1. Assume fate is on your side. To cultivate the right attitude, you must believe good things happen to you all the time, not just rarely. If you perceive life’s setbacks as business as usual, you won’t bother behaving in positive ways that can change your situation. On the other hand, if you believe you are fortunate much of the time, you are likely to exhibit behavior that makes people more responsive to you.
2. Get an emotional grip. Lucky thinking also arrests what David Lykken, professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Minnesota, calls your “happiness thieves." These luck-limiting emotions include shyness, anger and resentment, which, he says turn off people who otherwise would be willing to help you. Getting these negative emotions under control will likely help you have a higher level of self-esteem, be more optimistic, and be slightly more extroverted.
3. Open you mind to opportunity. You can’t predict what fate has in store of you. But you can improve your luck by training yourself to be more trusting of people and confident that positive outcomes will result from these encounters.
4. Think of the world as yours. You won’t improve your luck sitting at home. Embrace random events that happen to you and see their potential for improving your luck. Always keep your options open and be prepared to make mistakes. You get more in life when you are willing to learn that by closing everything out.
5. Keep envy in check. People who obsessively compare their lives with the live of others often wind up feeling unlucky. For example, obsessing over the good fortune of a lottery winner, someone at work who got a big promotion or a friend who’s dating a highly attractive mate can make you feel like a failure.
6. Think like a “connector". The more people you know and the more likable you are, the better your odds of becoming lucky. Most connectors are lucky because they interact with large groups of powerful people who, in turn, share information and contacts just to stay in the loop.
7. Find and upside to everything. To feel lucky, you need a positive view of the past, as well as an optimistic view of the present. People who claimed to be lucky tended to remember more of the good things that happened to them in life and blocked out the bad. When something bad happens to them now, they compare the event with the worst that could have happened and realize they came out ahead.
Kenneth Foo is the author of
GloryInLife.com.
A Personal development and self improvement blog.
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