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The most absolute negative comment you can give your wife or partner when they are going through menopause, is…"Gee, you look like you’re nine months pregnant." I hear some states are considering making an exception for murder for those comments. If I was a man, I would first check to see if there are any large holes dug in the backyard, or an anvil by the bed, before making such statements.
Do our men not realize we have full length mirrors? Do they not see how little we eat, and yet, how large our stomachs appear? Doesn’t that trigger some sort of, "Hmmm…I wonder is she’s going through menopause?" No, it doesn’t.
Another reason for this empty pregnancy, may be stress. The more stress, the more bloated you become. I have found this to be absolutely true. I have talked to my doctor, my nurse practitioner, other women, and my reflexologist about this problem, and those are the two answers I received: menopause and stress.
Even more delicate the situation. I know what it looks like to be pregnant, I had three kids, but twenty three years later, I didn’t think I would still look as if I was ready to give birth. When I am calm, and have worked things through that were bothering me, my stomach is flatter. When I am uneasy and worried and tired, I am like a fifty one year old woman in my ninth month! And about this, I can not be more serious, I don’t need to be told I look like that!
How many pants and shirts do we go through to find the perfect outfit that will camouflage our staunch? Extra large is embarrassing, and only needed to reach around my stomach. Yes, many of us gain a few pounds as we get older, but the pregnant look is unique, and only women who have it know exactly what I mean.
How interesting that we go through menopause because we don’t need to be pregnant anymore, and while going through that process, we look pregnant!
I have 3 month days, 6 month, and 9 months, depending on the interfering menopause, or the amount of stress I’m under.
If it were simple weight gain, it wouldn’t change size, this mound of skin that is sometimes hard as a rock, and in times of ease and a lightening of the menopausal cycle, flat and just a little "loose." If I ever missed being pregnant, I’d be able to walk by my mirror on any given day, and feel quite comforted, but I don’t! I hate it, I fight it, I swear at it, I cry at it, and I want it gone. If I walked, it would be better. I’ve tried exercise, muscle is heavier than fat? I saw no results. Maybe when I decide to exercise again, I’ll give it 2 weeks!
I love to write, but I am not doing anything to metabolize fat, by sitting at my computer. My mind might be getting exercise, but my body feels like a lump on a log. So, I will continue to fight the bulge, fight the embarrassment, fight the annoyance, fight the shame, and continue on, waiting for it to go away? However, let the secret be revealed here and now, we women do not need to be reminded of our stomachs looking as if we are a month past our due date! We know! A simple, "You look nice honey," would bring much more favorable results. |
