You would think that we would all know when we are involved in "Sex-Only Relationships." Sadly, most women don't have a clue. There are a whole host of ways to determine whether or not your relationship is just a
Booty Call; however, the listing below suggests a few of these ways, and should assist you should you have questions and need answers to why your relationship isn't moving forward.
- He Allows You To Visit Him Only In The "Wee" Hours of The Morning – If the man you are currently seeing has requested that you only visit his home between the hours of 2:00AM and 4:00AM, you are indeed a Booty Call my dear. After the rump sessions are over, cuddling isn't required, nor will it be initiated by him. The only pillow talk going on between the two of you is, "What Night Is Your Next Visit?" You are invited at these hours because it is dark, no one will see you entering into his home, and no one will see you leaving his home. You were just something that happened that night......until your next visit at the same time.
- You Do Not Have His Phone or Cell Numbers – Now you would really be so naïve to think that this is really your man and you can't even call him. You have no way at all of contacting him, not even a work number! Do you even know where he works? He has to always call you. Everything works on his time and his time only. When he calls, you come running. You have put your outside interests and people on hold, so that you won't miss any of his calls. There is nothing about this type of arrangement that says "Pursue This!" You are clearly just a "Booty Call." I mean really.....don't fall for the "I Work For The Secret Service" crap either, as his reason for not giving you any phone numbers!
- You Have Never and Will Never Meet His Friends or Family – Some men will not even think of introducing their Booty Calls to their family or friends. You are of no importance to them in that aspect. Why would he introduce someone that no one even really knows about anyway. If he introduces you to his family and friends, he'll think that you may think, something more serious is going on, when in all actuality...it's not. He has no intentions whatsoever of allowing you to meet his family and friends, so don't count on it ever happening. You are the Booty Call. Your access to him is totally restricted and very limited.
- He Doesn't Acknowledge You – Have you ever ran into your Booty Call person at the store or some other place in public, and he acted as if he had never in his life ever seen or met you before? This is not an act ladies, but rather, part of your arrangement and role as his Booty Call. He doesn't know you during the day time hours; only in the wee hours of the morning-Remember....between the hours of 2:00AM and 4:00AM? Don't embarrass yourselves attempting to get him to notice you. It will just make things worse for you. You'll get upset at that exact moment, but you know when he calls you later on that same night, you're going to be prepared to see him at your same usual time.
- He Has Never Asked or Taken You Out On A Date – So it has been six months already. You are still visiting him in the wee hours of the morning, you still don't have his phone or cell numbers, you haven't met his family or friends yet, and he doesn't acknowledge you in public. What more do you need? You still haven't been out on a date, not even to the drive thru at your local McDonald's. Dear, you are never going to be asked out on a date now. You see....he has already got what most men want as their reason for taking you out on the date in the first place.
Of course, not all of the above is a conclusive listing, but they are the major players in determining if you are just a Booty Call or if your relationship is indeed worth pursuing. Not all men act this way, and not all women are naïve,; however if you fit into one of the above scenarios, it is your choice to make. If you are okay with your current arrangement of "Sex-Only," then by all means, do what you do. I'm not the judge, nor do I aspire to be. But, if you are someone wanting to change, you should begin with loving yourself first. When you love yourself it shows, and the universe will arrange your life in a way that will align the right person to cross your path and love you even more!
Monica Burns-Capers
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