Having gone through two situations where living together proved to be
the best choice, I'd have to say definitely YES. By living together,
you can learn a lot about a person before being bound by marriage.
Should you decide to live together first, you could possibly avoid a long term relationship with someone who has what I call the
" JEKYLL & HYDE SYNDROME".
Although, living together first nor, marriage is ever a guarantee. Learning ones
habits and mannerisms before tying the knot can save you a world
of headaches and, heartache down the road. Once you walk down the aisle
and, say your " I DO'S ", it can be harder to get out of a relationship
which is sometimes, physically, emotionally and or, verbally abusive which can be detrimental to you health.
A lot of grown-ups now and, back in the day believe that, living together before marriage is a sin. But, I think that peoples outlook on that has changed tremendously and, It is no longer frowned upon as much as it used to be.
» left by Teresa Ortiz(5,727) Teresa Ortiz (1 year 43 days ago.)
Hi Maxine, I struggled with whether or not to make a comment. I don't want to sound preachy or harsh, but your last statement is what I can't let go of. I lived with my husband before we got married, and from my experience, we realized after we got married that we wished we hadn't. We robbed ourselves of the gift and previleges that go along with married. Though we are Christians now, we learned that living together was not the best thing to do before marriage while we didn't really care what God thought. Anyway, In God's eyes living together is a sin. And no matter what people might think, it doesn't change God's position on this issue. Why is it a sin? Because God said that everytime you have sexual relations with a person, you literally give them a piece of your soul. WOW! that's hugh, the more people we are "with" the less of a whole person we become. It makes sense, by the time we marry, how much of us is really left? Secondly, God hates the pain that it can cause. Broken hearts, possibly unplanned pregancies, you name it. Besides, there is no perfect prince or princess out there, so we could end up living together several times - 10 - 15 who knows, that is alot of heart break... Anyway, I hope you don't take offense, but I couldn't help but respond. God Bless you Respond to this comment
» left by MAXINE46 from NEW YORK (1 year 43 days ago.)
Hi Teresa, I am not the least bit offended. I fully understand your point and, everyone in entitled to one. Your absolutely right about the possibility of living together several times beforehand. But, there are also some people who believe in not living together first so, they go ahead and get married, several times. I know living together before marriage is a sin but, getting married and divorced over and over again isn't a good thing either. There are some people who seem to be incapable of being without a partner. But, what happens when you meet someone that seems to be the one for you and, you marry them without living together first? Then, a couple of days, weeks, months or years later, things don't work out and, they get a divorce. Eventually, you meet someone else and, you get married then, the same thing happens again, and again. Some people get married three, four, five or more times and, they still end up alone. So, I really believe that it's better to live together first and if necessary, leave with your dignity rather than having multiple divorces under your belt. Respond to this comment
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