Dedicated to my Funny Valentines, You!
This article is a continuation from my first article on Flirting tips for Guys and Gals, how to get that Valentine Date. I felt a need to break it up into two articles, as there was just a little more that was needed to be said.
Now a tip for the ladies. Some guys are thick, they don't understand the concept, or logic behind being subtle. If you are sending signals, and he's not getting it, then make them bigger, wider and a little louder. It's true, that it's possible he's not getting it, cause he's not interested, but I've had guys tell me, that they had no idea that chick was sending signals. Didn't see that one coming. Girls need to be a little more aggressive in the dating game, when they want that man.
Guys you also need to learn to pay more attention. Girls are out there working hard, trying to make the first move, and you need to learn the flirting tips, and take notice of what's being done for you.
So this list is for the ones who need to step it up a bit, with your girlfriend's agreement that he just wasn't paying attention. Now you if you followed some simple rules in the last article about looking for wedding rings, tans of wedding rings, coming out and asking him where his girlfriend is, and it's all clear? Than here's some easy ideas to get that man's attention.
First off. When you know you are going out with your girlfriends, why not try to get a date set with them to meet at the salon. When you get a doo, or a new style, and your nails done, and your make-up and brows done. Maybe even a spray tan the day before, to cover up those blemishes. You will feel and look like a million bucks. A new outfit also makes you fell all brand new, and your attitude will change.
A little prep work.
Now, before you go, do a double check. All rejections, insults, heartaches, heartbreaks, stress from work. Chucked in your bedroom closet. Check.
Next.
Of course you have it all mapped out where you girls are going, whos with who, who's going home where, cells all charged, and dolls lined in a row.
What's next?.
Inside you need to feel good about going out. Your emotions prior to going to meet someone new, needs to be prepared before you go charging out there. You really need to feel good about who you are, and be reassured that you are great, and worth sooo much. Because you are a great person. All of you and your friends are great people. You all need a little support group talk before you go out. You need that extra boost of confidence in the, "Whoa girl, you are looking fine." Get some music going, set your mood, and when you are all feeling fine, confident, and raring to have a good time, then off you go.
Now, If connecting with you intended man, didn't work the first time,(as spelled out in my first article, we are going to call him the shy guy) then repeat it.
This time, it wouldn't hurt to stretch out your legs, and show a little skin. Have sexy cleavage? It doesn't hurt to maybe show it off a little. Hay, if you've got it flaunt it baby. Maybe you can shyly look over your shoulder and give him a little wink. Flick your hair, and give it a sensuous stroke. You could lower your lids and give him the once over, to let him know you approve. Make cute little facial expressions, everyone once in a while to make him laugh. And quickly put your attention back on your girls, straightening your back, shoulders down, and slowly cross your legs. You can even rub your shoe along side your calf, and send a little giggle in his direction. In turning up the heat a little, your flirting is still innocent, you have merely set your tone that you can be a fascinating woman who is simply irresistible. And don't forget that award winning smile, you flash him your cutest, sweet smile, if he decides to get up and walk your way.
You could also offer him a wave over, and when he comes over, whisper something in his ear like, complimenting his suit, fiddle with his tie, notice his accessories. Say something cute. He might be shy at first, letting it sink in that you actually made contact with him, jus let him walk away, give him time to scope you over. If he likes you, he'll be back. You can give him other signals once in a while, like a thumbs up to a good song, maybe a wave, or a hooray when something cool in the bar happens. Let him see you smiling, laughing and having a great time with your friends. He's got the idea that you are interested, and the rest is a sure bet.
Now, not without being too over bearing, it's ok to raise up the tone a little. He obviously wasn't receptive to the meek quite side of you when he's out on the prowl, and you don't want to give too much away, and you have no intentions on leaving with him.. you only want to let him know you're interested.
Especially if it's loud there, upping your tone is actually an okay thing to do. The fact that you're talking to him, will invite him into your personal space, and ask him if you can tell him a secret. " Then whisper in his ear, some sweet nothings. Like "Do you have a profile?" Or, "Nice cologne, you smell like a dream." The profile remark these days is socially acceptable, everyone seems to have some type of online profile, whether it's on myspace, youtube, an online dating site, maybe they write articles for searchwarp. Then you are able to see their personality shine at it's best, and get an idea of what they like and don't like. It's ok to give him yours in return, and while your updating your cells' maybe getting his number, and or giving him yours would be a good idea.
When he comes over, it's a good time for your girls to decide to go for a dance, or do the walk by, for someone one of them is interested in. You need a little alone time. You all need to keep an eye on each other of course, but having that personal space, allows him the opportunity to slide in beside you, without the fear of having to impress not only you, but the hold herd of females that you travel with.
At this stage, it's ok to let him do the asking. Maybe he'll ask you a few things about your work, why you're out tonight, maybe throw in a few compliments.. hope, hope. And it's a good time to be receptive to his signals and body movements. If he flirts with you, be prepared to subtly flirt back. If he seems really shy, and doesn't know what to say, ask him about sports. Get him talking about his dog, or his fish, or any pets. If you have any, tell him about it. Try to probe around to see if you can get a story out of him. Preferably a funny one, so you two can relax and have a laugh, and enjoy this new time together. He probably won't stay long, so after he leaves, be aware of your reactions, as your girls are watching him, his boys are watching you. So you don't want to lose him due to a miscommunication.
Depending on if he flipped your pancakes, or not. You might want to check out to see who else is around. Catch up with your girls, dispel all, as usual, and then if it's an well, maybe, then don't be afraid to keep going and say yes to the next one who asks you to dance. If it's a definite melt to my toes yes, you still might feel differently by tomorrow, or discover something you might not like while checking out his profile. So keep telling yourself, the yes thing is great, but we only met. We could end up only being friends, or you may never hear from him again. Never waste time waiting for that phone call. Live your life, have fun to the fullest and what ever will be, will be.
Now, what to do when someone is trying to get your attention and you are not interested. Remember, you are setting a reputation for the night, noticeably or not, the single guys are watching you. So your actions to the ones you don't want around, are sadly going to set the precedence for your personality.
Now, if the unwanted suitor, doesn't want to give up, tries to dominate all of your time, and you've tried many polite ways to give him the brush off. It's time to take it up a step. I knew a girl once, who simply asked him to watch their table, the girls left their drinks, went to the other end of the establishment, forgot about him, and an hour later he was still sitting and waiting for them.
Not funny. (Ohh that wasn't a very nice thing to do at all)
There are ways to get them off your back, by being firm, and effective. Where it's understood from your point of view, he's being a pain in the butt, but from his, he might just be very persistent. Telling him the truth might be the best course of action. Maybe you could tell him, I don't mean to be rude, but I am out with my girls, and we want it to be just us girls. It was nice to meet you, now goodbye. And you can just walk away. If you still won't give it up, then you should be seeing red flags, there is something wrong. Don't wait for anything else, it is time to talk to a bouncer about bouncing him elsewhere.
Now that you are back to clear and free, to enjoy your evening with your friends, maybe you should just do that. Laugh, have fun, be girls, and spend the rest of your evening enjoying their company. The flirting game carries well on, after the first connection, and showing him your independence, and free fun nature, by not shadowing him, or seemingly to forget he is there, is a great way to get his attention. No doubt when the last song begins to play, you'll get a surprise tap on your shoulder, almost forgetting he was there, you'll turn around and have one last dance, one last breath of his aroma, before you and your girls go home.
On a final note.
Flirting is part of the dating game, it's the body language you use, to attract a potential mate. But it is also directly related to your emotions, and his emotions. Never use flirting as a means for gain, don't flirt with him, if you don't like him. That's not fair. AND guys no flirting with girls that you don't like. That's not fair either. When you flirt, and you have those butterflies dance in your stomach, and that ohh so special person gives you attention, you are going to glow. You are going to be so excited, everything is new, unknown. Tread with caution, but girls and guys, just have fun. It's all part of being single, having fun, make as many friends as you can, and treat them all the way you'd like to be treated.
Happy Valentines, my lovestruck puppies. 
Written by: Sacreeta
