Everything was fine. Boy meets girl. The Girl falls head over heals and madly in love for the boy. As time goes on neither one of them can bare the thought of living the rest of their lives with out each other. Realizing this they decide its time get declare their love for each other before God and their loved ones. To the Groom he is nervous but as he looks into her eyes he realizes he is overjoyed with the thought being joined to the one he loves. The beautiful bride is literally floating on cloud nine, in fact at this point in their young lives they are as as happy as happy could be. At least until the honeymoon is over.
One of the greatest realizations in our lives is when we begin to realize people are not always what they appear to be at surface level. Most newlyweds get hit with this eye popping realization after their initial honeymoon experience. You see at some point in their relationship their was a prayer made by both or one of these individuals. The prayer went something like this, "Oh God if only I could be married...". Now in disgust she notices he perpetually leaves the toilet seat in its upright position and beard hairs in the sink. He begins to notice a pattern, at certain times of the month she begins to act a little "funny". Annoying tendencies and friction now eats away at the love they they once had for each other. Now the prayer changes to "Oh God if only...If I could just be a single again". What happened? Where did the Love go? Fear sets in.Neither of them have committed a crime. In fact many newlyweds would be put at ease to know that this type of situation is perfectly normal in any given marriage. It can be used as a learning experience to deepen the love they have for each other provided they both make the conscious decision's to love each other unselfishly.
Love is one of if not the most powerful force on the earth. The lesson to be learned here is that love is a choice and not a mere feeling that causes one to abandons another. Its inevitable that hurts will come. To go into a marriage with the notion that it will requires little or no work is to live a lie. This type of marriage is destined for failure even before it has begun. Abandonment or divorce with the exception of physical or domestic abuse is never an option. Not to the one who is committed and really has meant the vows they said on that special day. Constantly reminding ourselves for better or for worse, For richer or poorer, In sickness or in good health. Our sacred vows of love to that person means I will never leave you or forsake you no mater how tough it gets. in spite of all your shortcomings, failures and hangups I choose to love you. This is real Love and commitment. Maybe If more people were willing to change their perspective on love, commitment and marriage their would be fewer broken hearts and homes in our country.
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