There are not many people who could actually claim to enjoy public speaking. Having to talk in front of a crowd of people is daunting at the best of times however the thought of being a best man can cause many a sleepless night for members of the male species. In this article I will be writing about the fear of being a best man and will give advice on how people can successfully deliver a the speech.
I was quite shocked a couple of months ago when a good friend of mine admitted that he was becoming stressed about having to be the best man at his brothers wedding. My shock came after hearing his reasons for this stress. His worries were solely due to the fact that he did not want to give a speech in front of that many people.
I am a person who had a stutter in childhood, this stuttering problem actually continued to affect my speech until I was aged twenty-two. I had had a fear of talking in certain situations, for example having to read out a loud from a book, that lasted for around eighteen years and could therefore understand this type of stress. What I could not understand is why my friend was so worried as he did not have a stutter.
I do not think I will stutter or stammer, my friend said, I just do not like public speaking and am worried that my mind might go blank or that people may find the speech boring. The last thing I want to do is to let my brother down, he continued.
He then decided to be pro-active and went to the library to read about how to deliver a successful public speech.
He came back full of ideas and in a much more positive frame of mind. I need to pre-plan the speech, I need to include a couple of jokes and funny stories about the groom and I need to just take my time he said.
On the day my friend did superb, everybody seemed to enjoy his speech, the pre-planning had worked a treat.
Steve Hill helps to promote a number of websites including:
http://www.stammering-stuttering.co.uk
http://www.stress-management-game.co.uk
http://www.stammering-therapy.com |
