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Your ex-girlfriend was the best thing you ever had, and now she is gone. What happened and how can you get her back? Winning her love back will require a combination of your head, your heart, and your honesty.
First, I suggest you do a little bit of soul searching. You need for a moment to look past all of the good times, all of the sweet moments, all of the warmth - and look into the heart of the matter. After doing so, if you really feel like you would be great together again, then read on and follow my 5 steps to follow along the path to back to her love.
Step #1: Recognize her uniqueness: Even before contacting your ex again, look inside yourself and see in your mind’s eye what makes her special. Every woman has that special, indefinable quality that makes her more attractive in some way than any other women. This is her special gift: her diamond, her jewel, her nugget of gold. If you are sincere about getting her back and keeping her, let her know you see her in all her unique beauty.
Step #2: Admit your own faults: Try doing some soul-searching within yourself about your past actions in the relationship. If you believe that the end to your relationship was “all her fault," you may as well give up your quest now. If you do get back together, your old issues are sure to surface again. When they do, be prepared to admit your own part to play in the problems you had together.
Step #3: Understand what she wants: When you are daydreaming about how great your ex-girlfriend was, it is easy sometimes to see her as a symbol for all that you still dream about rather than for what she is: a real person with real wants and needs. Once you start taking with your ex again, the first thing to do is to find out what her needs and wants really are. What are her dreams? What does she want in a man? Asking the right questions will let her know that you do really care about fulfilling her needs.
Step #4: Find out if she still loves you: When you find yourself talking with her again, avoid heavy topics and issues. You should keep the conversation on lighter topics, especially since you will both be aware in the back of your minds that you are there to talk about something deeper. At some point during the conversation, you do need to ask her whether she could ever love you again.
Step #5: Make your love your main focus: Getting her back should become the primary focus of her time, at least for the time being. After the initial excitement of your reunion, you two will inevitably fall back into some of your old relationship patterns. You will need to give the relationship the time it needs to heal old wounds.
Getting your ex-girlfriend back can be one of the most rewarding things you decide to do. To succeed, you will need to do some deep introspection, get in touch with her needs, and give it the time it deserves.
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» left by Davey from California (1 year 24 days ago.)
My ex gf and i of 2 yrs broke up. A couple weeks went by and we didnt talk. When we'd see eachother we'd say hi and shed tell me about her daughter who looks at me like a dad. I went to the birthday party and it was a little akward. She told me when we broke up the feelings werent the same anymore but she loves me and still cares about me. She has alot of baggage with her last relationship. Recently after the party she started texting me again one night all night long. The next day all day long. We joked around about the break up, flirted a little. Then we decided to take the kid to go see santa, which she still tells her im her daddy and wants me to pick her up from school etc etc. After that we went shopping. We talked a little in depth about the break up. She basically has no real answer, she told me it would kill her to see me with another girl but thats something shes gonna have to get over..she jokingly tells me she almost kisses me out of habbit. Then she told me one of her friends asked if we still talk and she told her ya, we're still friends. Instantly I went into defensive mode. I told her i didnt want to be friends, that we could be cool and acquantences, but not friends. She looked as if she was about to burst into tears. She even told me she did still have feelings for me and that she misses talking to me and breaking up with me was the hardest thing shes ever had to do. So i left and said goodbye, didnt hug her or anything. Yet she still does little things to show me she care sor is thinking about me. Like texting me to tell me not to take the highway cuz theres a bad accident out of the blue. I get home, she sends me a forward joke text. Then sends me a picture of her with the quote "a momento haha jk". I ignored her, she sends me anothe rone about having something over at my house that she needs, i tell her ill grab it for her, she says thank you i ignore it again. 20 minutes later i get one about her daughter telling santa she wanted a pony for chistmas. I dont get what this girl wants...could someone please provide some advice? Respond to this comment
» left by straz from florida (246 days 1 hour ago.)
went through the same thing bro...she wants the best of both worlds and your giving it to her. just stop all contact period. I didn't get her back but it helped me alot man sometimes things don't end the way we want them but its the only way you wont lose your mind. after a while of no contact she will either come to her senses and want you back or just move on. let her make the decision
» left by mahesh from bangalore (198 days 14 hours ago.)
i'm a married man but i'm standing in the same position of your ex gf. from few weeks my girl has started to look toward her future. so she is getting apart from me.
so i tell u to put yourself in her place and think what will be the right step for your & her future.
even u should look towards your future isn't it , just like my sweet lover.
but please don't hurt her feelings..... Respond to this comment
» left by Pierre Nathoo from Georgetown, Guyana (99 days 7 hours ago.)
My Ex-girlfriend and i broke up for 4 months and i could see that she still likes me, because when i asked her if she wants to get back together and start over our relationship she said yes and then like three days after she kissed me alot and then like 3 days after she tells me that she dont love me only like but she said that it is possible for her love to come back, and she told me that she will work on us anyways i really want to know what i have to do to make her love come back, she told me that she still cares about me alot and she wont do anything to hurt me. and i feel the same way. anyways for all of those guys that have the love of your lives its best that you treat her like the princess she is and dont break her heart like i did.
Im in a similar boat, my ex dumped me because I took advantage of her good nature and was lazy etc around the house, I also got quite jealous and despite many times her telling me to sort it out, it was too late and she dumped me, I have been gutted since our breakup and I tried endlessly to get her back, little to my knowledge then I didnt realise how this wud drive her away. We have still been meeting up regulary and we have been together since... but she also said she no longer loves me and it was only last week she said she only wants to be friends. I said id prefer not to be friends as it would destroy me seeing her move on, so ive tried avvoiding her many times, ive asked her to leave me alone too but she never does, she always texts me still and asks mad questions, shes well jealous and is worried about me moving on... i dont get what she wants from me either, she says she doesnt love me but why wont she leave me to get over her? dude, women are a pain in the arse!
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