There has been evil in our lives since most of us were young. It may have come in the form of verbal or physical abuse by family, strangers, schoolmates taking our new wool winter hat and burying it in the snow. We may have worked for days on a project, and other kids thought it funny to grab it out of our hands and rip it to shreds. What makes some people act kindly towards others, and try to help whenever possible, and some have nothing but wrong and evil thoughts running through their minds at all times? Is it upbringing? Is it something psychologically wrong with our brain that it hasn't grasped that kindness and love are what make the world a better place?
Is it insecurity that leads to jealousy that leads to anger that leads to malicious and evil deeds? Is it selfishness that wants more than we deserve? Is it our own unhappiness with life that turns us outward onto the world, wreaking havoc wherever we go, and with whomever we meet? Have the circumstances of our lives been so rough that we harden out hearts, and crusade for what we believe to be our rights? Where in our background did we learn to take, and not give? Who taught us that if we want something, we should go after it, even if it isn't ours? Who said we should invade other's privacy, and then try to blame others for getting upset? What parent would teach their children to lie, and cheat, and steal?
Is it the parents who are responsible for now having created adults who want, and are willing to destroy all who come in their path until they receive it? Who doesn't understand that motherhood is the hardest and yet, most rewarding job in the world? Why wouldn't a parent teach their child love and compassion and understanding and patience and tolerance? What parent doesn't explain to their children about fairness and manners and how to feed their soul to know these principles, and use them in their daily lives?
Does life, and all it's experiences, both positive and negative, spoil all we've been taught, and lead us on our own path of self loathing and hatred, which we then unleash to the world around us? It's always someone else's fault. The blame is never put where it belongs, that would be too hard. Some people can't accept that they have evil tendencies, or aren't even aware that they do, they are on a crusade to destroy, and that's all they care about. They don't try to "fix" their problematic personalities, because it isn't them, it's all the rest of the world that is at fault, or so they think. The fact is, when your heart and soul are not in the right place, you will suffer, one way or the other.
To know you are a difficult person, and your priorities are not in the right place, is to be ignorant to the fact that we can all change. We don't have to be nasty or manipulative or dishonest or greedy or jealous or unkind. Not only shouldn't we be, but we can read self help books, or go to seminars or therapy, and get rid of those character traits that cause us and others harm. If we can't see that we need to do so, we will continue on our crusade through life, hurting others because they have what we want, instead of realizing what isn't ours to want, or take.
This is the world my three children have to live in also. Two of my kids are out in the world, working, paying bills, learning that it would have been best just to stay at home for a few more years. They have dealt with those who are mean spirited and unappreciative and loud and obnoxious. They can either cope, and use the brain God gave them, and I guided, to figure out a way to get along with all who cross their path. They can also choose to argue back with their narrow minded bosses, or their acquaintances and friends. This never amounts to good.
The best way to rid ones' self of unpleasant and hurtful people is to stay clear. Let them spin their web of anger and jealousy and evil thoughts and actions on somebody else's porch! Whenever the conduct and behavior of others is affecting us in a negative way, we have the right, and the duty to ourselves, to rid our lives of those people, whether it be family or friends, co workers or our boss. One of my kids just got another job they were waiting for, and they sought this job out because the people they were working for were angry, and argumentative, and it was not a pleasant experience going to work everyday. Their bosses fault for their personalities.
When my child starts their new job in a couple of days, they will have rid themselves of those who meant them harm and pain in the way they reacted to life. Their stress level will be down, their excitement to go to work will hopefully begin, and they will be happy. I have taught my child responsibility, and they stayed at this job, being belittled every day, until they found a new job, and then, they even gave notice. I am proud of my child, some people would have quit the second day. Responsibility has always been my major character trait I wanted to teach my kids, and it's nice to see it was absorbed when I wasn't looking!
I think it should be mandatory to have classes in school that teach our kids what they may come up against, and how to deal with those things that cause them pain. I have already taught them that just because something doesn't happen the way they had hoped, something better is around the corner. The one thing they have never and will never be taught, is to be mean and vindictive and spiteful and evil in their hearts. They know what's fair and honest, and I believe they will do just fine out in this world of ours, especially if they stay away from bad elements who mean them nothing but harm.
In some circumstances, as in my child's job, where they needed the money, and until recently, didn't have another job to go to, they had to learn how to deal with adversity until something better and less stressful came along. All lessons along this journey of life. There's always going to be those who are just plain miserable, and they want to take all their feelings and problems out on you. We've all come across these types of people. I say, deal with them while you have to, then when you can, move on, and never look back. Those that mean you harm can be a thing of the past, and the more time that goes by, the more distant the pain. I tell my kids to surround themselves with positive people who will add to their lives, not distract.
When people start to realize that every choice they have ever made, has been theirs to make, I think the world would be a better place. There is so much blame always being thrown around, and if we notice, we can see, it's never by the ones who are trying to do the right things in life. It's been my experience that those who made their own beds, want to blame everyone else that there are springs popping up, instead of realizing their desire to go for the cheapest mattress is at fault.
They chose it, they wanted it, they insisted on it, but when it starts to get worn, it's the manufacturer's fault, the store's fault, the person who recommended it's fault, but never their own fault for using their own brain to make their own decisions. This is a shame, because they will live out their lives blaming everyone and everything for their problems, never looking inward to see what happened. Reeking havoc on the world, and all who stand in their way of "being happy."
Evil thoughts, evil actions, don't have a place in God's plan for us. 
They will be dealt with when the time is right.
 
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