one drug - GHB - can be made by people in their homes, so you don't know what's in it.
GHB
GHB can cause these problems:
relaxation
drowsiness
dizziness
nausea
problems seeing
unconsciousness (black out)
seizures
can't remember what happened while drugged
problems breathing
tremors
sweating
vomiting
slow heart rate
dream-like feeling
coma
death
Rohypnol
Rohypnol can cause these problems:
can't remember what happened while drugged
lower blood pressure
sleepiness
muscle relaxation or loss of muscle control
drunk feeling
nausea
problems talking
difficulty with motor movements
loss of consciousness
confusion
problems seeing
dizziness
confusion
stomach problems
Ketamine
Ketamine can cause these problems:
hallucinations
lost sense of time and identity
distorted perceptions of sight and sound
feeling out of control
impaired motor function
problems breathing
convulsions
vomiting
out of body experiences
memory problems
dream-like feeling
numbness
loss of coordination
aggressive or violent behavior
slurred speech
These drugs are in every country in the world and are used everyday to rape women and sexual assault children and teenagers.
Disclaimer: All information on this site is provided for informational purposes only! By no means is any
information presented herein intended to substitute for the advice provided to you by any health care or other professional
or organization.
