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Did Silda Spitzer deserve to have her husband cheat on her?
That is the question.
Is he just a real sex addict or is his wife withholding from him? If she knew he was a sex addict, what could she have done? She could have enrolled him in to therapy, she could have left him. Did she know or was she totally blind about his escapades?
I am sorry, but I believe any woman would have an inclination that things were just not right in the relationship. I cannot believe that she had no clue. Did she ever confront him? These are questions that we do not know, yet?
What I do want you to think about is: would you want this to happen to you. Are you willing to take the chance of having your Partner/husband/lover/SO do this sort of thing to you?
IT COULD.
Right now ask yourself. Are you doing everything you can to keep your man in your bed? Are you satisfying him, as well as you can? Are you giving him what he needs on as much as a regular basis as you can?
I know you are tired, the kids, the job, and the house. All time consuming stressful conditions in your life. I realize that. When was the last time you actually spent even one hour together? Meaning no kids, no computer, no TV. Just you two enjoying one another completely?
Do you need that? Would you enjoy that time together? Guess what he would too!
I know scheduled sex seems so clinical. But it is needed. There are 168 hours in a week. Can you find 1 hour in that time per week to give each other what you both need? I think if you try just a bit you can.
What could be the difference between saving your relationship and keeping connected? One hour per week that's what!
» left by James P Krehbiel(1,391) James P Krehbiel (174 days 22 hours ago.)
Gin,
Respectfully, do you really believe that this issue is about his wife? This is what the know-it-all Dr. Laura S. said -"Take care of your man!" Please, this guy was looking for weird sex outside the context of marriage and I don't believe that it is appropriate to drag his wife into his moral lapse. With celebrity status, I doubt whether she knew anything about it and if she did, it is no ones business but hers. If I were her, I would try suing Dr. Laura for slander! Well that's my comment on that. Respond to this comment
» left by JL from US (174 days 22 hours ago.)
Hi Gina, It sounds as if you think Spitzer's indiscretions are his wife's fault. If that is what you are getting at, I have to disagree with you. I don't think you can ever blame a woman for a man's lack of self control. Nor does it work the other way around. I don't think it matters what kind of intimate life they had together, in this case, he made the choice to cheat. No one made him do it. I firmly believe that a man and woman should take time for each other and do what they can to remain attractive to the other. Why? Because you did it before you were married. That same attention should be given by both parties after the marriage. If a man chooses to truly love his wife, the wife will love him back and infidelity won't be an issue. Respond to this comment
» left by Gina Grey from NJ (174 days 22 hours ago.)
Yes, because love is all it takes to keep us all faithful. Ok Respond to this comment
» left by Gina Grey from NJ (174 days 22 hours ago.)
Matter of fact most people who cheat would NEVER consider leaving their spouse. That's not why they do it. They do it because they are lacking emotional connections with their partner... Respond to this comment
» left by Val from NY (171 days 21 hours ago.)
All I can say, is that if my husband did what Spitzer did, the LAST question I would ask is "Did I do everything I could to keep him in my bed?"... I believe it would be more along the lines of "What should I do to asure he is never in my bed again?"... and for that matter, "How do I start the legal process of making sure I keep the bed,... and the house,... and the car...?"
» left by Gina from NJ (168 days 15 hours ago.)
Ok Suppose, you did all that you got the house, the car etc. You got your revenge. You eventually moved on and met another man. What would you do to insure that he doesn't do as the last and as spitzer did? Respond to this comment
» left by Anonymous (28 days 22 hours ago.)
Gina, you are amazingly correct. The others who commented here have never been challenged enough to understand. I provided a lot to my wife in terms of material, emotional, and family effort... yet she could not find the ability to love me outwardly, and never expressed herself sexually. We're still married, but after TEN YEARS of getting no response, I was pretty frustrated. We're not talking about a few months, we're talking decades. No one should judge Spitzer.
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