The effects of building a good rapport with someone are endless. It will make people trust you, and look up to you. Some people are naturally good at being charismatic . The problem is that most people don't know how to be charismatic and build a good rapport. One of the easiest ways to build rapport is to care about the people you talk to.
When someone someone feels like they are cared about, they will care more about you. This holds true for just about any conversation. Talking to your new neighbor at the mailbox. Flirting with the cute new secretary at work. Virtually any conversation where you want to leave a lasting impression of integrity and value.
Basically this is really simple, what you need to do is take the mental frame of mind wanting to get to know the person. Be curious about them, maybe they know some hidden bit of knowledge you have been seeking for years. You want to look up to them, and respect them. If you take more value in the things they say, they will take more value from what you say.
One easy way to do this is to picture the person as being the next president or famous actor. Some person whom you respect and look up to. Look them in the eyes when they are talking. Don't stare at them, but make sure you acknowledge that you hear what they are saying. Pay attention, they might have something interesting to say.
When you respond to them make sure your response is relevant to what they are saying. You don't want to change the subject if they are talking about something that interests them. People are happier talking about something they enjoy. They are more likely to remember your conversations.
You can be charismatic by laughing at peoples jokes, smiling things like that. When you use this technique into a conversation with a person you just met, you will have a far more meaningful conversation with them. They will feel more comfortable talking to you and be more open. This will leave a lasting impression in her mind as well. She will remember you in a positive way.
You will never know what you are missing out on if you do not take these tips into action. It's worth the little bit of extra effort. You will find yourself developing stronger relationships with people. When you have a good rapport with someone they want you to be a part of their life. Being charismatic makes it easy to talk to everyone. Everyone will enjoy your new presense.
Jeff Bowerman maintains a site with many proven secrets of charisma. Conversation Mastery is simple when you know how.
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