Guys, you should know by now the simple principal that "actions speak louder than words" is all too true in married life. In a successful marriage partnership, not only should the husband verbally express his love and commitment, but he should be dedicated to helping with domestic needs. This is critical to building a great marriage. Nothing pleases a wife more than when the husband takes care of simple needs around the home, whether it is changing a light bulb, or fixing a leaky faucet.
As in any healthy relationship, corresponding actions legitimize the spoken word. In my opinion, the emotional make-up of a woman has been designed to be keenly perceptive to deeds done by her man in regard to her needs.
After not only observing the success of this principal in marriage counseling , but experiencing it in my own married life, a deeper revelation came to me. What would happen if husbands went beyond the expected duties such as taking out the garbage? If the simple task of bringing in the grocery bags made my wife feel loved and appreciated, how would she respond if I did the unexpected? The results have been exciting!
Keep in mind; the wonder of a principal is that it works for everyone. It is universal and no respecter of persons. Whoever acts upon a principal, will in time, experience the benefits. No matter the condition of your relationship, right action will bring beneficial results.
If you have read this far, men, try not to get overwhelmed. I am often asked right about this time the all too familiar question from husbands -"Whats it going to take to make her happy?" Let me give you some very important perspective. Remember, the small things often speak the loudest. Its not the size of the action, but the sacrifice of the heart that impresses the wife. As I have said, to many a husband, a little bit goes a long, long way in the marriage relationship!
The seemingly most challenged husband can put into action my 5 secret tips and greatly change the landscape of his marriage.
- The Starbucks Run: Call your wife when returning home and ask her if she would like you to pick up her favorite hot beverage from Starbucks. This is has become a habit of mine. It doesnt take long to do and half the time she declines, but she loves that I asked.
- Gas up the Car: This is huge! When your wife gets into her car and sees it filled with gas she will think of you with deep affection. Not having to worry about going to a messy and crowded filling station and wrestling with the gas hose will make an instant hero out of you.
- Breakfast in Bed: Relax! Its not as hard as you think. I am not talking about Eggs Benedict. My wife really enjoys her tea, a piece of fruit, toast, and a bakery treat that I pick up from the local grocery store. Takes me about ten minutes to prepare this simple meal, and it scores big. What a way to begin the day - her smiling face.
- The Turn Down: If your wife is like most women, she has a jungle of pillows and an assortment of blankets and throws on top of the bed. When my wife is preparing to retire for the evening, I will remove all of these objects and get the bed ready for her by neatly turning down the linen. I know this doesnt sound like much, but the fact that she doesnt have to deal with this herself when she is tired really makes her happy. Give it a try and you will see what I mean.
- The Late Night Kitchen Clean Up: After dinner, my wife cleans the dinner dishes and loads them in the dishwasher. But thats not the end of the end of the dirty dishes. For the rest of the evening, my family uses more glasses, plates, and tableware. As I am almost always the last in bed in my household, I make it a point every night to collect these renegade dishes and put them in the dishwasher. My wife is so deeply appreciative of this. She can awaken everyday to a clean kitchen. And remember dont forget to turn on the dishwasher!
Give my suggestions a try or develop your own secret ways to impress your wife, and you will be back on your way to building a great marriage!
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