I
refer to what I call the "Big Four" quite a bit. Yet, it has occurred to me that I've never devoted an article
to making sure you've got the exact concept I'm talking about down with
pinpoint accuracy.
"It's
about freakin' time", someone said. And
I have no arguments for you there.
Better
late than never though. So let's fix
the situation.
The
"Big Four", in principle, are the most basic, fundamental factors that decide
whether a woman is attracted to you or not.
Get
them right, and women WILL respond powerfully to you. Ignore them (or worse…be ignorant OF them) and you could spend
the rest of your life wondering what the problem is.
So
obviously, this is one of the more important newsletters I've written to you.
Before
I break down the "Big Four" for you, I want to offer a sincere caveat: There is NO WAY this newsletter is going to
cover every single nuance of what these concepts entail.
That's
fine for now, because my goal in writing to you today is not to cover minute
details but rather to give you a "big picture" view that provides a valid
framework to work with as you discover more and more how to deserve what you
want.
After
all, quite literally everything I talk about or write about hinges on the "Big
Four".
So
with out any further intro, here they are:
1)
Masculinity Last time we talked about how to "man up" in exactly
the way women want us to. That's the
first component of the "Big Four".
Men
and women are designed to attract each other.
This is so fundamentally simple a concept, yet one that is so easily
clouded in today's world.
Men are
softening their demeanors, taking the edge off the strength that inherently
makes them men. Instead, they are
giving in to temptation to become more feminine in the name of
"sensitivity". You, as a man who desires feminine, attractive women
must absolutely, positively resist feminization of your personality and of your
lifestyle. If you read that as "being insensitive" or in any
other misogynistic way, you've been hornswaggled, hoodwinked, bamboozled,
flimflammed and any other synonym for "deceived" that you've ever heard in an
old cartoon before. Seriously. Being masculine is NOT synonymous with acting like
some under-evolved "caveman" who rapes,
pillages and is otherwise responsible for every form of pain on Earth. Be the guy who leads, plans, protects and decides
like a man. Put aside "softness" and
"weakness" while retaining heartfelt benevolence towards all. And watch as women become drawn to you like a magnet
to steel. 2)
Confidence If you know what you want, and fail to take action
because of fear or indecision, then you are-by definition-lacking
confidence.
A woman wants a man who leads, and contrary to what you may have heard
elsewhere she wants a man who takes charge of his own destiny and SELECTS her. That's right, YOU SHOULD BE THE CHOOSER. Offloading that responsibility onto women,
or dismissing it entirely as mythical is a COP OUT. As a man who is comfortable in the fact that he
deserves what he wants, your inner-game must be together enough for you to ACT
UPON that.
In concept, confidence is nothing more complicated than a firmly held belief in
your ability to succeed at a high level while dismissing the possibility of
failure (preferably entirely). So at the baseline, confidence is absolutely
necessary in order for you to even meet the women you want, let alone
demonstrate your ability to provide a balanced environment for the relationship
to grow in. This segues nicely into the next factor…3)
Inspiring
Confidence Once you've achieved a level of confidence that
enables a woman to believe in you the way you believe in yourself (which
carries an important cause/effect relationship) then you are ready to affect
something in your relationships with MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) that
is intensely powerful. It's like this:
Women want SAFETY. Unfortunately, the man women most need to be
protected from is the ONE THEY'RE WITH.
If you drive like a maniac when she's riding shotgun,
openly flirt with other women in her presence, waffle over decisions, have
absolutely zero ambition and have no clue what to do with her when you pick her
up (let alone when it's TIME TO KISS HER), guess what? She'll have no sense of stability around
you. Not knowing what to expect next is fun for women when
it comes to special surprises, unannounced plans and other such lightweight
moments that contribute to "being unpredictable". And granted, if you are boring and unexciting that's
NO FUN for women. In fact, it could be
argued effectively that "Being Fun and Interesting" could have made this list a
"Big Five". But what we're covering here is something
deeper. YOU are like a bastion of
strength, no matter what happens or when it happens. This builds the all-important measure of trust in her
heart and mind. When you have successfully caused a woman to believe
in you the way you believe in yourself-no matter what the situation-then you
have succeeded at INSPIRING CONFIDENCE.
She can rest in your presence. Without that, she'll resent you--if not become flatly
repulsed. 4)
Character
This is one of the most misunderstood terms in the
English language.
Don't kid yourself.
"Character" is not to be confused with "being a character".
Simply putting away routines and openers does NOT
equal "character-based" seduction like some "natural game" proponents would
have you believe.
"Character" is rock-solid stability at your very
core.
It's doing what's right simply
because it's the right thing to do, not because of "what's in it for you".
A man of character promises only what he is capable
of delivering, and often delivers more than he promises out of sheer
overachievement.
He does what he says he is going to do, and avoids deception.
He is all about building others up rather than tearing them down in a weak
attempt to make himself appear "better".
The man of character realizes that's neither ethical nor effective,
even.
Mostly, the man of character has his identity
figured out and his conscience is okay with that.
And when that's all set, you'll NEVER, EVER have to
ask "What do I do next?"
"Character"
is "seductive" by definition.
Do
you get the sense that each separate component of the "Big Four" is in fact the
component of a larger, cohesive concept?
If so, then YES…you are 100% correct.
It's very much as if they each contribute to and are in fact are amplified
by one another.
And
that "larger concept" is, in case you haven't figured it out, HOW TO BE A GREAT
MAN.
And
GREAT MEN attract and deserve GREAT WOMEN.
What
it all comes down to is this: A GREAT
WOMAN wants a man who has his part covered so that she can be FREED UP to be
the feminine woman she was born to be.
You make her feel like a woman, and you are that man.
Miss
out on that, and it's back to sitting around figuring out how two neuter
creatures are supposed to attract each other…which of course is a pointless
exercise. Unless, of course, you're
okay with a neuter woman. Or one who
"wears the pants".
But
I'm telling you, show me a woman who "wears the pants" and I'll show you a
BITTER woman, not a BETTER woman.
So
why make her do both jobs? Why make her
fulfill upon the masculine and the feminine?
Or
are you really okay with having the feminine part covered yourself?
If
so, good luck with that.
But
my vision for you is much, much more noble than that. All you have to do is visualize it for yourself.
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