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Of all the things that influence our
lives, our beliefs is perhaps the most important. What we believe
shapes our attitude and behaviour, and if we want to change or
transform our lives we cannot truly succeed without changing our
beliefs.
The Internet is filled with stories about
how the power of belief can and has changed a person's life. What is
less obvious to most people is how our beliefs determine our day to day
reality.
I once heard a testimony from a public
speaker about how he unconsciously allowed his belief to alter his
life. Here's his story:
"I had a very good working relationship with my boss until this incident occurred.
One day, my boss told me that he was
picking up a very important client from the airport and he invited me
to come along. I felt it was an honour to be invited along to welcome
our important client. We drove to the airport in his car. He was
driving and I was in the front passanger seat.
At the airport, we did not need to wait long before we met our client and quickly walked him to the car.
As we neared the car, all of a sudden,
my boss tossed me his car keys and asked me to drive. He simply seated
himself with the client in the back seat. They chatted all the way
back, oblivious to my presence.
At that moment, I felt and believed
that my boss has used me. He has invited me along so that he can get a
driver for himself and our client. I felt so angry with him that from
that moment on my impression of him has changed. I did not believe that
this was a man who would look after my interest.
After this incident, I felt the need
to get back at him. Each time we have a company meeting, I tried to
sabotage his proposals and suggestions by pointing out the negative
aspects of his ideas. I wanted to make things tough for him.
This went on for several years until I
left the company for another job. Even up to the day I left, he had no
idea why my attitude towards him had changed."
Self Limiting Beliefs
A belief is merely a perception of
reality. What we choose to believe, therefore, determines OUR reality.
Our attitude and behaviour change to be in congruent with our beliefs.
"Whether you believe it or not, it's true."
"Whatever our mind conceives and believes, it achieves."
"Your universe begins in your mind."
"You can choose what to believe in."
It is important to realise that there are
constructive beliefs and destructive beliefs. A constructive belief is
a belief that expands life and leads to empowerment and fulfilment of
life. A destructive belief is a self limiting belief that constrict
your life and leads to a loss of power.
Unfortunately for most of us, we have a
lot more self limiting beliefs that constructive beliefs. This is ONE
big reason why we are stuck in our lives and feel as if we are the
victims of fate, unable to determine our own lives.
The moment we change these self limiting
beliefs with more positive ones, our attitude and behaviour will
automatically change to be in congruence with our new beliefs, and with
that change we will attract new and more liberating possibilities into
our lives.
Changing our beliefs
Changing our beliefs requires effort and
persistence. Old habits die hard. Being creatures of habits, there is
always an unconscious resistance to change within us. Thus, it is
important to recruit as many tools as we can to help us change our
beliefs.
These are some of the tools I used:
1. Affirmations
2. Visualisations
3. Subliminal messages
4. Hypnosis
5. Meditation
Used together, they become a very potent
way to effect change in our beliefs. It has worked for me and countless
others and I know it can work for you too.
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