I recently read an article that was enlightening to the male psyche. It listed the top-secret fears of the average man. It was interesting to see the type of fears men have about issues that range from money to baldness to sex issues.
For the most part, my husband agreed with the fears that were listed. I love articles like these because I think it helps fuel the conversation that grows couples closer.
In the process, it got me to thinking about the secret fears that women have in their daily lives. Women analyze and deal with their feelings a lot more on average then men. Because of this, I think you will agree that these fears are very well discussed. Even so, I decided to write some of the most common fears I have seen.
He will find me unattractive
I know it seems vain, but women deal with the issue of how they look daily. They can not even go to the grocery store without seeing images of what is thought to be the perfect body on the checkout counter. There are endless articles on how to walk, how to dress, how to do makeup, how to lay in bed so that he will even find you sexy-the advice is endless. It eats away at every woman's worst fear: that they aren't pretty enough.
We will end up as the cat lady
Women who are single will stress that they will be typecast in society as the "cat lady." Women who are married fear their man will leave or have an affair. The thought of being alone for the rest of our lives scare us. I don't want to pull the anti-feminism view, but I think we were designed for relationship and we fear never having that relationship.
I will be a bad mom
Women tend to carry a lot of guilt. If we stay at home with our kids, we feel under qualified or unworthy to parent. If we work and send our kids to daycare/school, we feel guilty for not spending enough time. We question every decision we make. I think we put pressure on each other. Well, so and so does this to potty train their children. Or so and so's child never has this problem. Or I can't believe she would let her child out in public with those stained pants. I think we are so overwhelmed with responsibilities that we tend to stress that we aren't being a good parent.
Someone will take/hurt our kids
There is something so perfectly good about childbirth that we almost fear that the opposite is sure to come. We can't stand the thought of someone physically hurting the offspring we brought in this world. We are emotional creatures and we cherish our time with our children so the thought of anyone even touching a hair on their head gets us in an uproar.
Not having girlfriends
There is something to be said about having a close girlfriend. No guy friend or husband can understand you more than your closest girlfriend. There are just some things that can only be completely understood by another women. When I first moved to a new state, this was the hardest realization that I came to. Girlfriends are with you through all of life's troubles. It is so imperative to have girlfriends. Otherwise you are expecting more out of your husband than he can give. On that same note, we worry that we are being good friends and if we are good enough friends to the other women in our lives.
Being gossiped about
Women gossip and our worst fear is to be the subject of that gossip. Nothing can ruin a person's life faster then gossip especially if it is untrue.
There are so many issues women face and because we are more emotional, the fears seem to be more known. I would love to hear what fear you face as a woman the most. Any thoughts?
