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Just what are the cheating signs? When you are considering if someone is cheating, and you suspect it strongly enough to evaluate your situation, always take your time. I'm not one to tell people what to do, but jumping to conclusions based on gossip, or jealous feelings you have, or insecurities, could be a fatal mistake.
However, there are signs are based on behaviour patterns that are common in cheating boyfriends, (girlfriends). You are not alone if you are living with a no show, there are others out there going through what you are going through. The scariest thing about the no shows, is that they usually turn out to be cheaters, hiding the fact that they are living with you, or married to you, and are constantly on the prowl for prospects, while still landing in your bed. For ease of reading and typing, we are using the ‘he' and it's understood that it's he or she.
Here is a list of the signs of a living with a no show, that's running around behind your back.
The number one sign.
He's come down with a venereal disease and the origin of where it came from can't be explained.
He's come down with the crabs, four times in the last year.
Ok that's a bit extreme, but I know of cases where's that's happened, and it turned out to be with a hooker.
If your putting up with a ‘No Show' they most likely will..
Disappear for days or weeks at a time with lame explanations on where they are going, and where they've been.
They are always vague about when they are coming back.
When asked with who they went away with, they give generalized replies like, out with the guys (gals).
I was with my friends.
Give lame excuses like. Can't I have friends, do you have to control every move I make.
When they start turning it around and try to make you feel bad for asking, they are shielding guilt.
* When you are living with someone, who is constantly disappearing, takes three hours to go to the corner store, and comes back without the bread. You have every right to question them, and they have no right to turn it around on you.
They become unreliable, and leave at late hours of the evening, and either don't come back at all, or stroll in when the sun's coming up.
They make unusual coming and goings into a pattern.
They offer lame excuses or become angry, defensive and offensive when you question their where-abouts.
They spend excess amount of money, on splurges that don't exist, or they are defensive about explaining, and try attacking you for medial spendings.
Their clothes smell like women's (mens) fragrance.
They work late, practically every night of the week.
They are always cranky and unappreciative of what you do.
They've lost interest in what you want to talk about.
They don't have time to take you out anymore.
The phone rings, and they take the call outside, or are whispering when you walk by, and hang up on the person they are talking to.
They suddenly are secretive.
They are hiding condoms in your fireplace, when he is fixed and you don't use them as a couple. * Yes that happened to one of my clients.
They make you feel like you are not there, and wouldn't care if you were.
Living with a "No Show' is a tell-a-tale way of deciphering if you are living with a cheating spouse or partner. For the rest of your life, you may never prove they are cheating. You can forget about catching him in the act, forget about getting him to admit it, nine times out of ten you will never prove it. They will always deny it, and give you lame excuses. They will fill your head with lies. Cheaters are good at smooth talking. Unless you hire a private detective and have them followed, the only thing you can do, is what your heart tells you.
If you are living with a cheater, what they are doing shows lack of respect to you, and hunny that's all the proof you need. If you aren't happy in your relationship, and they are cheating, that means they aren't happy either. You could seek marriage counselling, sometimes it helps to get things out in the open. If it's an abusive relationship, it can also make them more bitter. Especially if they don't want to come out looking like the bad guy.
If it's becoming a common commodity, why should you put up with it? It could endanger you and if you have children's health. If you don't have children, you could end up pregnant and it would harder to get out. If you have children with them, what he/she dishes out, and what you take is teaching the children that life is supposed to be that way. You also owe it to the children to have a happier life, and living in a place of sadness is not a happy stable home for kids. Kids thrive on love first, nice things second.
This article is in no way intended to sway your thoughts to think he might be cheating. Or to make you think you need to end your relationship. I don't pretend to tell any of my clients what to do. I can only provide clues, that others' have shared with me over the years, and relate them to you, to let you know that you are not going through it alone. That others have walked these paths, and put up with the things that are listed above.
In life the choices are yours, and yours alone. You can always talk with your girls, tell them what you feel. Make notes of what you want out of life, and love. Are you getting what you need. Are you truly happy. Is he happy?
Discovering if you are the other woman, is in one of my articles, and I felt it only fair to write the signs to tell if you are the married wife, or partner of the one who's doing all the leg work with bed buddies. The wife's always the last to know, and sometimes she never really gets the whole story, or her fears were dismissed soo many times, that she begins to doubt herself, and think maybe she is insecure and jealous.
Good luck with your decisions, and I trust you will follow your heart.
Thanks for stooping by.
Written by: Sacreeta
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