Suffering in Silence while dating a No Show? List of 50 + ways to read the signs of a cheating lover.

Smooth talking cheaters are hard to catch, here's some of the common signs and clues, that he/she is unfaithful.

A lot of people who are into the dating scene, aren't going to settle with the first person who comes along. They might test out how things work with one, change their mind, casually date a few people, and avoid anything serious until they are ready for commitment. There's nothing wrong with that, as long as you're upfront about it.

Gaining experience with other people is good for you, you learn what it's like to be with different types of people, you learn what you like, and don't' like. Don't take rejection too seriously if you are new to the dating game, so what if you are not someone's type. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you , or them, it just means that they are into different things. It's not the end of the world to not be compatible with someone, so move on and find someone else. An early rejection is a good thing, it saves you both a lot of time and heart break.

Not everyone on the dating scene is sincere. That's not a shock, but when you run into a real pro, it's difficult to see what they don't want you to see. Sometimes we only see what we want to see. Usually they find you, will pursue you to no end.. No matter how you reject them, they see it as a challenge, and pursue you all the more. Then when you give in, they become aloof.

By this time, you have become attracted to them, you want to be with them, but the signals you are getting from them are confusing you. That's when it's time to take step back from the situation and go over in your head what the signs are that's bugging you.

This article is geared toward detecting the no shows, and I have a list of signs that you should be aware of. In the list, I am using a He, Him, and His for examples.. but please note that it is also a She, Her, so let's say that's understood.

Firstly, what is a no show?

1. Someone who constantly is standing you up.
2. Someone who disappears for unaccounted hours, days or weeks at time and has nothing but lame excuses for it.
3. You never hear from them inbetween, unless you call them, on their cell phone, and they always rush you off the phone.
4. They rush into your life, and out, and make it a habit, but contribute nothing to your life other than in the bedroom.

Even though it hurts to believe it, no shows have no respect for you, and nine times out of ten they are using you. Either as a back up plan when their recent prospect didn't pan out, or they just want a bed buddy, without coming out and telling you that.

There are prowlers out there in the dating market that like to have multiple partners, and don't want them to know about each other. They are usually in a serious relationship with one girl (For this article I'm using men as an example, sorry guys had to pick one, and no girls not ALL guys are like that, most of them are sincere and will treat you the way they want to be treated.) and will have a girl on every corner that don't know about the others.

Clues to discovering if they are a No Show?

Here's a list of the warning signs that he/she is cheating. Ask yourself these questions.

One first clue, is that they never want to take you out in public. If you do go somewhere, it's to a remote location, where neither of you know anyone.

If your relationship has gone on for over six months to a year.. And?

1. You never meet his friends.
2. You don't know where he lives.
3. You don't have his home phone number.
4. If you do txt message with him, he will go for days or weeks and not reply.
5. He's asked you not to email him cute lovey messages.
6. If he's chatted with you, he tries to turn it into a cheap sex chat, and gets quickly bored and hangs up if you try to talk about your life, or you.
7. You never see him online, and if you do, it's brief or they quickly go offline.
8. He always wants to be at your place.
9. He always seems to feel the need to tell you that he's a "Nice Guy." That's something that should be apparent and after being with you for a time, is something you figure out for yourself.
10. He tells you he's coming on Friday, and you see him two weeks later on a Friday.
11. His excuse for not showing up, is that he always busy, busy, busy.
12. Huge spaces between his visits become a pattern, like twice a month, with lame excuses for why you haven't seen him.
13. He becomes predictable in not showing up when he tells you he is coming.
14. He comes and goes at unusual times of the day. Keeping a watch on the clock, as if he has to be somewhere.
15. He won't accept anything from you, and won't take anything with him when he leaves.
16. He won't talk on his cell phone if you are in the room. He will go outside, close the door, or take off on you during the conversation.
17. His excuse for not introducing you to his friends is, he doesn't want them to steal you away.
18. He doesn't want to meet your friends, family, and he leaves fast if any of them show up when he's at your house.
19. All he wants to do is be serviced when he's with you, and gets quickly bored, or leaves when you want to discuss your life or what matters to you.
20. He never supports you when you need it.
21. He is rude and arrogant to you, and has no consideration for your feelings, or circumstances.
22. He is really smooth talking and you get the feeling that he's said those lines before, because they come out so easily.
23. The same goes for the way he handles you.
24. If you run into him at a public place, and he's with another woman, he avoids you.
25. Later when you question him about seeing him with another woman, he tells you that he has female friends and gets very defensive with you, to the point of insulting you.
26. He wont' tell you about his family, or his personal life.
27. He never spends the night, and leaves shortly after getting what he came for.
28. Sometimes he forgets your name, and he calls you a nickname to compensate.
29. He totally evades the camera.
30. Sometimes in the middle of the night he will call you, or show up drunk, rambling on about things you don't understand, and you have a hard time getting rid of him.
31. That is the only time he ever calls.
32. He has never said, I love you. Or any sentiments along those lines.
33. He's never given you a birthday present, Christmas present, and laughs off your thoughts of an anniversary of any of your firsts together.
34. If he does give you gifts they are elaborate, inappropriate to the celebration, and you get the feeling that he is compensating for something.
35. You will not see him on his birthday, Christmas Day, Easter Sunday or any day that's significant..
36. He just vanishes and you almost forget he's in your life, and then he shows up unexpectedly. He always shows up unexpectedly.
37. When he shows up he is lovey dovey, and wanting only your body, getting right down to business, with little to no small talk.
38. After he's gotten what he came for, he whips out a lame excuse and is gone for another two weeks.
39. He never shows up when you invite him out for drinks with your friends, and you spend the night longing, waiting, hoping.
40. He is defensive about the word commitment and uses fear of commitment as an excuse to keep you at a distance from his life.
41. When you ask him if he sees other people, he laughs it off and puts himself down, as if no other woman would want him. Hunny if you do, they do.
42. If he finally takes you to his place, after months of your asking to see where he lives, there are no pictures, the place barren, and there is no one there. He lets the answering machine pick up, he doesn't answer the door, and he only entertains with you in the late hours, rushing you out the door before morning.
43. After letting you know where he lives, he forbids you to visit him without being invited, with lame excuses that he likes his privacy.
44. If you do show up at his place announced, he seems anxious, frustrated and angry with you for being there.
45. If he drives by you on a busy street, and he isn't alone in his vehicle he will pretend he didn't see you when you wave.
46. He will never tell you who was in the vehicle with him.
47. If you are driving along and you see his vehicle parked somewhere, you've learned to keep driving, getting knots in your stomach that he will become angry with you for checking up on him.
48. He could be living with his parents.. unlikely. You've never heard him talk about who he lives with, and anything you know, is what you assume.
49. When you are intimate, he prefers vulgar language to romantic lines, and shuns you when you try to say things like making love-- and corrects you, that's it's got nothing to do with love.
50. What this boils down to.
51. He will never admit what he's up to, no matter what you do or confront him on, you all but give up trying because he's too smooth with words.
52. Deep down you feel like you are his private affair and he doesn't want anyone to know about you.
53. You fear that you are endangering your health by sleeping with someone who seems like he sleeps around. But you can't get a straight answer from him.
54. Before you met him, you'd think that you were worth more than that, and now you start to question even that.
55. Deep down you know he will keep doing that until you stand up for yourself and move on. But you can't get a straight answer from him, and you like being with him so much you are afraid that he really will leave you.
56. If you did run into one of his friends, they'd probably tell you the truth, and he will say that they are jealous, and are trying to ruin what he has. And you are stuck between do you believe him, or a stranger. And think, really, they both are strangers.

That's all I have for the list for now, but there is more, I will be updating at a later date.

One more thing, if you feel that your lover is a no show, I do have another article on suggestions on what to do, as in helping yourself.

It was just too long for this article, so I broke it into a part two.

 You can help yourself when living with a no show cheat.

Peace be with you,

by: Sacreeta

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