A controlling personality who ignores your own personal feelings?
Here is a little test to see if you are.
Is this you?
Do you have problems with your spouse or partner being bossy and domineering?
Do you feel that they verbally and mentally bully you into submission?
Do they have to have the last say in everything and refuse to listen to your point of view?
Do they sulk and pout and generally make your life miserable until you give in to them?
Do they control the finances and decide on what or what not to buy?
If you answered yes to all the above then you are living with a control freak. Control freaks are very difficult to live with as they won't compromise because that means they are losing control of the situation. They use words as weapons to mentally bully you into submission and make you feel so bad that you take the easy way out every time just for an easy life.
Of course, it's quite natural to want control of your own life but not to the extent of controlling everyone around you into the bargain. People who exhibit controlling behaviour patterns in a relationship have a personality disorder caused by their own feelings of anxiety and vulnerability.
Control freaks are highly manipulative, cunning, intimidating, and skilled at debate and masters at distorting the real truth in a given situation.They will resort to almost anything to get their own way no matter how wrong and illogical it may be.They simply have to be in control to feel good about themselves.
Being in control of every situation is their way of protecting themselves but they take it to such extremes that it affects everyone around them including their own partners and family. Certain types of control freaks not only have to control the situation but also have to mentally bully you into submission in order for them to feel better about themselves. They use their anger as a weapon if they can't get their own way.
It is not easy dealing with an angry controlling spouse like this. Your humiliation and weakness empowers them. Your own self-esteem can be so affected by their bullying nature that sometimes the only solution is to walk out the door and start a new life without them.
Trying to change someone who has a domineering personality is a virtually impossible task as they don't see things like most other people. Everything they do is geared to their own needs and woe betide anyone who tries to stop them getting what they want. They are like a spoilt child who never really grew up.
If you are under the thumb of someone like this and they refuse to change then there is no other choice but to leave for the sake of your own mental health. Suffering in silence is no solution to handling a control freak; they will treat you with the scorn that you deserve for being so weak towards them.
By Anthony Bradley of http://www.saveyourmarriage.co.uk where you can learn how to save your marriage. Learn more about divorce, affairs,love and relationships to help you improve your marriage. Read many articles written by marriage counselors and honest reviews of the best marriage-saving guides
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