Inevitably, the journey towards your vision is bound to have a few curves, dips, and obstacles along the way (and if it doesn't, I want to walk in YOUR footsteps!). A challenge or roadblock doesn't have to keep YOU down for the count when you follow these 7 Secrets to Conquering Obstacles!
1. Don't Give Up or Give In!
In coaching we call that nagging little voice in your head that says, "You can't do that. You've tried something just like it and failed. What makes you think this time is any different?" or “You’re too fat, too old, under qualified, …" a GREMLIN (my quieted GREMLIN pictured right). Others may refer to it as a self-limiting belief. Whatever you call it, know that those GREMLINS usually lie. Oh, sure, they mean well and are perhaps trying to protect you from disappointment, but they will also prevent you from success. They want to maintain the status quo.
When you hear that voice, acknowledge it for what it is, a GREMLIN, identify any shred of truth you heard, and determine which parts are the lies. Then let go of the lies and move forward.
2. Connect with your "Why"
When identifying your vision and goals, it's important to know exactly why you want to achieve them. If you haven't already done so, sit down and write out your "Why's". These can be powerful motivators when the chips are down. Tony Robbins calls this the pain/pleasure principle.
Simply put, you link incredible amounts of pain to abandoning focus, and an incredible amount of pleasure to achieving it. By answering some key questions linked to your "Why" such as, "What will I miss out on in my life if I don't achieve this goal?" or "What kind of momentum would I have in my life if I achieved this goal" can help trigger strong emotions about your goal, and draw you towards their achievement.
3. Act "As If… "
I recently heard a terrific speaker, Laurie Nelson, who had a new twist on an old theme of "Fake it 'til you make it", which is "Act as if…". Who do you need to be in order to achieve your vision for your life? You can be that better self or changed person even before you reach your goals!
Let’s say your dream is to become a writer. You have your vision and a plan to make it happen. Now you begin to "Act as if you're a successful writer". When you meet someone for the first time and they ask, "So, what do you do?" begin by replying, "I'm a writer specializing in ____ and I also - - - (whatever else you do to make the ends meet)". You'll begin to identify yourself more clearly in that end vision, and begin taking more focused action.
4. Take Baby Steps
Feeling overwhelmed and paralyzed by project plans and deadlines? Pick one small step or action you can immediately take. Once you've done that small step, choose another, and then another. Achieving some quick wins will draw you towards making more! Little-by-little those baby steps will add up to a whole completed step or phase in your business plan and put you on a path headed towards success!
5. Change Your Perspective
Set goals and change your reaction about potentially not achieving them. It's okay if you don't achieve your goals! Successful people often miss their target. The key is getting in motion, creating momentum, and moving ahead.
6. Create a Brag File
It's hard for us to see ourselves the way others see us. It's also difficult to remember all the terrific accomplishments we've made to date when the dark cloud of defeat looms overhead. Create a file and put anything in it that makes you feel good: thank you notes, reference letters, pictures where you look great, awards you've received, etc. Perusing your brag file is sure to lift your spirits.
7. Success is 1% ingenuity and 99% persistence!
If you have ever failed to meet a goal, know that you are in good company! Thomas Edison failed more than 1,000 times before he invented the light bulb; Michael Jordan didn't make the cut on his high school basketball team; Einstein flunked math and was earning a living as a postal worker when he published his "Theory of Relativity."
It's a fact; going for a goal propels us forward! So put the fear of failure aside, set some goals that inspire, stretch and motivate you, and start moving your life in the direction you want it to go. It's often by failing to achieve certain goals that we are able to achieve others.
Don't let the obstacles and valleys along the way throw you too far off course. Conquer them and judge yourself not for the end-result, but for how you manage the journey! |
