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Sometimes you have times when you think that you’re having the worst time of your life. Nothing goes well with your boyfriend. He doesn’t understand you, he doesn’t call you as much as he did before. He doesn’t share your enthusiasm while you’re talking to him. He often comes late to your rendez-vous. He even forgets to do the things you have decided to do before. He looks careless, and the worst, a bit bored from the relationship.
Just think for a moment, you may be attracted to him still, but everyone has his/her own ways of living, his/her own goals and ideas about life. Maybe you’ve been boring him with your expectations all the time, anyway. The first thing to do is to look at yourself in the mirror and find out your own faults. Try to respect his ideas, try to think from his point of view and make him realize that you also have your own ways of dealing with these problems. In time, hopefully he may begin to respect you and your ideas, and maybe you can find a way somewhere in the middle.
If you think that your efforts are hopeless, then let him go. May be this is all because that he’s finished with the relationship in his mind, or may be the loving feelings have faden away. You don’t have any time to lose for anyone including him. Although it’s hard to bare a separation sometimes, and it may look like the world has come to an end, you must get through this period with as less damage as possible.
I cannot say stop thinking about him and probably you won’t stop thinking about him for a while, anyway. Your hand will go to the the phone each and everyday and you cannot be able to stop thinking of calling him. You’ll want to hear his voice especially the times you feel yourself lonely. That’s perfectly normal but unfortunately it’s a waste of your time from your precious, but short life. So what you must do to get over your past relationships?
- Open a brand new page in your life.
- Remember all the endings are like a closing door which is opening a new window to your beginnings.
- Concentrate on yourself. Never stay at home listening to romantic songs that reminds you of him.
- Try not to visit the places that you used to go together.
- Get rid of the photos, and delete his number from your mobile. That will help you stay away from the thought of calling him.
- Meet new people. Make new friends.
- Try to date with new guys frequently, but avoid going out with people that you don’t really like because that will remind you how good you were with your ex.
- Find yourself new hobbies that can keep you occupied and busy.
- Devote yourself to your work.
- Let the time sweep away those memories and feelings from your heart.
You must know in your life, there’s only one person, you can control, yourself. You cannot control anyone other than yourself and sometimes things happen as it shouldn't happen. Some happenings occur to put us to advantage and sometimes we’ll discover later in our lives. All you have to do is to decide what to do with the time thats given to you. Let go of your life or grab hold of it.
Remember my friend, yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. You and only you can change it to your favour.
Cenk Butunley is the founder of MyBestDate, an Online Dating Service company serving internationally. He has specialized in software engineering since 1998, including three years as a Senior Developer for Bromcom Computers Plc., a software publishing company. |
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