Using rejection lines is pretty much the norm when it comes to breaking up with someone with whom you've been intimate with, and in a relationship with when you no longer wish for it to continue.
First of all, you don't want to hurt their feelings.
Second of all, you don't want them to hate you.
And Thirdly, you just want to make a clean break, so you both can move on with your lives.
I compiled a list of not so Anti-Love lines, but more of grown-up adult ways of letting someone go, in making a clean break from the relationship. These are not suggestions, but more of the commonly used rejection lines, with explanations geared toward the rejector, and rejectee, so they can better understand what's going on.. Sometimes having them translated helps in understanding what they meant. No one likes to be left hanging, wondering if the person is coming back. Wondering what they did wrong. Wondering if they did things differently. People when they are being broken up with need closure. Sometimes it's not possible to get it through to them. They are too upset, they are angry with you for breaking up with them. Or they are trying to hard to convince you to change your mind. In some cases if you feel it's endangering you physically, then it's best not to bother with explanations, and just make a clean break.
Here's the 10 most popular rejections lines, that are non cliché, but sure are cheesy. They are not suggestions, they are explanations of why people say them, and what they mean by it.
10. I'm sorry, we did the best we could, but this just isn't working out.
Trans: I needed to get to know you, and discovered you're not the one. We both aren't happy and deserve to be, so I want to keep looking.
*If you are fed this line, accepting that the relationship is going no where and one of you had the sense to end it before you ended up making serious mistakes, and wasting precious years is something to be thankful about. Just remember it is wise not to let them back, you don't want to end up in a yo-yo love affair that will break your heart over and over, and keep you from finding your one true love.
9. I just don't feel the same about you as I did. I'm sorry, but it's over.
Trans: Regrettably this relationship isn't bringing all that we hoped, and although it's not our fault, I can't in good conscious stay in it..
*This line is basically telling you that it's good to try different relationships. That's how you learn what you like and don't like. There is nothing wrong with either of you, learning and testing waters is how we grow. Chop it up to learning experience, and make notes of your own. Things about them that didn't sit right with you. NEVER worry about what they didn't like about you, the right person will love everything about you. You are fine the way you are, you just weren't right as a couple.
8. We haven't been happy for a long time, for both of our sakes, I think we should go out separate ways.
Trans: We aren't compatible, and are starting to hate each other for that. It's time to get over it before we both do and say things we'll regret.
*Yes this is a wise break-up line. They are indicating to you that the relationship is about to turn ugly, and they to end it peacefully before that happens. The line between love and hate can so easily be crossed. This person is telling you that the bickering, fighting, and constant struggle isn't getting either of you anywhere, and they just want to start over. Let them move out of your orbit, and find peace again. Before you end up regretting your actions, words, and getting caught up in the hate that will consume your lives, and everyone in reach of it..
7. I really like you, you are a wonderful person, I just can't commit with you, it wouldn't be right.
Trans: We're both too young to get soo serious, we both need to explore and enjoy life. But I'll never forget you.
*This person is trying to politely tell you to get lost. They want to party, want bed buddies, and wants to be free from responsibility. You'd be wise to let them out of your orbit, and go and have fun, too. It's possible they are too young, or both of you, they have dreams in their life, they need to find themselves, and if they don't try they will end up hating you, resenting taking on too much responsibility at the wrong time. They are doing you a favour by being honest with you, and deep down maybe you feel the same things, but were afraid to admit it. Or maybe you love them enough to let them go. Or maybe, you will save yourself a whole lot of heart-ache, because they aren't done being wild yet, and you could end up being a casualty.
Atleast they are being honest with you, and letting you go to find your path, and not stringing you along, while they do it behind your back.
6. "Get Bent. And I hate your dog."
Trans: I'm adding insult to injury to make sure you get the point, I am not playing games, get it through your head, it's over.
This is a break-up line that is crossing the hate line. It's been used, and it's not the nicest line, but it's affective. It's intended for people who wont' take the hint, for people who being polite to, will cling to any one kind word and keep bugging you.
For people who use this line, they usually are sick of the other persons addictions, like alcohol, drugs, or womanizing (or oppo), catching them in one too many lies, maybe they are a no show, running around but they can't prove it. This person keeps hurting them, and they keep forging them, and the cycle doesn't stop. What ever the reasons, people who are doing the breaking up, will add something they've always wanted to say to you, but didn't say it to your face. Like they hate your dog. It sort of translates into. I hate the little things about you, and I was only pretending, and I can't take it anymore, so there. It also, adds a little edge of insult, to make sure the person doesn't pursue them for a make-up.
If you are fed this statement. Relax, they don't really hate your dog, they only want to make it clear they are serious about getting you out of their orbit, and usually the next step is a restraining order, so wake up, they don't want you around anymore. So take the hint, lose the number, don't walk down their street, show up at their work, or go where they frequent. Just get on with your life, and find someone else, who accepts you for who you are.
5. This is final, it's over, don't come back, stay out of my orbit-you jerk.
Trans: I'm sick of dealing with your tricks, so get out of my life.
This line is usually said by chicks, cause guys don't normally call girls jerks. If you are fed this line, she probably caught you cheating, or hitting on other girls, or being insensitive to her feelings. Buck it up dude, she's pissed, and there's nothing you can do about it. So move on, date someone else.
4. "I'm breaking up with you right now, pack up your stuff, and get out of my life. And I hate your car."
Trans: This person has crossed over to the hate side, and you'd be wise not to argue with them.
Putting it bluntly sometimes is the only way to get the point across. Especially if the other person has been breaking your heart over and over, and are using your kindness to keep walking all over you. Letting your bitch out when needed, sometimes is necessary, especially when a restraining order is crossing your mind. You are doing them a favour to let them know, you aren't taking it anymore.
3. I could lie and tell you it's me, but it's really you.
Trans: Although cheesy, they are trying to tell you the truth. They aren't happy being with you in a relationship, and they want out.
If you are fed this line, don't worry, it's nothing you did. Don't spend your time wondering what you did wrong, what you could have done better. Dating is all about testing out in the sharing of time with someone to see if it turns into something serious inside your heart. You are not always going to be with the right person, and if they are to the point that they feel you are not the right person for them, than you'd be wise to accept that. Mind you that line is blunt and rude, and if they use that on you, you are better off without them. They are insensitive. And be happy that you didn't end up spending years getting to that point of being resented, or ending up in a bitter divorce. Atleast they set you free, to find someone who's good for you, and someone who's good for them.
2. I really need to go find myself, and I can't do that when you keep telling me what to do. So I'm leaving you.
Trans: I am so sick of you trying to control me that I no longer care if I hurt your feelings, I am leaving you. And I'm not coming back.
When you get dumped in such a blunt and insensitive way, it would be wise not to stand in their way. This person obviously discovered that the relationship is standing in the way of what they want to do with their life, and they can't take it anymore. They must be feeling that you are in some way, conscious or not, discouraging them from pursuing what they want in life. Tyring to keep them after that, would only cause them to resent you further. It's a lost cause, so suck it up, and move on. Maybe this relationship was getting in your way, but you were the only one willing to make the sacrifice. People who are young, have a shelf life on that youth, and they are seeing that it's being taken away from them, by doing what you want in life. It's ok for them to want something different. It will hurt you to let them go, but if you love them, then you would support them, and wish them well. And go find someone who wants what you do, in life.
1. I do love you, but I want to see what else life has to offer.
Trans: I realize we are too young to move so fast, we need to live life before we make serious commitments, or serious mistakes.
If you are given this line, know it doesn't mean that you don't mean anything to them. They are being mature and looking at life realistically. You only have a once in a lifetime opportunity to be young, and pursue your career goals, your travelling dreams, or climb that mountain, before you commit to marriage, kids, a mortgage. Taking that on too young sometimes can lead to a lifetime of regret, and if that person foresees that as a disaster, and wants to duck out before either of you can back out, or create a past that you can't change, then let them go. And go off on your own, and climb your own mountains. Maybe someday, your paths will meet again, you'll both be older and wiser, and maybe you'll end up together. Maybe you won't. But you'll both be thankful for the adventures that you might otherwise of not had,
Reasoning with someone you are breaking up with can be difficult. Usually it's a one sided thing, although, if there is a problem that is strong enough to make you want to end it, then somewhere deep down they feel it, too. Being honest is far better than tossing them aside, disappearing and avoiding the issue. You have been in a grown up relationship, and you need to end it in a grown up manner. Tell them what it is that you are feeling, but don't be harsh about it. Just tell the truth.
One of the important things about breaking up with someone, is not to leave them hanging. Try not to lead them on, and wait for you, by giving them false hope that you will get back together. That leaves you a loophole to come back if your other prospects don't turn out, and that's what snakes do. Don't be a dating snake, if you aren't that into them, then give them the chance to find someone who would be. If you are ending it, then end it, but don't tell them you're taking a break, or you want some space. Be honest. Holding them back and wasting their time is unfair.
Remember when you break-up with them, there's no turning back, they could find someone new the same day, and you could spend the rest of your life regretting it. So make your choices wisely, and never on a spur of the moment. Think it through, maybe you misunderstood something, or maybe you don't talk about your feelings. Sometimes a simple conversation can clear things up and make your relationship stronger. And sometimes it's delaying the inevitable. If you are the to the point that you are contemplating going behind their back and dating others, than you were right in the first place to consider breaking up with them. Good for you. It's better to just let them go and do what you want with your life, then to keep them hanging on, just to avoid hurting their feelings. It's far worse to catch a cheat, and eventually you will get caught. Then it makes everything worse.
Good luck with all your choices, be good.
By Sacreeta
