Parenting should be a time of molding and shaping our children. Molding and shaping our children into a great person for life. From the baby stage you can almost see certain character and personality traits so strong. Babies are so much fun to simply see the movements and gestures at such a young age. It is fun to see the creativity even in their little smile.
A lot of people think correcting a child at such a young age is wrong. Let me tell you this – there is a right way and a wrong way of handling correction with your children. Nipping it in the bud so to speak, can prevent you from some headaches and pain down the road.
It will not always be a perfect and happy journey, however I can't express enough how important it is to enforce simple discipline rules. I see many parents that allow their children to speak to them any kind of way, and show no respect even towards other adults. Have we come to a way of life where the children are living large and in charge? I hope not. May I ask – are there bad children or bad adults?
When a baby is born, they are not fully equipped for the way of life. That is where parents come into play in their role. It can be described as a computer being our child, and the software being the parents. Whatever parents load better yet teaches the child – that program better known as software is going to run! Oh – sometimes there maybe a corrupt file – a situation where the parent has messed up. What needs to happen in this instance is a cleaning of the hard drive - for parents that maybe simply asking for forgiveness for the mistake you may have made. Once this is done, then we need to re-install or try to enhance our teachings or parenting skills. It's not always going to be an easy program to run, however diligence, effort and persistence will bring great skills in everything we do. Parenting is not excluded.
I encourage you not to condemn yourself if you make a mistake, because we will. Try not to even allow yourself to become so frustrated and stressed out. This to shall pass! I read one book by a powerful author – Dr. Kevin Lehman titled "Adolescents Isn't Terminal". I tell you this book has helped me tremendously. I always try to strive in receiving instructions and teaching that will make me a better parent.
» left by Edian from Iowa (1 year 248 days ago.)
I agree with you 100%. It is good to hear that others still believe we need to raise our children, not just have them. Respond to this comment
» left by Iris (1 year 247 days ago.)
Thanks Edian! lol Like you - I feel it is good to hear others raising children and not compromising their parenting lifestyle. :)
» left by Anonymous (1 year 221 days ago.)
Iris, my oldest sister is with my other (2) sisters this weekend in Florida. One sister's having issues with our 17 year old niece. The oldest sister said to me, "I'm going to ask her what's wrong with her, meaning our sister, not the niece. She share the reason for this was because the niece is just a child and the sister is the adult! I loved the wisdom of this and I believe it's what your article has said. Children can't raise themselves. I loved the computer/software analogy. A fantastic article on parenting! Thanks for sharing. Respond to this comment
» left by Iris Shamble(279) Iris Shamble (1 year 219 days ago.)
I appreciate it Avis. I tell you sometimes my girls think I am off my rocker sometimes, however they do come back and say "mom" you said that was going to happen. What is even funnier, they have commented on why we cant be like those parents that let their children do anything. They would like to see how does it feel. I tell them you know what - you trying to finding out just how it feels could cost you your life. Hopefully your sister will realize decisions we allow our children to make for themselves will affect them their whole life and set the path for the life for sure. Try to keep her encouraged because it surely is a road of determination....WOW! :)
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