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Over the years the act of suicide has followed man. In ancient Rome it was thought to be a courageous act of love to your family if done to avoid disgrace or financial ruin. Then since that time the act has slowly declined to an act of pure cowardice. If we look in America during the first hours of the Great Depression we can see a mass amount of unorganized suicide based on financial ruin. The skyscrapers had lines for suicide jumpers at the time so we can obviously see that money plays a big role.
Now lets fast-forward to the mid 70's. James Town, 909 dead all from a mass organized suicide. What was behind all this? I expect that during this time most of the people involved felt a need for acceptance that other religions couldn't give. They were so desperate that they turned to a mad man that promised fellowship and comfort.
Now back to today. There are a growing number of suicides. The people who commit to this act have left chilling notes revealing a loneliness that they have. I am speculating that this loneliness is more of an illusion. I in no way mean to offend anyone who's world has been rocked by an occurrence like this but in this day in age we are so connected that the idea of loneliness has grown. We are becoming medicated in so many ways that the world's lines have started to blur. The Internet has connected us so that in an instant we can talk to others around the world but also in one second we can be lured into the trap set by sick manipulative minds.
And yet there is also the more philosophical view is that there is no such thing as true suicide. Suius comes from latin meaning self. And Cide means to kill. Philosophically no one kills themselves. They are killed by not only the people around them that emotionally stab, rape, excoriate and torture. Sometimes they are killed by their environment. Some people look too much into the singular events of society, which they should be able to do freely without consequence, and end up truly see the dark, perverted, blood, greedy, gluttonous deeps that we label "The Human Soul". If one is able and allowed to see that they can never be the same. It is impossible to actually stare into the darkness of the world and not change. Just like it is impossible to truly not change when one witnesses the death of another. It is impossible to not change when your own spirit withers away. Society forces us to death. Society forces thoughts macabre and dark upon us. Damn the society that kills not the victims.
So many have fallen into these traps and have been set in demise. I say that in this day and age the majority of suicides are intellectual murders disguised as suicide. Just a few months ago a family has finally stepped out into the light. They have definitive proof that their daughter's life was taken from cumulative discrimination and taunting by someone she trusted. I call out for us to stop this atrocity and comfort those attacked. But now Suzanne Pagella, this is an example of how society has turned so many blind eyes to those in trouble. Just listening can save so many lives.
I ran across this by mistake. I did not read all of it. I lost my husband of 49 years when he took his own life last February. He had been in the hospital for five days and was given so many drugs - strong narcotic drugs - durgs that should not have been mixed together in in too stron doses. He left behind a wife, three children and their spouses, and 12 grandchildren. This was a good, hardworking, dedicated man. His family is so devastaed that we pray not another soul ever has to experience what we went through. I was here alone with him and heard the shot as he placed a 12 guage shot gun to his chest and what I saw and experienced following that no wife of 49 years or any years should ever have to endure. I was in such shock, I just walked around from room to room for weeks - I guess I was still looking for him. Soon it will be 8 months since I lost him. I cry all day everyday and I want him back. I am having to deal with all the phases of suicide and the awful loss of him as a person. He is all over this house in things he built, owned, touched, and my life was over when his was. You should be ashamed or writing such a glib article that could only serve to hurt hurting people even more. I pray nothing like this ever happens to you; but if it does then and only then will you understand the horror and sorrow.
ma'am I respect your opinion and I've lost a loved one myself. His name is David Lewis Slorski and he was my mentor. My family was never around and he took care of me. I'm only 14 so when he commited suicide I was devistated. What I'm tring to say is that hating your husband even though he is dead won't help. I know the pain, every day I saw him. In the little things he said to me. In the many many things he did for me. Frankly I hated him for leaving me... For leaving his wife and kids.... In the end I found out that I was hurting myself by manifesting this hatred. I stoped hating him... I started to make steps to make my society more alert to the things that drive people to suicide. I sympathize with you and by no means I am comparing your husbands actions to anyone elses. I'm just saying that I'm sick of us not doing anything and forgotting the leassons. I'm taking steps to make people more aware and to stop this acts. You yourself may see that you have the power and evidence to hold a strong case against medical institutions everywhere that wrongly medicate. Ma'am I thank you for your input I do hope the best for you.
My husband recently committed suicide by jumping off a bridge, his first attempt was a bottle of pills in our house. After several weeks I moved out. I bought a nre house and hope for a fresh start. we were married for 30 years, Move away, you deserve some peace.
I recently lost a very dear friend/family member, he was depressed and showed all the signs they say to look for, he did cry out to his friends and family saying how "tired" depressed, anxious, lonely he was. Then someone said he was acting like he was doomed. I called him and asked what was going on that we were all worried about him, he said he was talking to someone about his feelings including guilt, for what I will never know but feelings of guilt are common in depressed persons, even if they have nothing rational to be guilty for they genuinely feel guilty. He (Tim) said he was getting very little sleep and had been put on anti anxiety medication by a Dr. on Duty clinic. He withdrew from his usual perky self and became overly agitated by many things, impatient with those around him. Tim cut off potential relationships with women saying he was overwhelmed with feelings he didn't understand. In the end he took his own life by hanging in his garage. Tim was a very loved, respected and kind man always trying to help others, his memorial was attended by nearly 500 people many of which stated how Tim had helped them in some way or another. He was clinically depressed and never got proper treatment, he lived alone and was overwhelmed with the demands of modern life. He left a beautiful daughter with the rest of her life ahead of her and an ex-wife/forever friend forever family behind. I wish someone, anyone, would have been able to help him because I know he would regret not letting time work things out and get the help he needed. We loved him and miss him now and always. Respond to this comment
Suicide is caused by severe imbalance in ones life. One could be extremely stressed or hurt by past experiences and choose suicide as a way out. This is the most common case. However, you always here about the unexpected suicides when a person who seems perfectly content and joyful kills themselves. This is because they have held their negative emotions back for so long that it starts to bottle up inside of them and eventually explode in the form of self-hurting or insanity. This is the most painful thing to watch happen. I saw it happen to my neighbors friend. He committed suicide about 3 years ago. If you see someone who is usually happy all the time start to erupt slowly, you should talk to them immediately and work things out with them LOGICALLY. These people usually think very logically.
my husband of 11 years committed suicide 2 mths ago my 18 yr old and i found him hanging at the bottom of my stairs, i cut him down i never moved so quickly, i performed cpr until the medics got there but it was to late. I also have a 4yr old with him, to say the less i am devastated, Moving on that i don't know how to do. My kids no longer have a father and i no longer have a husband....Yes the signs were there but he refuses treatment, i pleaded he said he could handle it, I feel like I lost me as well, suicide is a devasting experience one i never thought i would deal with, I just hope i have the strenght to go on... Respond to this comment
No words that I can type here could ever console you as much as a human touch could. No one has the strength to go on untouched emotionally after such a tragedy has happened and it is nothing to be ashamed about. I urge you to speak with friends and family in your dark time. As I said I can't write anything here that could console you as much as real human contact, sometimes we just have to keep on moving, no matter what. Its sometimes the only way we can survive. Respond to this comment
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» left by ROBIN from FAYETTEVILLE, NC (100 days 21 hours ago.)
MY LITTLE SISTER, 19, COMMITTED SUICIDE AS WELL. I DONT KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH IT. SHE AND I HAD A HUGE ARGUEMENT BEFORE SHE DIED AND I FEEL TERRIBLE THAT IT MAY HAVE BEEN ME THAT PUSHED HER OFF THE EDGE. SHE HAD PREVIOUSLY SHOWED NO SIGNS OF SUICIDE. I JUST WANT EVERYONE TO KNOW THAT WE SHOULD WATCH WHAT WE SAY TO THOSE WE LOVE. WE NEVER KNOW WHAT THEY ARE CAPABLE OF. I LOVE MY SISTER BUT I AM ANGRY WITH HER. HOW COULD SHE DO THIS TO ME? TO OUR FAMILY?
» left by Wendy from Toronto (87 days 20 hours ago.)
One thing that people need to understand about a person who has decided to stop living here on this planet is...they live on beyond earth. We, who know that earth is no longer where we wish to be, will only die to this place. We go on, in a different space, a different place, and one that is better than this. This was a place we came to learn harsh lessons and some of us have just had enough of them. It is time to go. No one needs to feel guilty or responsible for what the person chose to do by leaving here.
I agree with Wendy fully! This is a world ful of evil, hatred, jealousy and you wouldn't imagine the extent to which most inhabitants of this planet will sink to, just to safeguard their petty wants and lusts. Look around you and see where this world is heading to ... don't pretend as if some sort of goodness still exists in this pathetic jungle. What's funny is ... it's this same world that tries to convince you of the demerits of suicide by way of lip service whereas in reality none of these self assumed do gooders will even lift a finger to make things right. I guess it's their way of thinking that somehow, all their tomfoolery gives them a sense of 'goodness". Well, I have got news for you, for people contemplating suicide like I am, we are not idiots who cannot weigh in the consequences of our actions like you think, we are making a conscious and deliberate choice to leave the phony, hollow and petty minded breed amongst you for good since we have had it with you. You don't let us live in peace, atleast let us die in peace !
» left by Marie from Ottawa (49 days 16 hours ago.)
I don't think people who contemplate suicide are stupid. I think that their awareness of the dark side of life is amplified. And chemical imbalances can cloud a human being's judgement to the point where they need an objective view to put some harrowing experiences in perspective. Darkness could not be defined, if this world contains no light to provide some contrast. I believe that just as there is some greed, jealousy, and hatred in this world, there is also love, compassion, and jenuine caring.
I would like to say I feel an instant awareness with the story of the guy who had 500 people at his funeral. I know if I do it many people will be terribly upset. They will all cry 'Why, why, he was so nice, always happy and always helping others'
Yes thats true, if you needed any help with anything I'd be there by your side. I wouldn't judge you, I don't go in for slagging people off and unless you are mean to others I'd be your friend.
Unfortunately I too can identify with "he was overwhelmed with feelings he didn't understand".
I don't want to die, in fact I'm furious with God how he made me , yes he made me and how I feel. I pray and cry to be made normal but no. And everyday the sad emptyness grows, the sensation of a hollow chasm feels black inside.
I can't be cured, and this planet (made by God) is only a beautiful place if he allows you freedom to love without condition.
He decided I wouldn't be allowed in that team the day he made me.
I can tell you now, if you are allowed to put your arms around the one you love.. you have the one and only thing that matters.
David, I happened upon this article just minutes ago and after hearing of suicide of a friend. I had heard that Julie might end her life but we all hoped that her health would improve or that there would be a diagnosis of her condition. I don't think she had been sleeping for quite sometime because of a painful leg condition that was causing weight loss and most likely hallucinations from lack of sleep.
It's hard to believe you are only 14 years old and writing about such a heavy subject matter. I might add that the last time I saw Julie, she was having a ball stuffing herself at a party and so very much in love, so I don't think there was a chance that she was in a dark place without emotional support.
I recall a suicide where a lady jumped off a parking garage and I worked in the building adjoining the garage. If you wanted to see the body after the jump, it could be viewed from a small bathroom. Something inside me and others said not to look; and I wish I had listened because for a year when I left the bank building, thoughts about that woman appeared and couldn't get her mangled body out of my head. I always wondered why and later found out that her family planned to put her in a nursing home. The garage she jumped from could also be seen from another bank building where her son-in-law looked on not knowing it was his mother-in-law ~ a tragedy, in deed. Well, thank you for writing the article and I hope the next article has brighter contents. Blessings! Suzy
» left by Anonymous (1 hour 40 minutes ago.) New Comment!
One of my friends that I went to school with and college was found dead on October 20, 2009 in his faternity with a shotgun wound to the chest. He was the smartest person I knew and he was going to school to be a History teacher. I am having a hard time coping with what happened due to the fact that he was someone who everyone looked up to even me! I just don't understand why he would do something like this when he had loving friends and a loving family. I almost have a feeling that someone else did this to him, I have never heard of anyone shooting themself in the chest with a shotgun. This is my second friend that has done this, I had a friend from highschool that shot himself in the head and to this day I still don't get it. I don't understand how you can feel that life is so bad that you need to end it. I just wish that there was something that I could have done to help or stop them from doing this. How do you cope? How do you go on your day and forget about what happened? I guess the hardest thing for me is that my dad died from brain cancer unvoluntarily and you get someone who has a chance to live and they end it just like that. My dad didn't have a choice to live or die... I almost wish you could substitute the people who don't want to live with people who want to live that have a disease. I just feel that it is so selfish!! If anyone can give me some advice on how to move on it would help out alot.
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