men and wives want to know. Why do men cros dress? Why does my boyfriend wear woman's clothes? How can I make him less trangendered? The unfortunate truth, is that there isn't easy, one line answer to these questions. If there were, you wouldn't be wearing a skirt, and the debates on this topic would be silent. In my own life, the obsession with woman's clothes started when I was still a child. I must have been about four years old, and I remember going to risky lengths to look for and then wear my mother's clothes. My most clear memory is as a teenager, nervously buying a pair of stockings from a local supermarket and then wearing them home under my pants. I felt (and still feel) a need to wear woman's clothes, and I can't quite explain where it comes from. The Christians like to think of crossdresing as a abomination, and so naturally they see the desire to be a transvestite and purely for sexual excitement. The trouble with this theory is that when I (and many others) first felt the desire to crosdress I didn't know what sex was. Many cross dressers I've asked justify the need as 'feeling more comfortable wearing woman's clothes'. This is sometimes (but not always) coupled with the desire to appear as a woman. To not just dress like a woman, but act like one as well, to wear make-up and otherwise pass as a lady. There are others who cross dres for sexual excitement. The need to cross dress is indeed a spectrum. That still doesn't answer the question why do men cross dress? Marcy proposes a few interesting ideas to this questions. One line of reasoning is that transvestism of cross-dressing is a way of offering a challenge to society's preconceptions about gender. Some males crossdress because they are sad at being men. Others didn't mind the male state, but also like to put on women's clothes occasionally. Some men wear ladies clothes simply to make a passing social or fashion statement, and some because they have emotional needs that can only be met by the joy that wearing ladies clothes gives them. Yet the true answer why guys crosdress remains somewhat of a unknown. It is intensely personal, often confusing and sometimes guilt ridden. I'm hopeful that as this country grows more tolerant of diverse gender identity we will see more cross dressers and transgendered stepping forward to share their stories. Without the need to justify their behavior, and no longer cast out by society perhaps we will be better able to answer this necessary question. Comment and let me know, I would love to hear- why do you cross dress? cross dresser ---------- Vanessa is a cross dress living in Seattle. She provides tips and tricks for cros dressers. cross dresser
Vanessa is a transgendered person who gets joy from helping others in the transgender community accept themselves.Her website is Cross Dresser Heaven
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