I am a single, unattached woman. I am not dating anyone, even casually. I had the same status and happy circumstances for my birthday in October, at Christmas and the New Year. I did celebrate those occasions however, with people I love and who love me.
I have taken notice that far too many single, unattached women are depressed, lonely and heartsick over their status, especially during holidays. Valentine's Day can bring about feelings of being unloved and undesirable weeks before the actual day, thanks to retailers.
I will be candid. I have been married and happy on Valentine's Day. I have been married and unhappy on Valentine's Day. What I reminded myself then as I do now is it doesn't take someone to create happiness for me. I'm not an uncaring, nonchalant, cold, frigid, impassionate woman. Au contrairé! I happen to know who I am and whose I am. I have for a very long time, thanks to two loving parents and a host of other positive influences in my life.
I have learned to be content in whatever state (status) I am and to nourish that part of me that does not require being affirmed or accepted. The affirmation and acceptance came through the bloodshed of Christ.
Therefore, as a single unattached woman, I am not alone nor am I feeling unloved and undesirable. Valentine's Day has nothing to do with it. I am the bride of Christ and am happy in being so.
I respect and believe in marriage. My parents were married for 38 years before mother's passing. They had a very solid marriage. They flirted with each other and were very much into each other. I know it wasn't easy as I've "been there and done that." He just wasn't like my dad!
What should a single, unattached woman do on Valentine's Day? I'll share with you what I do routinely because I'm in love and I am loved. Falling in love with Jesus was the best thing I've ever done.
Valentine's Day is on a Thursday so I will:
- Make party favors of Hershey's hugs and kisses and take to an Assisted Living Home
- Take several bottles of chilled sparkling white grape juice
- Serenade and dance with them
- Listen to charming stories of how they met or a favorite wedding anniversary or memory
- Come home to a cozy fire, Godiva truffles (bought for myself), and sparkling mineral water
- Play a collection of instrumental jazz I burned, light candles and pray as I take a relaxing bubble bath, afterwards
- Moisturize my skin, pin up my hair and adorn my red silk jammies, then
- Sit on the couch in front of a fire and begin serenading our Father, who is with me, to the instrumental jazz
Offering Him this kind of praise and thanksgiving is for Him but I receive so much joy and pleasure by doing it. I can do absolutely nothing on my own. I couldn't make it without Him. I never could have made it and will not even try.
There may come a time when I desire a mate but now isn't that time. I am fulfilled by the spontaneity of praise and worship I enjoy. I cherish the spiritual intimacy I have as the bride of Christ. I am not alone or feel lonely. Valentine's Day does nothing to upset the peace of God that passes all understanding that I know through Him. He's altogether lovely and wonderful to me.
If you're wondering what I'll have for dinner, I told you. Chocolate and water! Lunch will be hearty so I can enjoy this treat at dinner. (If I get hungry, I can eat Cheerios with sliced almonds anytime, day or night.)
So there you have it. On Valentine's Day, this single, unattached woman will enjoy time with others, herself and her Lord. And you know something? That's really no different than any other day the Lord blesses her to see.
Happy Valentine's Day to all of you, especially to the single, unattached men and women!
