Father's...what can I say? Some have great father's and some unfortunely don't. In what order would you put these words to describe how you feel about your father? Love, Accept, Respect and Forgive. This is a hard question isn't it? I even have to really think about this also. I will say love first, forgive second, respect third and then accept.
No matter who your father is, he is your father. Just like any other human being deep down inside they love to hear the words " I Love You Dad " even if they pretend to brush it off and clear their throat and pretend that they are the big tough guy and don't care. It's impossible to say I love you and not have it touch their heart in someway.
We have to accept our fathers for who they are whether he treats you and your family badly or not. He probably won't change a whole lot between now and the day he dies. Hopefully he will change a bit and realize how important his family is to him and not take them for granted.
We also have to accept it if our fathers are great business men and seem to pay more attention to his work than his wife and kids. Or if your father has a job that is not up to your standard and it embarrasses you what he does for a living. Well just be thankful that he is working to provide a roof over your head, meals on your table and clothes on your back.
I could go on and on about all the different types of fathers out there, but there are to many to list. We just have to accept him for who he is right now or we can be stressed out over it for the rest of our lives and waste our life away hating him, fathers are human like you and I and they do make mistakes just like everyone else on this planet.
Those of you who have a dad that is loving and understanding and all the things good in the world that any son or daughter could ever ask for and have no problem accepting him, you are very lucky to have or had him in your life.
It is hard to respect a dad that has no reason to be respected because he is so terrible. But you know, you wouldn't be here if it weren't for him being with your mom at one time.
One of my friends never ever met her dad or even knows who he is, but she told me that for some reason she has a love for him deep down inside and she is glad that he was with her mother, or she wouldn't be here. Some of you wish you weren't here I know, but there is a reason you are here.
If you are a man, well chances are you will be a father one day. Just try not to do what your father done to hurt you. Break the cycle because your biological father probably was treated the exact same way as he treats you. So at least respect your father for one thing, he took part in creating you, whether it was in a good way and he loved your mom, or even if it was in a bad situation.
It is so hard to forgive isn't it? We seem to forgive others more quickly than our own family members. Years ago fathers were the ones who did the punishing in the family. Whether he used a switch off a bush, a belt, or a kick in the butt. He was just doing what he thought best at that time or what he was taught as a young man from his father.
But now in 2007 it is not allowed to punish children in that manner anymore, maybe that is what’s wrong with the kids these days, guns in school, and whatever you hear on the news is never a positive. Today all a kid gets is a time-out, or not even that because their parents are to busy for them.
For some of us, the way our dad’s did punish us way back when, has had an impact on who we are today and we can't seem to forgive or forget. You will never forget. But you can forgive. Just say it and mean it, say it to yourself, or say it out loud to God. I forgive my father for being so hard on me, I forgive my father for beating me with whatever he got his hands on, I forgive my father for never being there for me when I needed him most, I forgive him!
You know what; I bet you feel some burden lifted off your shoulders right now. You should tell him if you’re able to that you forgave him. If your father is not with us on this earth, still tell him that you forgive him, how? Just say it out loud, look up to the sky and just say it. I don’t know if people can hear us up there or not, but I am sure they can.
What I find the easiest to do is to love. I love my father no matter what his mistakes were in the past. He is who he is. I can't change that and personally I never would. I tell him I love him on different days. I don't wait until Father's Day.
I give him a big fat hug sometimes too; I don't wait until Father's Day for that either.
I even give him a kiss on the cheek and you know what I am going to say, I don't wait until Father's Day.
He helped to raise me and my sister; he helped put a roof over our heads and food in our mouths and clothes on our back. We were very lucky, more than a lot of people. He also has said things that hurt me and did things to make us mad or sad. But I Love him, I forgave him, I respect him and I accept him.
Don't wait to love, forgive, respect and accept him on Father's Day, do it everyday!
We are supposed to out live our parents, that is nature’s way. So in saying that, one day your father will die. Some of you will say to yourselves " I am so glad I told him I loved him while he was alive " and some will say " If I had only told him I loved him, if I only told him I forgave him..." be the person that says " I am so glad..."
Father's Day should be everyday, not just once a year.
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